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RE: Far from being a slave? - 9/28/2008 4:56:04 PM

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You can't possibly be as far from being a slave as he is from being a Master.
The term you need to apply here is wanker. Say it loudly three times, there, now you know.

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RE: Far from being a slave? - 9/28/2008 4:58:18 PM

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And I'll bet that other slave he speaks of doesn't exist, either.

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RE: Far from being a slave? - 9/28/2008 6:38:23 PM

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And I'll bet that other slave he speaks of doesn't exist, either.

You know, I have often thought that. I mean he has pictures of her on his profile, but her profile no pics. I am starting to wonder if this guy has personality issues. I have thought a few times he was just posing that he had a slave. My opinion only though.

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RE: Far from being a slave? - 9/28/2008 6:56:10 PM

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He peeked my profile...lol... so I looked at his slaves profile. The journal entry for today was about submission NOT being a gift.
This person is a real goof ball. And doubt this slave even exist. That is why I posted again.
I appreciate everyones input. I am moving on out.......lol

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RE: Far from being a slave? - 9/29/2008 1:22:55 AM

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Well - you aren't a slave - to him.

That's right.

He has to earn the right to be dominant, the trust.

You may be a slave, but you're not a doormat.

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RE: Far from being a slave? - 9/29/2008 3:26:16 AM

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Most people make no distinction between 'mentor', 'trainer', and 'sex partner'. Many disguise the wish for sex inside these things. It's the same thing as dating...some men will pretend to want the relationship in order to get the sex they want. Most don't realize that, in this lifestyle, the more honest they are about what they want, the more likely they are to get it.

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RE: Far from being a slave? - 9/29/2008 4:46:53 AM

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Ive been a mentor quite a few times, and one thing I have never done, is engage in sexual activities with whom I am mentoring. A mentor is someone you are learning from, and being a Mentor means you are taking a duty of care to prepare someone for an eventual relationship most likely with someone else. As a mentor I have been a contact point for the sub/slave and perspective Doms/Masters, where I will show her the emails I have recieved and we have gone though them, so she can learn what to look for. When it came to doing things, its about education, explaining safety, exploring ones own limits ect, or general obedience. Defiance was met by looking at the cause of defiance, and how best to either remove it...or use it for her future partners entertainment.

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RE: Far from being a slave? - 9/29/2008 6:58:29 AM

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*laughs* That's ok. I'm far from being a master too. Maybe we should start a thread for all of us posers and wannabes?

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RE: Far from being a slave? - 9/29/2008 7:20:11 AM

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This is a might comical...

I guess, on one hand, you might say he is far from being a Dom. Most of the "good ones" I have met seem to have quite a lot more patience than he was willing to give.

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Imaginary slaves are in this year it would seem. ;D

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RE: Far from being a slave? - 9/29/2008 12:46:18 PM

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Well, I could be wrong, but a mentor does not show pictures of his slave engaging in sexual activities. When he started doing this I got a bit nervous and was wondering his motives. I like what Anubicdarque said as well. Maybe this special Dom will peek this post

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RE: Far from being a slave? - 9/29/2008 2:51:20 PM

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Seems to me there is gross mis-conception on the part of the Diminant regarding what a "mentor" is and is not. For starters, a mentor does not have the same rights that would be given to and, perhaps, even assumed by a Master. you're not asking for his collar; just his advice and guidance. Where does he get off *assuming* that acting in this capacity alone would give him any right to share you with other Dominant friends of his, much less the obvious notion that there would be sex involved at all?

Again, keeping in mind that your intent was to have someone to advice and guide you and not to *rule* you as i understand the matter... Where does he garner the right even to pose an order such as bedtime?

Nope. After reading your posts and giving a bit of my own thought...i'd have to say he's just another dyed-in-the-wool "Diminant". (That wasn't just a typo in my first sentence.) What is a Diminant you may ask? By my definition, a Diminant is one who thinks that because he/she identifies him/herself as a "Dom" anyone who identifies him/herself as sub/slave *must* obey their every command "just because".

Not a slave? As the others have stated in this thread: "not *his* slave". And you should be damned proud for being so smart. ;-)

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RE: Far from being a slave? - 9/29/2008 2:58:12 PM

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Dont listen to that silly boy anymore okay? you are better than that of course. Titles are so easy to assume of course here and in real life. Of course keep looking and you will find the right mentor for you.

They mentor/Dom/Master wants only the best for their person....and the Real ones take a huge pride in what those serving them accomplish. Sex is not required but is a special gift when earned. I take the most pride when my slave moves on to the next level.

We are all people and until you find the right one for you....hold your nose and step over(not in) those that contact you!

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RE: Far from being a slave? - 9/29/2008 6:09:57 PM

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subeos> Turn in your slave card please. After reviewing the complaints filed against you, we will need to refund your application monies and remove you from the register.

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RE: Far from being a slave? - 9/29/2008 8:03:11 PM

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Dear subeos, Ladies and Gentlemen;

In my observations through your account of how things take place; I can agree with the majority when they have said that he (the gentleman who you were dealing with) - is not your Master and you aren't his slave--yet, you still identify as a slave.

Unfortunately, too many times people get wrapped up into their own views and definitions as to what is a slave to them and or what would be a Master/Mistress in their own views and defining labels. But, do not permit the same courtesy to others. Your way wrong-my way right.

I would like to offer for consideration, that the community at large is made up of a variety of individuals to whom define their individual relationships--regardless how wrong it may be for others. Those who do not conform to the "personalized labels/definitions of what a Master/Mistress/slave; Dominant/submissive, etc." will always be subjected to critisism. It is unfortunate but, normal. What should be considered is the fact that the both of you were a bad fit for one another. There can be good people on both sides of this issue, to which the 'peanut gallery' to which forums cannot help but be--due to the forum like nature and not being there to see both sides of the story played out. There doesn't need to always have to be a bad guy/gal to explain how things didn't work out.

Being pompus or being confident; often are behaviors that labels are affixed to. It depends on a person's perception of what that person may be. This is the difficulity in being just a reader of posts and not a witness to your event.

That said--There will be more 'misses' as far as hooking up with a person that meets your standards of what a Master/Dominant may be/can be/would be. The same can be said for those looking for a slave.

Unfortunately, Masters/Mistress/Dominants have the same problem as you, dear lady. So many speak of their claims of being slave, submissive, servant and such. Both sides of the whip must endure the long process of weeding through the many individuals, who come with their own personal flavors as to what a Master-slave relationship is for them. How you or they fit into the total picture; determines if it is the correct match for you; as well as them. Both parties need to be happy or its just not 'a good match.' This is why you could be an excellent match for "Master A." Be a so-so match for "Master G." and be a lousy match for "Master X." It doesn't mean you are a bad person -- just a bad match.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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