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tsatske -> RE: Please help me understand why... (9/28/2008 5:50:15 PM)
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yea, i think when he says, 'does nothing for you', he was soft-peddling it. I suspect he meant - 'you find it hurtful and offensive, it is damaging to you, interfers with the dynamic for you, and you had talked to D and basicly called it a limit'. In that case, yea, big red flag.
I like getting called a slut. It is Master's love name for me. When he wants coffee, He yells from his office, 'Slut!' When we are at the munch, he introduces me as his slut. But, he knows this is a love name for me and I am fine with it.
OTOH, I have a 14 y.o. persona as one of my age play littles. She does NOT like being called a slut - you will get a 14 y.o. in tears. He never calls me slut when I am 'in' her.
There is a woman who attends our munch who has talked before about names. She says she is fine with slut, but cunt has history for her - it is what her vanilla ex-husband called her, she says, until she 'would have had to look at my drivers licence to remeber i ever had another name.' It is so hurtful to her that she can not even now, utter the word herself. She says her ex called her 'cut up but not tied, if you know what i mean.' She started out explaining that the difference was the terms, and I told her, no, it wasn't. My last Master's pet name for me was slavecunt, and I loved it. The difference is the way it is said, and with what intent.
but no matter the intent. no thoughtful Master would go (IMO) calling her cunt, unless they were carefully working on dealing with her issue with it. To just use the name like he might with someone else, without care and ect, ect - would be a red flag. I believe that is the kind of thing that D.S. is saying.
Of course, the OP gave us so little info, we don't know if she has a Master who is doing this - a Master who is calling her things because she hasn't expressed that it is hurtful to her - or just saw somoene else and was offended by somoene elses dynamic.
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