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What BDSM means to you - 8/2/2004 4:25:17 PM

lara

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Recently i was asked the question what does BDSM mean to you. I found it hard to answer this questions, thinking of the many variables, and interests in BDSM, i was wondering what BDSM means to others? For me it is a giving to please.

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RE: What BDSM means to you - 8/2/2004 4:37:40 PM

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lara,

I assume you want personal definitions not ones that encompass all perspectives. (For the Eskimo perspective ask an Eskimo. For the Methodist perspective ask a Methodist. I feel no compulsion to consider the methodist Eskimo perspective no matter how compelling it is.

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I am a sub/slave male. I want love. My fetish is her. (Yes her fetishes must match mine or I won't fall in love with her.) What I treasure most is honesty, both with herself and with me. I can't give her what I do not know about.

Oh, incase anyone is curious, yes I will have a broken heart when Lady Beckett is done with me. Yes, broken hearts heal. (Ask me if I'm over DommeOfThunder?

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RE: What BDSM means to you - 8/2/2004 4:47:51 PM

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ORIGINAL: lara

Recently i was asked the question what does BDSM mean to you.

It means bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadomasochism. At least that's what it means to me. Lately I've heard people seperating the d/s component out of the acronym and using bdsm to refer only to "play" and suggesting that the origins of the acronym didn't include d/s. That differs from how I learned the term, though.

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RE: What BDSM means to you - 8/2/2004 8:30:47 PM

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BDSM= S/M=Sado/Masochism, D/s=Dominant/submissive and B/D=Bondage/Discipline.

To me means tons of things

i think there are many different forms of BDSM, it is the exchange of power. One person (the "bottom" or "submissive") is choosing to allow the other person (the "top" or "dominant") to have control over him or her in some way-- Rather it be in D/s, S/M, B/D or all.

to me a short definition would be "power exchange"

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RE: What BDSM means to you - 8/2/2004 8:45:01 PM

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The simple answer to this question would be that BDSM is representative of a Lifestyle of choices, as individual as those who choose them. My particular choice within that Lifestyle is D/s, and it is as much a part of my life as eating, sleeping, bathing, etc.

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Oh, incase anyone is curious, yes I will have a broken heart when Lady Beckett is done with me.

Don't quit taking your "Shark's Cartilage", boy. lol I won't be "done" with you anytime soon.

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RE: What BDSM means to you - 8/2/2004 10:02:51 PM

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No one can answer what it means to you. That's a personal thing.

To me, it's one more aspect in finding someone I click with. BDSM is one more element in the whole thing. If I found someone I really clicked with I could forget BDSM entirely. It's an element, not the entire package. I've thought that by starting at one point (BDSM in this case) eventually the others would fall into place. Besides, you have to start somewhere.

Anyway, that maybe confusing, but that's what it means to me at this point. I like it but there is a lot more to my life.

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RE: What BDSM means to you - 10/14/2004 9:35:28 AM

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I admire your response Lady to what BDSM means. It is a life choice exactly and nothing more. It has rules a slave and also a Mistress follow. More like moral rules for it is a lifestyle.

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RE: What BDSM means to you - 10/14/2004 10:01:01 AM

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Greetings,

Hmm, what does BDSM mean to me? To me, and only me, with all dictionary definitions aside...

It means that i've finally found a balance to my life. i have found a means in which to become comfortable in my natural servitude, compassion & intuition. i've found a way to express these compulsions in a healthy manner to a Person who understands, appreciates, cultivates & guards these qualities within me. It means that i don't have to expect to be used and taken for granted when i freely give that which comes naturally to me.

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RE: What BDSM means to you - 10/14/2004 1:18:23 PM

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I'll have a bash. (colloquialisms are from Merseyside, whisper if you do not understand).

I'm an extreme sensualist aka masochist, however, I am also submissive for some women.

B is for bondage, and I need it to be extreme, really tight, so that I am unable to move, unable to escape, and totally vulnerable.

D is for dominant, but not all dominants can control me, she who shall be obeyed has 'command presence' and she does not need to speak, she merely needs to be somewhere near me, and I shall feel her power and strength.

S is for submissive, and I submit to her who has the power over me, I give her my strength, my mind, my pride and all that is me, I give her my heart and all my vulnerabilities, I hide nothing from her and she may stamp on my heart and destroy me emotional and psychologically and I shall praise her for it.

S is for sadist, and she who shall be obeyed enjoys being sadistic in a safe, sane and consenting sense, and knows that I enjoy what she does to me. She who shall be obeyed usually has a nursing background and knows how tough the human body is, and how quickly a fit body heals.

M is for masochist, also known as extreme sensualist, I give my body to her as a gift, as a human sacrifice, to my goddess to my matron. I give all that I am to her so that she may do with me as she wishes. I trust her, and know her power. I spread myself for her pleasure, for her control.

All that I am in real life, every experience, every idea, every thought, I give to my Matron and I give my body, in all of its nakedness for her pleasure and for control.

In my submission I ask nothing in return.

In my sexuality I ask for games and fetishes, and my Matron grants me these because they excite her as well.

This is about as close as I can come to a definition of BDSM.

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RE: What BDSM means to you - 10/14/2004 5:27:47 PM

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Hmmm, good question and one that you would almost think should have a generic across the board answer that all can agree upon. Kind of like, what color is the sky?... But then, like the sky its a fluid living thing. At Sunrise it may be reddish orange, alive and awakening, Noontime brings the heat and a beautiful cooling blue color to offest that heat. Sunset creeps up on us all with its deep purple hue signaling the end of another day. So if we cant agree on the color of the sky, how can we have but one defintion for this life that has chosen us. The answer - we can't. What is BDSM to me? It freedom, the freedom to be what I was meant to be and share that joyous life with someone that understand and respects me for it.

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RE: What BDSM means to you - 10/14/2004 9:09:08 PM

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This reminds the girl fo VFW essays from her youth on "what Freedom means to me" everyone has hit on her points, and in a nutshell it means how we fabricate our nest here. Now the one thing she will ask though is she always thought that literally they stood for
Bondage, Discipline, Sadism annd Masochism.....

and are also often split as D/s and S and M.

So then her question is what is the actual concrete anacronym definition if nto the above...inquiring mind wants to know?

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RE: What BDSM means to you - 10/14/2004 9:41:06 PM

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To me BDSM was the missing link in my life. I always knew something was missing but didn't know what until about 5yrs ago when i was introduced to it. I am so much more fulfilled now being in my proper place as a sub.

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RE: What BDSM means to you - 10/14/2004 10:17:07 PM

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BDSM means many things for me.

... means i am free to be me.
... means i am free to trust in myself in my acceptance and embracing, love and honor, and respect of the one i know as Master.
... means i am free to trust in my Master to accept and embrace, love and honor, and respect me for being me, while keeping O/our best interests at high priority.
... means i am free to offer to Him all of what it is that makes me a submissive female, serving Him in anyway that He deems as pleasing to Him, at anytime and in anyway that He may choose.

... BDSM means many things to me. i won't list them all (even if i could).

Mainly, BDSM has given me a new sense of freedom.

Finally someOne to share all of my sexual fantasies with, & all of my dreams .. someOne to share every late summer's eve sunset with ... or rainy days ... and One who can share any storms along the way and still be there for the next sunset ... SomeOne Who shares in all of my hopes for a joyous future ... together.

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RE: What BDSM means to you - 10/16/2004 12:27:09 PM

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