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Changing tolerance levels - 9/29/2008 12:47:29 PM

lusciouslips19

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When I got my first spanking 3 years ago. It glowed red and tingled for 3 days. Now that does not happen. It appears to have toughened up. however, 2 years ago, i was called a pain slut and now it seems my tolerance has gone down. I still get sexually excited by it, but at the same time i am wishing the pain would end. Its like I'm getting excited in spite of it hurting like hell. My nipples have got excruciatingly sensitive. I know for me certain times of the month I am more sensitive. Am I getting more sensitive to the pain because of nearing my later 40's?
i do enjoy the challenge of toughing it out, but I am happy when the challenge is over. Is this something others have experienced?

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RE: Changing tolerance levels - 9/29/2008 12:54:43 PM

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it isnt pain if you enjoy it...therefore tolerance level is meaningless because chances are you will not tell them to stop doing what they're doing...

unless of course your bleeding or passing out or something....

i never thought for the life of me that i could get up on a cross and be flogged by 2 people for an hour +...without serious issues due to my heart condition...but quite the opposite...it was like heaven...though later my circulation started being an issue..stopped immediately...(after an hour or so)

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RE: Changing tolerance levels - 9/29/2008 12:55:21 PM

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I'm always a wuss, but more so at certain times of the month.

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RE: Changing tolerance levels - 9/29/2008 1:01:07 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

When I got my first spanking 3 years ago. It glowed red and tingled for 3 days. Now that does not happen. It appears but but has toughened up. however, 2 years ago, i was called a pain slut and now it seems my tolerance has gone down. I still get sexually excited by it, but at the same time i am wishibg the pain would end. Its like I'm getting excited in spite of it hurting like hell. My nipples have got excruciatingly sensitive. I know for me certain times of the month I am more sensitive. Am I getting more sensitive to the pain because of nearing my later 40's?
i do enjoy the challenge of toughing it out, but I am happy when the challenge is over. Is this something others have experienced?

Definitely. When I first got into this and realized how much I loved pain Master was amazed that I never seemed to have a limit and would stop way before I was ready. I always craved more.
Now I do not have anything approaching the tolerance I use to. I'm not sure if age has anything to do with it or if it is because of work and the day to day of life that it doesn't happen as often as it did when we were first seeing each other.
I'm glad to know it isn't just me. Is there anything you do to help you tough it out or have you tried to see if more frequent sessions help build tolerance?? I've wondered about that. Great post.

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RE: Changing tolerance levels - 9/29/2008 1:02:27 PM

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Pain is pain - the only difference is how your body reacts to it. Pain hurts for me, but it also gets me ridiculously excited.

During a session I will often want nothing more than for it to stop...then as soon as it does, I want it to start again. I can't think of a session I've ever had, no matter how hard, where I haven't wanted it to just go on and on and....

And yes, I get more sensitive around my period. Nipples get extra sensitive, I need more of a warm-up to be able to tolerate the heavy stuff, and really stingy pain can make me want to pass out. But that just adds to the excitement!

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RE: Changing tolerance levels - 9/29/2008 1:07:28 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: scarlethiney

quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

When I got my first spanking 3 years ago. It glowed red and tingled for 3 days. Now that does not happen. It appears but but has toughened up. however, 2 years ago, i was called a pain slut and now it seems my tolerance has gone down. I still get sexually excited by it, but at the same time i am wishibg the pain would end. Its like I'm getting excited in spite of it hurting like hell. My nipples have got excruciatingly sensitive. I know for me certain times of the month I am more sensitive. Am I getting more sensitive to the pain because of nearing my later 40's?
i do enjoy the challenge of toughing it out, but I am happy when the challenge is over. Is this something others have experienced?

Definitely. When I first got into this and realized how much I loved pain Master was amazed that I never seemed to have a limit and would stop way before I was ready. I always craved more.
Now I do not have anything approaching the tolerance I use to. I'm not sure if age has anything to do with it or if it is because of work and the day to day of life that it doesn't happen as often as it did when we were first seeing each other.
I'm glad to know it isn't just me. Is there anything you do to help you tough it out or have you tried to see if more frequent sessions help build tolerance?? I've wondered about that. Great post.

scarlet

Well being verbal helps but I get in trouble for swearing. I did tell daddy that god,damn motherf**ker is not a safeword!

I say ease up, but I never say stop. Deep breathing and having a blindfold helps. Also builing up the pain so I can build up tolerance helps. Sometimes, hormonally nothing makes it better. Perhaps when I was new the adrenalinelevels of my body were higher. So much excitement back then!

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RE: Changing tolerance levels - 9/29/2008 1:11:40 PM

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im on a self imposed 28 day impact sabbatical. i dont mark as easily as a few months ago and i miss them terribly. Also, my tolerance level has decreased to the point where im judging myself.....and thats never good. (it is only 28 days now and if i went to sleep now....it would be 27 next i knew)

(btw...there is a pool started on how long into the sabbatical i can manage to get before begging for a beating....i have money on day 8 and day 30...just in case.)

Muscle changes over time and specific to repetitive activity....im assuming that i dont mark as i used to due to a tendency i have to be a playslut.

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RE: Changing tolerance levels - 9/29/2008 1:12:35 PM

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Hmmm, I was just thinking about this recently. It does seem that my tolerance to certain types of pain has gone down. I love a good spanking (all the while wishing for it to stop- I love the conflict within), but the biting has become excrutiating. Maybe because Master has been on a biting kick lately and my nipples never really do seem to heal. I find myself reduced to a begging, mindless mess whenever He even hovers over my breast with that look in His eye.

And forget just before my period- it's all too much - neurological overload.

It seems when I first started, I could take much more with crops and even canes. But maybe my "partners" back then were going easier because they didn't know me or my tolerance and Master knows what I can take and where my breaking point is.

So many factors to consider. So many sensations to experience. Hmm, I'm so glad I'm sub. lol.

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RE: Changing tolerance levels - 9/29/2008 1:22:00 PM

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quote:

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Hmmm, I was just thinking about this recently. It does seem that my tolerance to certain types of pain has gone down. I love a good spanking (all the while wishing for it to stop- I love the conflict within), but the biting has become excrutiating. Maybe because Master has been on a biting kick lately and my nipples never really do seem to heal. I find myself reduced to a begging, mindless mess whenever He even hovers over my breast with that look in His eye.

And forget just before my period- it's all too much - neurological overload.

It seems when I first started, I could take much more with crops and even canes. But maybe my "partners" back then were going easier because they didn't know me or my tolerance and Master knows what I can take and where my breaking point is.

So many factors to consider. So many sensations to experience. Hmm, I'm so glad I'm sub. lol.

I am too.
I'm also glad to see this is not unusual and my sistas can understand what I am experiencing. I wondered if it was because I am in a love relationship and perhaps this is somehow affecting me? I dont know? I thought maybe my age. maybe the method. I like high thrust thud,more than quick stinging pain. A Paddlling with a full heavy swing. Also I like it better standing or on all 4's where my body can have room to react to the force.

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RE: Changing tolerance levels - 9/29/2008 1:32:24 PM

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There are some types I pain I just can't take.

And, certain times in my cycle, I am far more sensitive, to everything, even glancing touches.

It's not just my headspace, or time of cycle, or the type of pain. I can take some things standing up, that I can't kneeling over, and vice versa. I can take some things whilst tied up, and others things that just makes me freak out.

I've pretty much always healed fast though. But I do heal faster if I enjoyed getting the marks, or, if I get good pain marks after I've gotten the bad pain marks. It's like happy highs aid healing, or something.

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RE: Changing tolerance levels - 9/29/2008 2:46:32 PM

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(hmmm?? looking around...should I? what the hell!) Pardon me Ladys. Seems to me a change in routine would help as well. And as you get used to the same old/same old...you do get used to it and it takes more and more to make it fun!

Try changing go from paddling/spanking only every other week. Mix it up you know? something you can bring up nicely. Variety is the spice of life after all. Do the other end of pain as well bound helpless and sensitive as hell??? Time for the feathers then!

And yes things do change as we age for both sexes. That time is when my slave and I only do light training as she feels up to it. Well shutting up now. Good luck to all you Ladys, have a nice week!

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RE: Changing tolerance levels - 9/29/2008 3:05:20 PM

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For me pain is never enjoyable the way it is to a masochist. The fun for me has always been about how much I can grit through. It's a real challenge for me. Of course, I'm still young so I can't speak from experience on the age question. I do know another sub who is in his 40's who has recently lost quite a bit of his stamina to take a beating. It could be that age is a factor.

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RE: Changing tolerance levels - 9/29/2008 4:35:16 PM

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Physically pain is pain. Psychologically pain is good pain or bad pain.
For example; i have a torn shoulder ligament. The pain, especially when at rest and when the muscles arn't being used, is excrutiating. It feels like bad pain because it is my mind telling me it is damage.
Master's pain is good pain because it means, well it means, He owns me, it means He has a right to deliver it, it means he loves me as he is a sadst.
But even then i have tolerance levels for BOTH GOOD AND BAD PAIN. usually i can tolerate breats play more tahn caning (which i hate) and i can tolerate needles and curtting and actually enjoy it more than anything.
Variables are interesting. Time of month, hormones, stress levels all diminish my tolerance for both types of pain. Also: the greater the bad pain the less my tolerance for good pain.
Pain is: hot, sharp, dull, burning, sharp, dull, throbbing, stinging, smacked, flicked, sharp, etc etc etc. Indeed there are so many modalities of pain that it would take a thesis for me to explain how i stand with pain in terms of modality.
Interesting pain....love it, hate it, fear it, crave it.......
oh and emotional pain. i am coming out of a period of emotional masochism methinks. It might be short lived because much of my emotional masochism was of the self-harm sort. that's a different topic.

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RE: Changing tolerance levels - 9/29/2008 5:45:58 PM

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it isnt pain if you enjoy it...

It's not?

My tolerance levels go up and down depending on the amount of play i am involved in. If i play regularly they build up, play occasionally they tend to drop.

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RE: Changing tolerance levels - 9/30/2008 12:15:34 AM

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my pain levels on impact tanked a few years ago. i could barely endure 20 minutes of anything. subspace.. pfft.. forget it. amazingly that was about the same time i discovered sharp pointy things, but my tolerance came back up. it was a bit slowly, but once it did. it was higher than it had been. it comes and goes.

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