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happypervert -> RE: First Time Jitters (8/4/2004 12:04:43 PM)
quote: Maybe I should take a dildo through next time just for grins. You could get mixed up in a plot if there are also 4 Saudi Arabian guys carrying dildos onto that flight.

proudsub -> RE: First Time Jitters (8/4/2004 12:40:56 PM)
quote: You could get mixed up in a plot if there are also 4 Saudi Arabian guys carrying dildos I can just see the headlines now "Dildo hijacking plot foiled"

LadyBeckett -> RE: First Time Jitters (8/4/2004 1:39:23 PM)
My sister and her girl were flying back from Paris back in 1980, and the girl had tossed her b.o.b. in her carry on at the last minute as they dashed out the door. They didn't have a problem with it going through, but took the batteries. [;)] Guess they wanted to limit "in-flight entertainment" to previously scheduled movies. [;)]

Sinergy -> RE: First Time Jitters (8/4/2004 5:01:19 PM)
quote: I can just see the headlines now "Dildo hijacking plot foiled" "I dont own a dildo" Edward Norton, Fight Club

baileythorne -> RE: First Time Jitters (8/4/2004 8:05:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThornBlood Just laughs about the time that a subbie friend of mine took the new clit stimulator I gave her for a present through the airport. Will want to know if your face turned as red as hers! After the things I've been through the last 3-4 years, nothing phases me at this point. Very empowering. --bailey

darchart -> RE: First Time Jitters (8/5/2004 11:36:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: proudsub quote: You could get mixed up in a plot if there are also 4 Saudi Arabian guys carrying dildos I can just see the headlines now "Dildo hijacking plot foiled" I can hear the newscaster now... A hijacking plot was foiled this morning as 4 men and a woman were detained carrying highly suspicious "weapons". The guards removed the 5 passengers to an area well away from the public and examined carefully and extensively the weapons in question. When asked why they were attempting to board the plane with such things there was mention of a "distance club" and they gave visual demonstrations as to what the alleged weapons were used for. Once the guards were able to to shower and return to thier posts the Transgroaner Airway 747 was allowed to take off. The passengers, tired but smiling happily were allowed to continue their flight unheeded. [:D]

feline -> RE: First Time Jitters (8/6/2004 8:54:32 AM)
Ok ladies and gentlemen . . . . . something I feel the need to clear up here. [;)] Dildos do not have batteries, vibraters do. And I'm not packin' toys for this trip. [;)] But I'm glad to see your having so much fun with the thought. And as for you DARC. Keep it up, I know where you live. [:D] [image]local://upfiles/17000/1B7B6EA62F384B0EAEC67E57FCE4A9FD.gif[/image]

darchart -> RE: First Time Jitters (8/6/2004 8:39:22 PM)
[sm=lol.gif] You have my phone number too! hint hint

velvetvixen -> RE: First Time Jitters (8/6/2004 9:16:24 PM)
Bailey-- I agree with you that toys are carry on items. They are far too expensive and personal to leave in the hands of strangers. Besides, it gives the airline check people something to talk about at break time.

LadyAngelika -> RE: First Time Jitters (8/7/2004 9:13:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ScorpioMaster I have played with some one for the first time and I would go slow and easy with some mild bondage. So make sure nothing too extreme for the first time like caneing or wooden paddles. The Dom for the first time should never go too extreme. Good luck. I know some Dominates will talk with them for the first time. Bondage? The first time? Was this in private? Am I the only shaking her head? I, for one, would never tie someone up the first time we play. Then again, some are more extreme, but you seem to be advocating not going to an extreme... - LA

LadyShoshin -> RE: First Time Jitters (8/7/2004 10:47:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Leonidas Not to worry, feline. Just remember: The odds are only about 1 in 30 that he'll say "you looked younger in your pictures" There is only about a 1 in 15 shot that your response to the first time he touches you expectedly will be to fart. The chances that you won't notice that booger on the end of your nose before he does? 1 in 17. Impotence only happens in 1 out of 11 first time meetings between dom and sub. There is, though, only a 1 in 100 shot that he'll believe you when you quote those odds to him if it happens. The odds that you won't be able to help laughing the first time you see him naked because of the green lint in his bellybutton? only 1 in 62. All in all, feline, the odds are way, way in your favor. Relax and have a good time. Take care of yourself Leonidas ROTFLMAO&PMP, I love it!!!!!!! I remember a meeting, we played & did the wild thing. Afterwards he handed me a small plastic box & told me to open it, I was confused, there was a funny shaped pill inside, he told me to turn it over, it had Viagra written on the other side. He proudly announced "I didn't need it" I bit my tongue and stifled my laughter, I felt saying "Yes you did" would be too much for his ego to handle. Never saw him again.

baileythorne -> RE: First Time Jitters (8/7/2004 2:41:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika Bondage? The first time? Was this in private? Am I the only shaking her head? In general I agree with you, however, I've learned "never say never". Because I've done it. Lawrence "tied me up" within 4 hours of meeting me. Not in private. And, honestly, if I had wanted to get away, I could have. Impaling my mouth with his tongue kept me in place more than the bondage. And the knife he used to remove my clothes. I also met a man in NY about 4 years ago. It was a blind date set up by a mutual friend. I trusted my friend very much, so I trusted this man. I met him, went home with him and I gave him carte blanche. It was a magical 3 days. We've been friends ever since. Lovers twice since. We rarely speak, but he will be a lifetime friend. Sometimes you listen to your gut. And you take risks. But always, always someone knows where I am and who I'm with. -bailey

LadyAngelika -> RE: First Time Jitters (8/8/2004 12:38:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: baileythorne quote: ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika Bondage? The first time? Was this in private? Am I the only shaking her head? In general I agree with you, however, I've learned "never say never". Because I've done it. Lawrence "tied me up" within 4 hours of meeting me. Not in private. And, honestly, if I had wanted to get away, I could have. Impaling my mouth with his tongue kept me in place more than the bondage. And the knife he used to remove my clothes. I also met a man in NY about 4 years ago. It was a blind date set up by a mutual friend. I trusted my friend very much, so I trusted this man. I met him, went home with him and I gave him carte blanche. It was a magical 3 days. We've been friends ever since. Lovers twice since. We rarely speak, but he will be a lifetime friend. Sometimes you listen to your gut. And you take risks. But always, always someone knows where I am and who I'm with. -bailey Bailey - Since I've joined the boards, and I've read your posts you have come across as a quick-witted woman who seems to have it together. And I’m sure that you are very good at listening to your instincts and making good judgement calls. In your situation with Lawrence, you were in public, so that doesn’t apply to my concern. When there is someone else present to keep things in check, it is definitely a lot safer. As for your blind date, here is where your instincts really come into play. All I’m saying is that people have to be careful. I for one, make it a rule not to tie someone up the first time we play. And my rationale for this is quite complex but in essence, it’s because trust is still being built. Like you however (and you are right, “never say never”), I have broken my rule once or twice using my instinct. I guess that since we were discussing best practices for a first meeting, I would suggest that a best practice would be no bondage. - LA

baileythorne -> RE: First Time Jitters (8/8/2004 5:47:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika In your situation with Lawrence, you were in public, so that doesn’t apply to my concern. When there is someone else present to keep things in check, it is definitely a lot safer. The second night I was with Lawrence, he took me to the local bar where he's a regular. Afterward, he told me we were taking the scenic route home. He pulled into a dark parking lot, drove the motorcycle through weeds, and stopped. It was 1am. It was very dark. He told me he wanted to tie me to the bike. I thought, "this is either going to be the stupidest thing you have ever done or the hottest scene you will ever do with Lawrence" because I was scared. Really scared. I thought about it: (1) my friend in Brooklyn knew who I was with, where he worked and where he lived (2) there were at least 6 witnesses in the local bar that he just introduced me to... bad move if he intended to snuff me. I said to him, "great place to hid a body if you are into that..." He looked at me a bit strangely. I don't rememeber what he said, but he didn't push. And I said yes. It was a very hot scene. There was lots of sex involved. And pictures. LOL. And it now makes a great story. He told me later he'd had no idea how scared I had been. It was an edgy decision for me. I was happy with the outcome. quote: ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika I guess that since we were discussing best practices for a first meeting, I would suggest that a best practice would be no bondage. I agree with you 100%. Especially if you are new to the lifestyle. I didn't mean to imply otherwise. Sorry. I just know that the longer I do this, the more risks I take based on the knowledge & experience I have gained. --bailey

feline -> RE: First Time Jitters (9/4/2004 7:22:51 PM)
Ok ladies and gentlemen here's an update. (sorry for the delay) My trip went wonderfully. [:D] It was a "meet & greet", no expectations just getting too know each other. I had a great time! We both were quite pleased with the whole experience. We are currently discussing the intimate details of making this a more permanent situation.[:D] skips off happily Take care, [image]local://upfiles/17000/C5283B0F864344548A02601784E95224.gif[/image]

proudsub -> RE: First Time Jitters (9/4/2004 8:35:16 PM)
quote: My trip went wonderfully. It was a "meet & greet", no expectations just getting too know each other. I had a great time! We both were quite pleased with the whole experience. We are currently discussing the intimate details of making this a more permanent situation. Glad to hear it went so well feline, hope it works out for you.[:)]

DallasDiva -> RE: First Time Jitters (9/5/2004 5:12:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: darchart #1. Since you are going on a plane ( i know this already having had prior information), Do Not put any toys in your carry-on luggage..The xrays will show them up and you really dont want the gentleman doing the searches to have to suffer with an arousal for the rest of his shift after he takes them out and has to examine them. #3. Dont wear your 5 inch heels for the plane ride. WHile they will be fine for later..all that walking in them will tire your legs and give ya those lil veiny things in your calves. #1....being a Domme, that is the best part of the trip. Kidding, I would not want to involve anyone who has not consented. But just to let you know....checked luggage might be searched, as well. I had mine checked, in my presence, quiet a few times. As a Pro - Domme, I have traveled all over and have had my luggage checked in some of the most exciting and most boring airports. One such time, the snotty little searcher made sure to rummage through my things, touching every panty, skirt, garter, and all kinds of personal items (well I know that is their job...but it happens to me more than a lot). He went on checking for what seemed forever and came across a strap - on. Pulled it out of the bag and started to examine it...then realizing what he had in his hand quickly replaced it and, with a beet red face, let me go. That was so much fun for me, as it turned out.[8D] #2. Tired legs, feet, and not to mention a very slippery airport floor...'nuf said. You will never get the first time back with this person so treasure it and have fun. Ms Hill

subdreams1955 -> RE: First Time Jitters (9/6/2004 12:22:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DallasDiva But just to let you know....checked luggage might be searched, as well. It is. I cook and took my knives on a trip from Toronto to LA. On the way back the TSA searched my checked baggage (where the knives were) and put a seal on the bag along with a little note saying what they'd done. The upside was my "suspicious" baggage was first off the plane. D

WayHome -> RE: First Time Jitters (9/6/2004 3:08:17 AM)
j and i have gotten those little "we searched this" stickers a lot lately. Given what the bags contained I wish the little notes came with a return address just so I could write back "Of course you did!" Leto

Madame -> RE: First Time Jitters (9/6/2004 4:14:23 AM)
Dear feline, I know many have given you a ton of good advice. It's such an exciting time, not knowing, but hoping. Try and go with the mind set of making a new friend and having some fun - then anything else is just icing. I do hope that you have your personal sexual health in mind also. Remember that any Top/Master worth your time, trouble and gifts will not "order" you to perform any sexual acts without Proper protection. You may not be packing any toys .. but I hope you are one of the smart gals that is always packin' rubber. What a fortunate Gent to have so pretty and nice a lady traveling so far to meet him! Best Wishes! Have a Blast!

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