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RE: Preparing for Discipline - 9/30/2008 6:54:14 PM

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Or he could just make you wear bright pink or blue mittens.

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RE: Preparing for Discipline - 9/30/2008 7:01:37 PM

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I have the same problem with picking. I still have no clue how to stop. It's like my perception is skewed and I see the imperfections as huge.

I hope you have found your solution.

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RE: Preparing for Discipline - 9/30/2008 7:05:09 PM

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Mittens isn't a bad idea, but how would a person type? lol

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RE: Preparing for Discipline - 9/30/2008 7:05:35 PM

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What I was saying, DesFIP, is that habit breaking is not that simple. There is not one thing that will work for everyone - it does vary with the habit, but also with the person. Spanking might not work for seatbelts, because it is done too many times in comparrison with the number of spankings you will have time for. But, just being required to call D everytime you get in the car so He can say 'are you belted?' might work. The rubber band method might work for someone, as well, and, again, that is a punishment method. Probably the best method for seatbelts is an assocation method to help remeber - associating the seat belting with putting in the key, for instance, combined with the calender method for reward. A sticker on a calander everytime you go all day without forgetting, and a nice reward when you get to 21 consecutive stickers.
for picking, spanking might work, if, inspite of you thinking otherwise, a need for pain is one of the causes - getting your pain needs met might help. If you start feeling that is the case - esp if you start thinking that you are picking in order to 'earn' spankings, you might consider flipping the system, and using spankings as a reward for NOT picking.
You might also have to break this down into parts - no picking fingernails, for instance, and then move on to more generalazations. For fingernails, you might get acrylics and see if that makes if harder for you to pick.
I would also suggest habit replacement. for instance, everytime you catch yourself about to pick, you could do something else - brush the front of your blouse, run your hands through your hair, ect. You will end up with some small ticks, but might be happier with that than with the picking.
but be aware that picking is associated with certain low-level mental illnesses - tourettes and aspburgers, OCD, ect. some of these can be imporved with meds. You might talk to your doc. Also, in these cases, it is often a matter of not liking the way imperfections on your skin 'feel'. using moisterizer daily and keeping nails filed ultra smooth might help, as well.
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RE: Preparing for Discipline - 9/30/2008 7:21:10 PM

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With two pencils held eraser side down.

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RE: Preparing for Discipline - 10/1/2008 2:24:36 AM

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To stop the picking i suggest you get fake nails, the really thick ones, its a bit expensive but there really is nothing much you can pick with them anymore, also (i hate the stuff myself) but chewing gum takes away some of the stress of wanting to pick too...and if you pick your nose aswell, you see with gum ....well at least you can't eat it then...
As for your punishment...just ask Him if He can hit harder please if the tears don't come

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RE: Preparing for Discipline - 10/1/2008 3:45:59 PM

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Update:

So far I've received two spankings. The first day I got 10 licks with the belt, and the second day I got 20 licks with the belt. Last night when I was tired (I'd made it almost through the day without picking a single thing) I inadvertently picked a scab off. Well, I freaked out about it and confessed right away, and because of how it happened he did not punish me for it, so no spanking today. So far today I have no picked a single thing, nor bit my nails. I feel so great about it. I also have been told that if I get this under control really well that he's going to send me to get a manicure and pedicure and massage as a reward. I've NEVER had a single manicure or pedicure in my life do to this picking, so I'm over the moon excited. I mean how much better can it get, plus I get to look more feminine too. :)

Anyway, just figured I'd let everyone know of my progress thusfar :)

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RE: Preparing for Discipline - 10/1/2008 5:01:35 PM

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I am due to face a severe spanking tomorrow. My Dom has been working on a bad habit that I have, and he wants to nip it in the bud. I want to accept this discipline with grace, and not complain and keep position 100%. I know that I need this, but I want to be very accepting of it.
I want to say that no one can truly prepare for discipline.
Each time different emotions come and if I do not feel safe with my owner, secure that he knows best by knowing me, then the purpose of discipline is useless.

I never tolerate the crop and that is what I received. Keeping position? I don't and he accepts that it is hard and gives me space to receive and reposition.

I have rarely cried during physical discipline, it's always been very hard for me, but in this instance I really want to cry. Truthfully I'd like to sob hysterically and REALLY feel it in my mind as well as my bottom.

I mostly fear the sobbing I will inevitably produce. In the beginning, he had a hard time with it, but he makes sure that I understand the discipline is NOT for emotions expressed but the fact that I have habits I must come to terms with. Direction and guidance evolve each time.
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get to that place in the mind so that this discipline really sets me in the right mental frame of mind?

If I focus on HIM, his voice and his words, rather than on the act of discipline, my mind is wrapped around the purpose and consequences...which will cause proper behaviour in the long run.

As a matter of fact, I feel the crop on my left ass as I sit here. But the re-adjustment in my mind and heart is beginning.

There is a punishment far greater than any implement if I willfully do not take guidance and direction.

Crying is such a cleansing balm.

I greatly appreciate your assistance in advance,

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