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Information, advice please - 12/3/2005 6:43:29 AM   
Newboyblue


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Hello everybody. Where do I start. At the beginning. I saw a news item about a teacher being sacked for spanking a pupil. Because I thought I knew the person I tried to find more. In doing so found a spanking site. So basically there were videos of young woman being spanked, caned and strapped. So I watched a few. Wow. They really excited me in a way that I'd never felt in a very long time. Talk about raising the dead. I felt really excited.
During the day I remembered an experience from a long time ago. My then girlfriend showed me a 'truestory' letter in a magazine designed for women about a secretary who was spanked by her boss. Both of us it transpired found it engaging. Almost by accident, without thinking about it, in a moment of impetuosity, I put my then girlfriend over my knee and did the same to her. No objection. We never discussed this. However, on later later occasions when we were in bed I would gently (and I mean really gently) spank her until her skin was red. I would then place Nivea on her bottom and rub it in. TI enjoyed this too. This behaviour between us went on for a fair amount of time- maybe 18 month. I found it really erotic. She did the same to me once or twice and my bottom was all of a tinkle - yet it was both pleasurable and erotic. (Is this a normal situation?) This was all done very gentlly and we never spoke about it. But I spanked her frequently and we both found it very, very erotic and relaxing. At a later date she handed me a hair brush and gently does it again.I must say that both of us enjoyed it tremendously - although we never spoke about it. We split up - I got a job in a differnt place. In retospect I treated her shabbily and I feel ashamed at how I treated her. In terms of our behaviour - spanking each other - we were (in retrospect) too young, inexperienced, too naive to really understand what we were doing or experiencing.
Although, I am still naive inthese matters I have given the matter a lot of though and I would really like to gently spank somebody. I would prefer to use my hands. I want to be gentle. I need gentle guidance in this. (I would use straps and canes if the other person wanted - but I want to move consensully and slowly on this). I have tried to spank my partner but when I have tried she has responded very violently and aggressively. She is a very restrained person and I wouldn't like to press her because I understand how she is and I get the picture. Yet, deep with in me I feel that I/we are missing out. There's a field of human sexuality being denied to me. Iwant to use hands. (But am willing to try other things at some other point) I would also like a gentle spanking my self. At some point I might like to be strapped but not violently so -just to see what it is like. I want to do this in a consensual relationship with someone I can talk to and whose company I want to enjoy.
I know deep within myself that I want to spank somebody. The though excites me. I prefer female company. The perosn does not have to be young. How normal am I? Am I just feeling the eroticism and excitement of something new/ Where I can I meet like minded. I've given this deep thought and I need to be with someone experienced. As for my self I'm 50, not slim, not the world's best looking person. But I'm well educated and can hold a conversation. Any advice, information would be greatly received. Although I would like a partner I am proceeding slowly and cautiously. But I do want the experience. I live in North -west of England. I'm so new to this that I am unfamiliar with all the terminology. Understand munchies as a meeting place/time.
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RE: Information, advice please - 12/3/2005 10:42:22 AM   
JohnWarren


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You are asking us if enjoying spanking is bad?

I think you can guess the collective answer

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RE: Information, advice please - 12/3/2005 4:20:25 PM   
domestickitty


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Reading your post, it seems that you want two things: validation that these feelings are ok (which they are most definitly so!) and resources for the newbie. Well, the validation you need is prolly a real life thing and can also come from learning more about what you are interested in. I strongly suggest looking up your local BDSM group and finding a few books to read. Some of my favorites are the ones written by Jack Rinella (www.leatherviews.com). Any other questions, feel free to ask.

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RE: Information, advice please - 12/3/2005 6:03:29 PM   
HouseofBear


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A good book for beginners to start out with is Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns.

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RE: Information, advice please - 12/3/2005 10:30:25 PM   
MissDiandSirHugh


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G'Day and Welcome Newboyblue besides the books that have been recommended just read profiles and then through the forums as we are sure you will find that not only will your questions be answerers but in a very big way.
It may make you think of other things to ask so just ask them and many will answer but enjoy it all.

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