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Profiles- Seeking everything possible - 12/4/2005 6:38:45 AM

LadyJulieAnn

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Now that CollarMe has a way to indicate in a profile the type of relationship that one seeks, do you use that as a way to quickly determine whether a person is worth an initial email based on what you desire? How do you feel about people who put that they are seeking every type of relationship? Do you see them as open minded or desperate? If you put that you are seeking a variety of relationships, do you feel that your chances of finding someone are increased?

I look forward to your comments.

Be well,
Julie

(edited to correct the typo in the subject line)

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RE: Profiles- Seeking eveything possible - 12/4/2005 6:45:25 AM

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I would tend to only really be interested in someone that mirrored what I am looking for. God, it has taken me long enough to find this aspect of myself! I want to enjoy exploring it further now.

I guess it does mean that I am probably less open minded than I ought to be though (e.g., re meeting switches etc.). Maybe that will come in time. But at present I am attracted to Doms who know exactly who they are and specifically what they want.

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RE: Profiles- Seeking everything possible - 12/4/2005 7:28:10 AM

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seeking everything possible......... and to think i'm accused almost daily of
not seeking a thing! interests checked are all Nilla, and the seeking part is
empty. Why? Cause I hope to get notes from everyone if they find a post
or my profile interesting. Basically I'm here to make some friends,
some of which I hope to eventually have the opertunity to meet face to face
rather then font to font. Maybe I'm too self protected in not sharing my
other interests with everyone, but hey this works for me............

Q

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RE: Profiles- Seeking everything possible - 12/4/2005 7:39:45 AM

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Quiver, drop the gun and move away from the salad bar if you really want to meet me?

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RE: Profiles- Seeking everything possible - 12/4/2005 7:58:38 AM

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I didn't check off those interests, it's just too much info. I prefer to chat and discover things. On the other hand, it can be a good "oh I see you like ______, so do I, have you heard ____" starting point.

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RE: Profiles- Seeking everything possible - 12/4/2005 8:01:06 AM

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i do like to see what someone wants as far as if they are interested in areas of the lifestyle that i either desire or have no interest in. but i sometimes do wonder if someone states that they will do certain things i.e. intense physical pain because they have done it before...is that what they actually want? i know that there are things i do want yet i might be curious about other things if i haven't experienced them yet but i do much prefer reading a profile where it is stated what type of relationship a Dom actually wants. in that way, everyone knows, from the beginning, if there is a chance of the relationship working. i so hope this is making sense lol i think i am still half asleep ...smiling

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RE: Profiles- Seeking everything possible - 12/4/2005 8:10:07 AM

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I use the new options to narrow down the search category so that when I log in I get about 25 results of people who potentially might be what I seek. That is, I've set the search parameters to only submissive women, willing to relocate, who are seeking dominant males. But, if I see someone here in the forums or meet someone in the chatrooms who falls outside that and seems interesting enough I take those on a case by case basis. Just last night I got a very well written letter from a switch who impressed me and I'm looking forward to getting to know her. The search functions are nice, but you still have to get to know the individual.

People who put everything, yes that seems desperate to me. I've seen a couple of profiles of submissive women who in their profile claim to seek a dom, but their interest include every possible option (including submissive men, women, etc.). To be honest, not only does that seem desperate, I question whether the person presented is even real.

I'd say you are more likely to increase your chances by being specific and clear about what you seek. But then I also look for quality over quantity.

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RE: Profiles- Seeking everything possible - 12/4/2005 2:10:18 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyJulieAnn

Now that CollarMe has a way to indicate in a profile the type of relationship that one seeks, do you use that as a way to quickly determine whether a person is worth an initial email based on what you desire? How do you feel about people who put that they are seeking every type of relationship? Do you see them as open minded or desperate? If you put that you are seeking a variety of relationships, do you feel that your chances of finding someone are increased?

I look forward to your comments.

Be well,
Julie

(Bold added to quote above)

I desire a lot of things: diversion, enlightenment, acquaintances, redemption, friends, victims, etc.

How do I pre-judge an entire category of people who check off profile boxes this way or that? I try not to.

They may desire a lot of things too. Or they may be desperate. Maybe I have something to offer to certain individuals from both camps.

You say desperate like it's a bad thing. Some of us are sadists, remember?

I've already got everything I need and everything I want but like the Black 47 song says, I'm desperate; desperate for the next moment.

It's kind of like upside-down Buddhism--with sharp knives. I just can't find the check-box.

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RE: Profiles- Seeking everything possible - 12/4/2005 5:25:08 PM

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I’ve set my search aspects to exactly what I al looking for, for both Neets and I (I.E. one kajira and one kajirus or male and female subs who will train to be Gorean Slaves). Having said that, I enjoy the wider interest facility and the blogs to attract interest from a greater variety of people, both Dominants and non-dominants, for general friendly interests. To date I have a list of people who I love to talk with via mail or YM. Once my finances have been turned around, I figure of a three month holiday Stateside and at least a month in the UK with the view of meeting as many of these people face to face, share coffee, malt scotch or a can of fosters and fire up the bbq and just enjoy their company and learn from them too. For some I’d be a tad more formal and share Salt, Water and Bread…

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RE: Profiles- Seeking everything possible - 12/4/2005 5:52:42 PM

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I admit that I question it.
Since I don't browse profiles, and I don't go into the chatrooms, I only look at profiles when they show up on My admirer's list, or I receive an email. I also look at profiles of many of the regular posters on these boards. So, It is a question I will ask in a reply (if the mail warrants a reply; most do). If I receive mail from someone who only sends a couple of lines (this happens most often), and then I see little in the profile and virtually everything under the "seeking" portion, it makes Me wonder.
However, I do ask the question, in My reply, to be fair and to give the writer an opportunity to explain. To date, I have received no response. The mailer just kind of falls off the radar.
So I have to go with, "looking to hook up with anyone one in anyway" as the most likely reason, and I don't feel very special!

IronBear! Please let Me know if you ever get to My neck of the woods. I would love to spend an evening 'round the bbq" with ya!

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RE: Profiles- Seeking everything possible - 12/4/2005 6:47:31 PM

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I personally read the profile, I do scan the lists but it is the actual profile that the person has to write that I believe truly reflects what is there and the ability to articulate it--

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RE: Profiles- Seeking everything possible - 12/4/2005 7:07:00 PM

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I have to agree with MH, a well written profile will get my attention before anything else. Anyone who is articulate and well spoken has tons of bonus points.

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