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missturbation -> RE: What to think? (10/5/2008 6:43:06 PM)
quote: have you ever been scared or nervous to trust your Dom? Yes several times over but always at the start of a relationship. quote: how do you say that you are scared then? Respectfully and honestly. quote: but that you are scared cause you aren't getting enough time, enought straight answers, and don't know what's going on in the most part? Truthfully when i havent got straight answers and haven't really known what was going on it has usually ended in tears. Most recently before i got together with my present Sir i wasted around 9 months on someone who never really gave straight answers. They would arrange to come visit me and then everytime his car would miraculously break downa nd he couldnt afford the train. Instead of telling me the truth about what was going on he hid behind an i love you and myriads of reasons we couldn't be together yet. Turns out he had someone else and just didnt have the balls to tell me. Mot people have busy lives but you should be able to find time for your partner be it a phone call, frequent texts or a flying visit. Depending on the length of time you havent seen him for or heard from him for i would be suspicious. *Only my personal experience of not getting straight answers and lack of time for me though shrugs.*

Maya2001 -> RE: What to think? (10/5/2008 8:28:14 PM)
sometimes you have to go with your gut feelings ... just because your sub and he is Dom does not necessarily mean the 2 of you are a good match.. it could be the 2 of you are incompatible and he is not able to provide the needs to help you feel secure in the relationship .. or the 2 of you and not able to communicate well with each other ... I tend to prefer getting to know the person and feel comfortable with them first before moving on to play ... things may still get rushed ..but by that point I am comfortable enough to know I can tell him to slow down without thinking he will get upset with me speaking up

babygurlrides -> RE: What to think? (10/5/2008 10:36:14 PM)
I am just wondering how experienced this Dom is? Does he have many years in the lifestyle?

kristileigh -> RE: What to think? (10/6/2008 8:28:03 AM)
If you are scared or nervous then you need to rethink your relationship. You should be relaxed if you trust him. i have been intrigued by new things master has said He has wanted to do or try but never scared. i know Master has my well being safely in His hands. No never scared

missturbation -> RE: What to think? (10/6/2008 10:33:36 AM)
edited because im dumb

NorthernGent -> RE: What to think? (10/7/2008 7:53:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: colouredin I know largely though my insecurities are not about him but about past relationships and he actually hasnt given me any reason to not trust him so it is more my issue than his. Sounds like you need a solution from within, then.

ladyacquiesce -> RE: What to think? (10/22/2008 11:12:15 AM)
No........if I didnt have trust I would be no where near him, trust is number 1 :) ~ladyacquiesce~

ranja -> RE: What to think? (10/23/2008 2:00:04 PM)
I trust my Husband totally but i know He likes to scare me...and the trill of that is good. When He is evasive or reponds negative to my questions it might be because He hasn't worked out the answer Himself yet ... i have learned to ask again a few days later. Sometimes He'll play mind games and i might be slow to catch on and end up in a frustrating struggle all wound up and sometimes tearful before i twig He is just fucking me, always a challenge and i have to admit a good emotional ride. Do you enjoy being scared?

akisha -> RE: What to think? (10/23/2008 2:16:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BuddnRoze how do you say that you are scared then? but that you are scared cause you aren't getting enough time, enought straight answers, and don't know what's going on in the most part? For me i say straight out "I still have trust issues in regards to (imput item here)" Master and I moved in together 3 weeks after we met. So when it comes to alot of things I still don't really know alot of things about him, ergo this causes trust issues. I have never been scared of him. If i was scared of him i would not be with him. We both believe and open honest communication. We have an open book policy, we know all of each others passwords to all accounts. email, cell phone everything. that way there are no secrets and no missunderstandings. Granted we had to put that in place because of a lying meddling person but it has worked well for us so far.

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