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michaelMI -> Restfully begging out of a collar as painlessly as possible (12/5/2005 6:26:14 AM)
what is the least hurtful way to beg out of a collar when you still car for someone, yet time, real life and distance has gotten in the way? i still care for my Mistress, but we have drifted apart as neither of us is onlineat the same time and i just can't devote the time needed to keep this relationship alive.

orfunboi -> RE: Restfully begging out of a collar as painlessly as possible (12/5/2005 6:27:08 AM)
i would say be honest and explain your feelings...she may be feeling the same way.

IrishMist -> RE: Restfully begging out of a collar as painlessly as possible (12/5/2005 6:29:34 AM)
complete honesty...

Jasmyn -> RE: Restfully begging out of a collar as painlessly as possible (12/5/2005 6:29:45 AM)
Sorry to hear that michael :( Been straight up tends to work best in most situations, even ones as delicate and gutwrenching as something like this can be. Simply ask her and give her the reasons you have given us. Best of luck.

MHOO314 -> RE: Restfully begging out of a collar as painlessly as possible (12/5/2005 7:09:59 AM)
I'm a little confused, is this a real time relationship? or online only? if its rt, then a phone call is in order--as everyone said, honesty--its hard, no one wants to let some one down, but its worse to continue-- if its online, then I imagine you have to send Her an email to at least set a time for chatting--again as face 2 face as can be accomplished--

OscarHargraves -> RE: Restfully begging out of a collar as painlessly as possible (12/5/2005 7:15:29 AM)
Be honest; be straight forward. Tell her your feelings and tell her that it's over. Don't forget to thank her for all that you've learned from her. You might also follow up with a nice hand written Thank You card or Christmas card in about a week. Nothing mushy or persoanl, just a card with a note in it.

fldrkhorse -> RE: Restfully begging out of a collar as painlessly as possible (12/5/2005 8:19:19 AM)
The answer to your question is there is no "least hurtful" way to end a relationship. The responses here about being honest and not letting it drag on are good advice. There's another post, I think by Wind Chymes, where she talks about communication. Neither of you never should have let it go so far to become hurtful.

MistressOfGa -> RE: Restfully begging out of a collar as painlessly as possible (12/5/2005 11:27:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: michaelMI what is the least hurtful way to beg out of a collar when you still car for someone, yet time, real life and distance has gotten in the way? i still care for my Mistress, but we have drifted apart as neither of us is onlineat the same time and i just can't devote the time needed to keep this relationship alive. michael, for what it is worth, I am so very sorry it has come down to that. I understand completely. I agree with everyone here. Communication is the key. I have recently lost a sub, so I know the pain it will cause, but I also know that it is something that had to be done on his part. Good luck to you.

MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Restfully begging out of a collar as painlessly as possible (12/5/2005 12:37:37 PM)
quote: what is the least hurtful way to beg out of a collar when you still car for someone, yet time, real life and distance has gotten in the way? i still care for my Mistress, but we have drifted apart as neither of us is onlineat the same time and i just can't devote the time needed to keep this relationship alive. If I recall correctly from your previous posts, your relationship is primarily online although you did meet her about a year ago, or something like that. Be honest, upfront, and quick about it. A phone call would be in order, rather than an email.

IrishMist -> RE: Restfully begging out of a collar as painlessly as possible (12/5/2005 1:19:08 PM)
quote: If I recall correctly from your previous posts, your relationship is primarily online although you did meet her about a year ago, or something like that. Be honest, upfront, and quick about it. A phone call would be in order, rather than an email. I agree. A phone call would be what I would do. But above all, maintain honesty about why.

CamaroGuy2001 -> RE: Restfully begging out of a collar as painlessly as possible (12/5/2005 1:23:31 PM)
Honisty, clarity, and finaly talking directly to Her is the most important.

fyreredsub -> RE: Restfully begging out of a collar as painlessly as possible (12/5/2005 3:51:47 PM)
taking one's own destiny back is never easy,good luck.just be honest

sweetpettjenny -> RE: Restfully begging out of a collar as painlessly as possible (12/5/2005 3:56:52 PM)
just be honest....

LadyJulieAnn -> RE: Restfully begging out of a collar as painlessly as possible (12/5/2005 5:18:47 PM)
I was in the same situation a couple of years ago, but I was the one to make the difficult decision to end the D/s relationship after a year online together. My guess is that your Mistress is feeling the same as you are as far as not having that time together online to dedicate to the relationship. I would suggest communicating your feelings to her, just as you have in your posting. In my situation, we both realized that we were just giving lip service to the relationship, and we both knew it wasn't fair to each other to continue in something that needed strong bonding and communication. We still remain friends, for which I am grateful. [:)] I wish you luck, Julie

mnottertail -> RE: Restfully begging out of a collar as painlessly as possible (12/5/2005 6:05:13 PM)
obfuscate, obfuscate, obfuscate ........ deny, deny, deny......... (works well for me in a business setting). Or, do the rightest thing you can for all. Which is face it and live with it. Ron

KatyLied -> RE: Restfully begging out of a collar as painlessly as possible (12/5/2005 6:11:06 PM)
chiming in........please be honest

Synocense -> RE: Restfully begging out of a collar as painlessly as possible (12/6/2005 1:02:45 PM)
A phone call, perhaps something like, "Dear Mistress, I feel we have drifted apart as neither of us is online at the same time and I just can't devote the time needed to keep this relationship alive...." Best of luck to you, Syn

ExistentialSteel -> RE: Restfully begging out of a collar as painlessly as possible (12/6/2005 2:49:38 PM)
To take a slightly different view, things like this have a way of working themselves out with time and avoidance. You could gradually stop making contact until finally neither is talking. It just comes to the point where you both realize it has happened. Although everyone says tell the other and break it off with honesty and rapidly, I'm willing to bet my way happens much more often.

HouseofBear -> RE: Restfully begging out of a collar as painlessly as possible (12/6/2005 4:07:35 PM)
It seems that what you posted here was explained fairly well. Tell her the same thing you told us. If possibe do it via phone if you do not have a way of doing it in person. If it is an on-line only relationship, do it via chat if possible.

kyraofMists -> RE: Restfully begging out of a collar as painlessly as possible (12/6/2005 4:23:15 PM)
Okay.. I just have to share this. I have been reading this thread since it started and the subject line always confused me, "Restfully begging out of a collar..." I couldn't figure out what being rested had to do with ending a relationship. It just hit me that the word is suppose to be "respectfully" lol At least I can laugh at myself when I am being dense. As for the OP, as many have said it is best to just be honest. The end of a relationship is difficult on all sides, but ending it honestly and without lies will have the most positive impact. Knight's kyra Edited to add that no offense was meant to the OP and I it is not my intention to make light of a difficult situation; I am just poking a little fun at myself.

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