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KatyLied -> RE: Cmon! (10/5/2008 8:12:07 AM)
Well I'd say his actions are speaking loudly.

forhim -> RE: Cmon! (10/5/2008 8:15:25 AM)
you mean not interested. I guess- sigh.....

LeMis -> RE: Cmon! (10/5/2008 8:25:43 AM)
Uhmm I'm confused here... your profile lists you as "Dominant". [&:]

tsatske -> RE: Cmon! (10/5/2008 8:35:12 AM)
could you tell us a little something about the relationship that led up to collaring, and about your negotations in regards to things like this - how often you'd be contacted, be together, what vanilla time you would spend together, how much of each other's day to day life you'd be kept abreast of, when and how much you could contact him, ect?

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Cmon! (10/5/2008 8:47:12 AM)
fast reply like the others, i'm confused. so he hasn't contacted you all weekend (oh btw - it's still the weekend), why haven't you contacted him? does he have to answer every single message you send? it seems to me you need to channel all this energy into a hobby or something to keep you busy and not worry so much.

califsue -> RE: Cmon! (10/5/2008 8:57:07 AM)
Without knowing all the details it is hard to know what to tell you. Right now, I am dealing with something similar in not hearing from Master but I know he is dealing with an ill father and so his attention is currently elsewhere as it should be but it doesn't lessen the anxiety. All I can suggest is focus your attention to other things and wait it out. If a number of days go by, say five and still no word then you have to decide your next step. I know for me in the beginning if I didn't hear by day 3 I would grow anxious. One time after not hearing from him for 5 days ,I sent a note asking if I had done something wrong and that my crystal ball wasn't working too well. He wrote back and said he was being a 'bad' Dom and apologized. Mine likes me being clingy....

KatyLied -> RE: Cmon! (10/5/2008 9:02:12 AM)
Even if people are busy, they can manage to find time to send a text or make a quick phone call, if they want to. Perhaps he is distancing himself because he does not like the clingy behavior. I distance myself when I think that a guy is too clingy.

CalifChick -> RE: Cmon! (10/5/2008 9:25:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied Even if people are busy, they can manage to find time to send a text or make a quick phone call, if they want to. Perhaps he is distancing himself because he does not like the clingy behavior. I distance myself when I think that a guy is too clingy. If she got this clingy in less than 24 hours, and her emails reflect that, then yes, he might be distancing. Although I'm having a hard time calling it "distancing" when it was LESS THAN 24 HOURS!!!! <-- not yelling at you, just expressing disbelief at her level of clingy. Seriously OP... give the guy a break. I read emails and don't answer them right away all the time. It means NOTHING other than the fact that I don't feel like answering, or I need time to think about what I want to say, or a response is going to take a lot of time and I want to have the time available to devote to it. Cali

DesFIP -> RE: Cmon! (10/5/2008 9:49:48 AM)
Maybe he's fixing the roof, dealing with a plumbing leak, visiting his mother, etc. Give it a day or two. Although if he had time to read the email he would have had the time to write one quick line saying he'll call you Monday because things are crazy. However the need for contact, how often and by whom, is something that you should have discussed prior to collaring. You better have that talk soon. I need contact a couple of times daily at minimum. Thankfully he feels the same, the more the merrier. But I know of a woman who spent three years where she and the dude spoke briefly on Thursday to discuss plans to meet on the weekend. Neither of them needed more than that. I wouldn't have been compatible with her guy and she wouldn't be with mine.

KatyLied -> RE: Cmon! (10/5/2008 10:42:05 AM)
quote: <-- not yelling at you, just expressing disbelief at her level of clingy. Yell away, I can take it, really. [:D]

tweedydaddy -> RE: master ignores after claiming (10/5/2008 1:08:20 PM)
Why on earth are you asking us? Ask him.

cbpzep6 -> RE: Cmon! (10/5/2008 1:19:27 PM)
I have 2 masters I think they get off on this type of play you always at their call. Well guess what Ill find a new master soon Doms are replaceable with someone that will respect me as I do them.

natasha66 -> RE: Cmon! (10/5/2008 1:23:31 PM)
Maybe he's just busy...COMMUNICATION is the key here. Ask him. On a side note, I can relate. As someone who has had abandonment issues in the past, I am guilty of the same kind of freak out. We discussed it, and the problem was resolved. Now if I am insecure about something, I will find a way of letting Him know so that it doesn't become a bigger issue and jeopardize the relationship. Don't be afraid to speak up.

GreedyTop -> RE: Cmon! (10/5/2008 1:30:39 PM)
~FR~ how can she ASK HIM if he's not answering? That being said, yeah.. clingy much?

antipode -> RE: Cmon! (10/5/2008 3:34:41 PM)
Umm, yes, but why is she asking us? We know less than she does. Other than that she is a female dominant, looking for submissive men, who has a master...

CruelDesires -> RE: Cmon! (10/5/2008 10:35:28 PM)
When in danger.. or in doubt, run in circles, scream and shout! Or just call him and ask? [;)] C-D

aravain -> RE: Cmon! (10/5/2008 11:24:22 PM)
hmm... I know that I'll regularly 'read' emails (and by that I mean open them up, skim them, then move on) and then actually read them later. Maybe he's doing that? But my confusion abounds as well. Oh well. There are times when you won't be with your partner, even in real life, for more than a few hours! Shocking, I know! There are times that you'll be out of contact as well... it happens, it's normal. Don't let it be the end of the relationship, and when you DO get in contact with them again, TELL them that even simple 'I love you' or 'I'm busy' responses are all you need/want.

littlemisssnarf -> RE: Cmon! (10/6/2008 3:31:21 AM)
OP - if you're not careful you will talk/email yourself out of your collar! Let him chase you a little.....

SimplyMichael -> RE: Cmon! (10/6/2008 6:11:54 AM)
If the man can't bring himself to contact his new romance now, he sure as hell isn't going to get any better with time. My question would be, why would you want someone who doesn't take care of you?

SirDominic -> RE: Cmon! (10/6/2008 6:58:12 AM)
Thank you, GT, for stating the obvious. The OP can hardly ask him what the problem is if he IS refusing to have contact with her. forhim, there is just too little info for any of us to make anything but assumptions. He could be boasting of another conquest. He could be busy with life. He could even be ignoring you on purpose, to keep you on pins and needles, leaving you wondering where you stand. How attentive was he before he announced his taking of you (an interesting phrase by the way. Am curious what that actually means). If before he was a lot more attentive, and now that he "has" you, he is suddenly slacking off, that would definitely be a bad sign. Give it a week. If he is still refusing to have any contact with you, you have your answer. Best of luck.

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