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Sex and spirit - 10/6/2008 3:09:26 AM   
Aneirin


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Status: offline 		I am young free and single, by the situation of that, some believe I should be out drilling away with all I can, as I can get up to the fun males get up to, but I don't. Honestly, I have not fucked for four years, I did worry about this at first, but am now totally happy with it, as being celibate coincides with my spirituality. You see my spirituality does not forbid anything, but what I do is spiritual, therefore for me to fuck someone, there has to be a bond, a spiritual connection between myself and the other. It is not me to give so intimately of myself for the hell of it, so I am happy with that now, the right fuckable person will come, that I am sure and when that happens, they will get all of me lock, stock and a big bore barrel.

So I ask others, sex, the act of fucking, is it a recreation, or is there more too it ?

Is it a fallacy that single males are out screwing anything that moves, perhaps it is, perhaps it is part of male machismo, the fact that they should be out there at it to prove their manliness, I don't know, what do others think ?

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RE: Sex and spirit - 10/6/2008 3:16:24 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		Live your life as you see fit and don't care what other people think. I went many years without sex and yes I missed it, but I hadn't met anyone I wanted to have sex with. I don't see the purpose in having sex just for the sake of having sex unless you really want too. I think that tends to take the fun out of it and make it more of a chore.

So should you feel bothered by the fact you haven't had sex in awhile? Unless there is a mental/physical problem, why should you? Its YOUR life.

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RE: Sex and spirit - 10/6/2008 4:02:24 AM   
PrincessJ77


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Status: offline 		It was 18 months for me.  I can't simply fuck just for the sake of having sex.

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RE: Sex and spirit - 10/6/2008 4:10:26 AM   
marieToo


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ORIGINAL: Aneirin

So I ask others, sex, the act of fucking, is it a recreation, or is there more too it ?



For me there is more to it.  I'm not wired for casual sex, and I don't see fucking as recreation.

I have to be emotionally involved with someone to have sex with them.  It doesn't have to be a heavy "in love" kind of thing, but there's gotta be something more going on than libido.  I can't just go out and tag a stranger just to fuck.  It doesn't work like that for me, and it never will.

< Message edited by marieToo -- 10/6/2008 4:12:20 AM >

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RE: Sex and spirit - 10/6/2008 4:24:25 AM   
girlivy


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Status: offline 		 While I do enjoy fucking til the cows come home, and then asking them if they would want to watch *grin*, I  find that without a "bond" it is more going through the motions than anything else. And I'm at the point now where unless a bond has been established, there will be no fucking, but maybe some other types of "play" The act itself to me is utmost intimancy, and i'm just not willing to share that just for the 'sport" of it.

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RE: Sex and spirit - 10/6/2008 4:41:03 AM   
slaveboyforyou


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Status: offline 		I'm young and single too.  For me, casual sex just sort of happens.  If I click with a person upon meeting them; I go with the flow of things.  No I do not go out hunting for sex anymore; I stopped doing that in my mid 20's.  But I am not adverse to a good fucking when the opportunity presents itself; I welcome it in fact.  I don't go in for one night stands, I usually remain friends with casual sex partners.  I do have to like someone and enjoy their company to get that far. 

I don't really think of it as recreation; it's just companionship and a respite from lonliness.  Yes it's a myth that young males are out screwing everything that moves.  I'm sure a lot would like to be doing that, but most of them aren't.  Fact is; most of us aren't that good looking, charming, successful, etc.  Most of us have to work at meeting women, and it's exhausting trying to do that with every woman you meet. 

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RE: Sex and spirit - 10/6/2008 4:50:46 AM   
UncleNasty


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aneirin

So I ask others, sex, the act of fucking, is it a recreation, or is there more too it ?

Is it a fallacy that single males are out screwing anything that moves, perhaps it is, perhaps it is part of male machismo, the fact that they should be out there at it to prove their manliness, I don't know, what do others think ?


There is and can be as much or little to it as the people involved are willing and able to invest in the act and in each other.

Males are handed their role, their gender role, by society at large - including but not limited to family, school, church, media, peer groups, etc. There is much in all of those that persuades, or even insists, that manliness is made up of "notches on a bedpost."

Societies image of "man" and "masculinity" doesn't include anything less than "potency." We even have drugs for the guys that can't get it up anymore so that they can keep getting it up, and thereby continue to be "real men."

Walking a path different than that which society leads you to is difficult. That level of self awareness, and the strength of conviction required to "buck the system," are not qualities every one possesses. Likely there are more in the lifestyle that have those qualities than in society in general.

I'm not quite awake yet and feel I'm rambling. I'll just draw it down here.

Uncle Nasty

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RE: Sex and spirit - 10/6/2008 5:21:12 AM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		One of my favorite quotes:  " Transcending your sexuality to become more spiritual is an enlightenment illusion.  When God touches your heart your sexuality is awakened, your body lights up and your life lightens up."  ~ Peter Rengel

and yes I do believe...........


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RE: Sex and spirit - 10/6/2008 6:04:30 AM   
Irishknight


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Status: offline 		There is something to be said for having a "fuck-buddy" that you can call and just have no strings attached sex.  I used to have a friend with benefits like that but she's in a different state now. 
There is also nothing to compare with sex with a partner you love.  The exchange can be more than physical party time.  It brings two people closer ... at least for a while.
I recommend both.  The idea of screwing everything that moves is insane though.  There are some women that I just can't drink attractive.  If the spark isn't there, it isn't worth doing. 

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RE: Sex and spirit - 10/6/2008 8:26:29 AM   
bluepanda


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aneirin

I am young free and single, by the situation of that, some believe I should be out drilling away with all I can, as I can get up to the fun males get up to, but I don't. Honestly, I have not fucked for four years, I did worry about this at first, but am now totally happy with it, as being celibate coincides with my spirituality. You see my spirituality does not forbid anything, but what I do is spiritual, therefore for me to fuck someone, there has to be a bond, a spiritual connection between myself and the other. It is not me to give so intimately of myself for the hell of it, so I am happy with that now, the right fuckable person will come, that I am sure and when that happens, they will get all of me lock, stock and a big bore barrel.

So I ask others, sex, the act of fucking, is it a recreation, or is there more too it ?

Is it a fallacy that single males are out screwing anything that moves, perhaps it is, perhaps it is part of male machismo, the fact that they should be out there at it to prove their manliness, I don't know, what do others think ?


4 years? You lucky bastard! I don't even want to tell anyone how many years it's been since I've made love. I'm right there with you, 100%. If I don't feel a strong emotional and spiritual bond with a woman, or at least want to take the next step toward feeling a strong emotional and spiritual bond with her, we're not making love. It's been many years  since I've met anyone I felt that way about, and I don't even know anymore when or even if it will ever happen again. If it does, well... obviously that would be utterly fantastic. But if it doesn't... I've got enough magical memories to keep my heart warm as long as i live. I think. And I don't want to cheapen or compromise those memories by sleeping with someone just for the sake of sleeping with someone.

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RE: Sex and spirit - 10/6/2008 8:38:46 AM   
pahunkboy


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Status: offline 		I have gone thru phazes.   That is life. Why be one demential?   Enjoy each day of life like it is your last. 

I was lamenting over the wild days of the net.  I freely gave out my phone number for phone sex and one could easily arrange a lay.  But that changed.

The first drop of coffee can be a joy. A rose can be a joy. A sunny day can be a joy.

but some of what happened is I drew the line at being a slut. That is what I want for me now.

Sex is a form of pleasure.  But at what cost?  If I dope up on a bunch of party , I will have to pay.





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RE: Sex and spirit - 10/6/2008 8:48:35 AM   
dawntreader


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aneirin

So I ask others, sex, the act of fucking, is it a recreation, or is there more too it ?



Greeting Aneirin,
 
my sexuality, even in it's most primal form, is spiritual. i think this is due to experiencing a kundalini awakening...my spiritual and sexual sides intertwining like the 2 aspects of kundalini, ida and pingala. i have had casual encounters in the past couple of years but the energy exchange and the individual created "a relationship" even if only briefly.
 
Everything i do in life is an energy exchange and fucking is no exception. Therefore, choosing a person for that exchange is important to me but so far,  have not needed to be in love with that person...just love them as being who they are~
 
Now, i am entering a different phase of exploration, a more dedicated focus on tantric. And i have chosen a partner to explore this with. This changes how i expend my sexual energy with others and i am in the process of withdrawing that aspect of myself to focus on one.
 
i am sure i have lived life times in which i felt my sexuality interferred with my spirituality so i don't judge anyone who makes that choice - however, i am so happy that it is not my choice this lifetime. The connection between the two is so powerful and i have not regretted a single sexual energy exchange - they have all been beautiful

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RE: Sex and spirit - 10/6/2008 9:54:15 AM   
bipolarber


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Status: offline 		I really don't see sex as being a detriment to being "spiritual." If anything, it brings me closer to other people and helps me stay happier and more "spiritual" than I would be otherwise.

Human sexuality takes place for one of three reasons:

Procreation...
strengthening your relationship with a special someone...
or doing it for the sheer fun of it.

And guess what? All three reasons are just as vaild as another. All three have their reason for existence, and all three are needed in a person's life. (Although I've permentently opted out of the procration catagory.[snip, snip]) Never underestimate the importance of "play" in a person's life. Without it, existence would be dull, dreary, and deeply depressing. Although a great many people seem to feel that "sex for the fun of it" is somehow degrading, (Or at least somehow animalistic or immature.) I've always found the opposite to be true. If anything will crush your spirit, it's being considered a sexual "outsider," and feeling unloved (or unlovable) because of it.

For every religion that pushed chastity and forebearance from sex as a way to God(s), there were an equal number who felt that only via sacred fucking and orgasm could you get closer to the devine. (Unfortunately, most of them were too busy having a good time, to defend themselves, when the former decided to wipe out the latter.)

Fuck buddies: they're not just for 60's "free love" hipsters anymore....

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