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LadyPact -> Coming back (to the lifestyle) home (10/6/2008 5:23:19 AM)
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For those of you who listened to Me cry, bitch, moan, sob, bang My head, and all those other wonderful expressions of emotions when clip and I parted physical company a little more than three months ago..... This post is for you.
My boy's coming home!
Yes, it's going to be for just a little more than a week. The majority of the days he's here, I'm going to be working. The days I'm not, we're going to be at Dom Con. I'll probably grin from ear to ear the whole time. It's been a while since My boy was literally at My feet. My formal collar on his neck.
When I made posts here back in late June about his finishing school here, and it was time for him to leave, I got a lot of support from the CM community. I was really grateful for that. Having to turn a daily D/s dynamic into a long distance one wasn't the easiest thing on the planet. It was a serious adjustment. When someone's been with you for a year, and then they're gone...... yeah, you kind of notice. That first week he left, I had this terrible habit of walking through the door and forgetting to close it behind Me. I was just so used to him doing it. I had no clue where anything was in My kitchen. I had to 'find' things he had put away.
But it was more than that. Those of you who read those things I posted in the days and weeks after My sub's departure know it was much more than that. There was pain, doubt, and uncertainty. Not exactly what one thinks of when they imagine the one and only Lady Pact. (Sarcasm.)
There are huge challenges when you change the proximity of the people involved in a dynamic. Take someone from your every day physical life and have them go 2,000 miles away. The challenges are different when you go from a LTR to an in person one, but they exist as well. There are adjustments to be made. Different ways to handle things. The lot of you would be bored to death with Me if I even attempted to list them all. You probably are already, so I'd better get to a point.
I want to hear about how you deal/have dealt with distance. Maybe changes in distance. Visits after long separations. What was the first thing you wanted to do after your D/s had been away for a time? What was your anticipation like right before they came home to you? How did you adjust to those differences I mentioned above? What mattered? What didn't?
You all know My story. Now, I want to hear yours.
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