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1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 5:29:12 AM   
HiddenHome


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Status: offline 		I get so sick and tired of reading profiles of females to find that they are actually couples.  The female is simply a pimp for her master!  I don't blame the female, but the spineless owner that can't find his own strange stuff!!!!!!!!!!!
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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 5:40:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		Several thoughts come to mind:
 
1.  What makes what you're looking for more important than what they're looking for?  Other than you being selfish and all.
 
2.  You presume that all of those profiles are actually genuine... I do not.  I accept that a meaningful number of them are the men themselves, using a fictitious account to make themselves appear more appealing (ie: if I own one attractive woman, then others will want me more). 
 
3.  What is the difference between what you're doing, and what you're complaining about?  You're looking for a third (or more), and so are they.  The term "hypocrite" comes to mind.
 
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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 5:43:27 AM   
HiddenHome


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Status: offline 		If they are doing it simply because they want to that is fine.  If they are doing it because they have to, it is not.  And the difference is, I am looking for what I want, not what someone else wants.

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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 5:44:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		and how do you know that they don't WANT to?

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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 5:46:49 AM   
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1 master + 3 slaves = family

Nonetheless, I agree and feel that if you are the fem half of a couple seeking additional partners, you should have a profile that is listed a “couple” not a single fem.

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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 5:49:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		Be thankful that you already have one significant person in your life.... many people don't have that let alone a third or fourth etc.

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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 5:50:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Nonetheless, I agree and feel that if you are the fem half of a couple seeking additional partners, you should have a profile that is listed a “couple” not a single fem.


Why?   Because it's more convenient for you?
 
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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 5:51:42 AM   
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ORIGINAL: HiddenHome
I don't blame the female, but the spineless owner that can't find his own strange stuff!!!!!!!!!!!

Hmmm.  I believe women are 100% responsible for their own actions.  I also believe submissives and slaves are 100% responsible for their own actions.  Do you really think that a woman you call "girl" is not an adult?


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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 5:58:50 AM   
tsatske


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Status: offline 		Collarme does not offer a space for relationship status in its basic profile info. I wish it did, and making that searchable would be great as well.
We have a couples profile. Since CM kindly decided to fix its bug (At least for now) and let us mail people again, Master has been using mostly that profile, lately, in searching.
However, we both have individual profiles. When I am doing what I mostly do here at CM - forums, writing penpals, finding new penpals - it seems to me less confusing to have my own profile, so people know which one of us they are talking to.
However, all three profiles point back to the other profiles.
If there was a way to mark myself 'owned' for search purposes, and make your life easier, I would. However, I don't think that having to read the profile to find out I am owned (in my case, it is the first thing mentioned in my profile) is any more of a hardship to you than having to read the profile to find out anything else that would make a particular girl not a good match for you.
I am insulted that you ASSUME that a girl who is helping in the search for a 'second' "Has to". When I was single, I was much more recpetive to a couple if the woman wrote me first. To me, the relationship I would have with sisterslaves was going to be the more important one, anyway.
I say how much I really want a sisterslave, on my profile. But you probably assume that he is 'making' me lie. <shrug>.
Does your current slave actually want a sisterslave in her life?

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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 6:00:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Rover

Several thoughts come to mind:
 
1.  What makes what you're looking for more important than what they're looking for?  Other than you being selfish and all.
 
2.  You presume that all of those profiles are actually genuine... I do not.  I accept that a meaningful number of them are the men themselves, using a fictitious account to make themselves appear more appealing (ie: if I own one attractive woman, then others will want me more). 
 
3.  What is the difference between what you're doing, and what you're complaining about?  You're looking for a third (or more), and so are they.  The term "hypocrite" comes to mind.
 
John


Hey, John.   Just thanks.


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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 6:01:54 AM   
Rover


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ORIGINAL: HiddenHome

If they are doing it simply because they want to that is fine.  If they are doing it because they have to, it is not.  And the difference is, I am looking for what I want, not what someone else wants.


Ok, let's critique this kernel of wisdom.  So it's ok if your girl goes down on you because she wants to, but not ok if she doesn't feel like it but you tell her to do so anyway?  It's ok if she cooks you dinner because she wants to, but not ok if she doesn't want to but you tell her do do so anyway?  It's ok if she cleans the toilet because she wants to, but not ok if she doesn't want to but you tell her to do so anyway?
 
Seriously, if you're only asked to do the things you want to do, is it "submission" at all?

Pfftttttt.
 
John

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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 6:05:45 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Rover
quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Nonetheless, I agree and feel that if you are the fem half of a couple seeking additional partners, you should have a profile that is listed a “couple” not a single fem.


Why?   Because it's more convenient for you?

John
Yes, for those like you that are seeking. 

I know you are aware we all belong to an alt lifestyle dating site which is why you listed yourself as a “dominant” and took time to write up that spiffy profile.  For you to pose such a question when you work so hard to make yourself convenient is rather . . . hypocritical.  Selecting ‘couple’ is just another one of those convenient choice options here at CollarMe.

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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 6:11:54 AM   
HiddenHome


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Status: offline 		ResidentSadist - Thanks for your support.  The stones were a little brutal.  I feel that the big difference between a "single" female looking for a girl for her owner, as opposed to any other tasks that she is required to perform, is that it affects others besides just her and her owner.

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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 6:12:47 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

quote:

ORIGINAL: Rover
quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Nonetheless, I agree and feel that if you are the fem half of a couple seeking additional partners, you should have a profile that is listed a “couple” not a single fem.


Why?   Because it's more convenient for you?

John


Yes, for those like you that are seeking. 


Seriously, dude... do not go through life trying to decide what is more convenient for me or anyone else.  If you want to portray this as anything more than your own self-interest, then you're being intellectually dishonest. 

quote:


I know you are aware we all belong to an alt lifestyle dating site which is why you listed yourself as a “dominant” and took time to write up that spiffy profile.  For you to pose such a question when you work so hard to make yourself convenient is rather . . . hypocritical.  Selecting ‘couple’ is just another one of those convenient choice options here at CollarMe.


I have no idea what my being dominant or my spiffy profile have to do with this, but thanks for noticing.  Nor do I have any idea what making myself "convenient" means, or how it makes me a hypocrite. 
 
But I do know that people make their own choices in life, even if you don't like them or approve of them.  Even if there was such a thing as "one true way", I rather doubt that your way would prevail. 
 
Unless you own them, or employ them, no one is obligated to abide by your wishes.  And whining about it in a public forum is just pathetic.
 
John

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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 6:16:26 AM   
Rover


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ORIGINAL: HiddenHome

ResidentSadist - Thanks for your support.  The stones were a little brutal.  I feel that the big difference between a "single" female looking for a girl for her owner, as opposed to any other tasks that she is required to perform, is that it affects others besides just her and her owner.


Allow me to point out that it affects no one, but evidently inconveniences you (there is a substantial difference between "affect" and "inconvenience"). 
 
You know, single submissives who have no interest in poly relationships might feel similarly inconvenienced because your profile is not listed as a "couple".  Is their time and convenience less important than your own?
 
Of course it is.  ;)
 
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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 6:19:50 AM   
tsatske


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Status: offline 		I think RS meant, - though I could be wrong - that if the primary purpose of your profile was/is to search, than having a couples profile is a bit more honest.
I did not feel - though, again, i might be in error - that he was, for instance, objecting to the way that I have a fem profile for my own use on the boards and with keeping in contact with firneds.
This week, two people have taken time out of their busy day to write me to call me fat and worthless ( I don't get nearly enough of that, i think it is hilarous). One of them was a woman who went on and ON about how her Master would NEVER tolerate someone as out of shape as I, Her Master would send her off for lipo, ect. ect.
When I viewed her profile, it never mentioned a Master, and said, 'Daddy Doms esp. welcome'. See, I consider that misleading, to the poor Dom who might try and write her.

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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 6:20:11 AM   
HiddenHome


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Status: offline 		Look again John - our profile does say couple!

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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 6:23:46 AM   
GreedyTop


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ORIGINAL: HiddenHome

ResidentSadist - Thanks for your support.  The stones were a little brutal.  I feel that the big difference between a "single" female looking for a girl for her owner, as opposed to any other tasks that she is required to perform, is that it affects others besides just her and her owner.


Who does it affect?  She's part of a couple, you discover this, move on. The only effect is that you've 'wasted' a little bit of time.

Dude, its the internet.  Get out, meet people OFFLINE.  NObody is required to meet YOUR requirements except your girl.  If you're so invested in someone you've never met that it has a negative effect on you, then you might want to take a bit for some introspection.


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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 6:23:52 AM   
HiddenHome


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Status: offline 		tsatske - I agree with you completely.  And having the profile arrangement that you have is quite appropriate.

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RE: 1 Dom + 1 Slave = 1 Couple - 10/6/2008 6:24:33 AM   
Rover


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ORIGINAL: HiddenHome

Look again John - our profile does say couple!


Then bully for you!! 
 
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