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Question of the day - 10/6/2008 1:53:45 PM   
sloegin


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Status: offline 		 When is a submissive more important than ur spouse?

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RE: Question of the day - 10/6/2008 1:58:46 PM   
LadyPact


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I think one time would be if there would be a serious issue between My sub and Myself.  Perhaps an area we would have to work on within the D/s structure that was vital.  I'm also going to add things like serious illness/injury.  Another might be immediate aftercare.  I'm sure other folks will come up with additional examples.

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RE: Question of the day - 10/6/2008 1:59:16 PM   
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RE: Question of the day - 10/6/2008 2:02:12 PM   
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RE: Question of the day - 10/6/2008 2:40:18 PM   
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RE: Question of the day - 10/6/2008 2:41:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		beautiful answer!!!

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RE: Question of the day - 10/6/2008 2:46:25 PM   
LaTigresse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sloegin

 When is a submissive more important than ur spouse?



Too vague a question for a serious answer.


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RE: Question of the day - 10/6/2008 3:44:54 PM   
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RE: Question of the day - 10/6/2008 5:27:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sloegin

 When is a submissive more important than ur spouse?




When there is some immediate situation that either puts a submissive in my care at risk, or where xhe is experiencing a higher level of need than my Darling for that moment.

Same would apply to my Darling if she was the one at risk or more needy... and to me, under the same circumstances. It applied to our guys when they were alive, both inside and outside of the marriages within our core... greatest need determined where the energy went at any given time... and if one of the servants was in need, it wasn't just one of us there for hir... it was as many of us as we could manage... on both sides of the collar.

This is what makes our family functional for us. YMMV.

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RE: Question of the day - 10/6/2008 6:55:30 PM   
tasha_tart


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Wouldn't that make the question kind of meaningless?


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RE: Question of the day - 10/6/2008 6:58:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: tasha_tart

Isn't Ur an ancient Sumerian city?

Wouldn't that make the question kind of meaningless?


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I thought it was on the south side of Philly. But its been a while since Ive been there.




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RE: Question of the day - 10/6/2008 7:06:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sloegin

 When is a submissive more important than ur spouse?




My slave and my spouse are one in the same, both are very important to me but above all the man that I love is the most important to me.

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RE: Question of the day - 10/6/2008 7:23:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sloegin

 When is a submissive more important than ur spouse?




I can only answer this vague question with the most general of answers AS IT WOULD APPLY TO ME...

If I were married, I would be married to a submissive man, who would be my submissive, so....always and never would be the answer.  Always because as my husband he would always be most important to me.  And never, because if there were any others outside of that relationship they would always, always be second to him.

< Message edited by yourMissTress -- 10/6/2008 7:24:32 PM >

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RE: Question of the day - 10/6/2008 7:54:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sloegin

 When is a submissive more important than ur spouse?



I can't answer that. Since I am neither the submissive nor the spouse in this very general question;  any answer I give would be extremely personal and subjective at best.

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RE: Question of the day - 10/6/2008 8:08:06 PM   
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RE: Question of the day - 10/6/2008 8:11:01 PM   
IrishMist


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ORIGINAL: pompeii

A submissive is a sexual game while a spouse is a legal entity.

That's  only your personal opinion though....and I admit, it's probably the opinion of most people; but it's not the way everone will think. A question like this is just too generic to have a 'good ' answer to it.

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RE: Question of the day - 10/6/2008 8:22:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sloegin

 When is a submissive more important than ur spouse?


You are fuckign kidding me all this time and I didnt realize that I could have a sub AND a spouse.  course that begs the quesiton who in their RIGHT mind wants 2 bitches in your ear yapping.  That is like asking for conflict and drama.

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RE: Question of the day - 10/6/2008 9:53:12 PM   
SlayerZ


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Status: offline 		Errr... If I had a sub then she'd be my spouse as well, so I don't really know how to answer this question. lol

It's not like I would have a spouse and have a sub on the side as that would be rather half-assed, and I would totally use my entire ass.

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RE: Question of the day - 10/6/2008 10:59:38 PM   
NihilusZero


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Status: offline 		As this thread is (I suspect) a projection of anger and incredulity, the answer doesn't really matter.

The better question (the one which will involve taking personal action rather than engaging in self-victimization) is: "How long do you remain with a spouse when you constantly feel his sub is more important?"

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RE: Question of the day - 10/6/2008 11:17:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's pretty easy to be more important than something that doesn't exist.

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