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wannabe male slave - 12/5/2005 8:25:20 PM

soootie

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Hi to the Domme Ladies,hi guys
could i solicit opinions please, as a very inexperienced submissive would some training from a ProDomme be helpful in achieving a situation where i was more confident of properly projecting the submissive in me, this is something that does not seem to be coming across very well.?
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RE: wannabe male slave - 12/5/2005 10:23:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: soootie

Hi to the Domme Ladies,hi guys
could i solicit opinions please, as a very inexperienced submissive would some training from a ProDomme be helpful in achieving a situation where i was more confident of properly projecting the submissive in me, this is something that does not seem to be coming across very well.?
Tanks and regards
soootie

While it depends a lot of the individual prodomme, I'm not sure that it really would be useful. After all, the purpose of a slave is to please the dominant, not just any dominant but the one you want to keep.

Since peoples needs vary widely, learning what pleases one woman wouldn't guarantee to please another. This is made worse by the fact that a successful prodomme tries to tailor the scene to match the customer.

It may be just me but the most aggravating "slaves" I've had experience with saw themselves as "well trained." They knew how to do lots of things, just not the things I want in a slave.

As a novice, I think you'd be better off thinking about what sort of things you'd enjoy doing for a lady and then looking for one who likes those sorts of things.

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RE: wannabe male slave - 12/6/2005 8:10:25 AM

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quote:

Hi to the Domme Ladies,hi guys
could i solicit opinions please, as a very inexperienced submissive would some training from a ProDomme be helpful in achieving a situation where i was more confident of properly projecting the submissive in me, this is something that does not seem to be coming across very well.?
Tanks and regards
soootie

Having a couple sessions with a prodomme can help you in that it will allow you to explore some of the bdsm activities that interest you. I don't consider it "training" per se though.

Probably the best thing you can do to help yourself is to learn how to COURT women. The reason I say that is that is the key to getting a Domme's attention - and keeping it - more so than being able to say you've experienced x, y, z.

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RE: wannabe male slave - 12/6/2005 10:32:37 AM

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Pro dominants do many things----it can be good to scene with a pro, since you can experience a range of activities without having an emotional investment in "pleasing" that person, or behaving in a certain way. It's a good way to practice, and get some idea of what you can and can't handle, or what fantasies are great in the brain and ghastly in reality. Knowing that can add to your self confidence and presentation with new women you are meeting.

I can't speak for your area, but in mine, the major events are run by pro or former pro dommes........not sure why! The point is, many of us are out there promoting bdsm education. You might find that you can get some good advice for behavior, courtship, and local resources from your local pro dommes. For free, even! (at least if you're me.....but then I am the Auntie around here, and I consider it my responsibility to help new folks.)

I recommend that you avoid the word "training", unless you are being trained to do something specific, like serve at formal meals European style, or how to do pedicures. Everyone expects their submissives to have good manners---after that, IMX the requirements vary widely. It's more important to show that you are flexible and interested in learning, than to show that you have heaps of "training" that won't be of use to who you are serving.

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RE: wannabe male slave - 12/12/2005 2:56:49 PM

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dearest sootie
greetings,
no
you can never
regret a pro

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RE: wannabe male slave - 12/12/2005 3:38:53 PM

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I think what many can most benefit from isn't so much from the training a pro can provides task or taste wise, but from learning basic etiquette and everyday proper manners in how to interact with or approach women, dominant in this case as not to have the door shut in their face before they can get a foot over the door step.

That though could probably best be learned by talking with others that have seblences of the types of relationships you wish for. Like talking to others as you are doing on sites. Also, really listening and actually hearing what the women on sites like CM are saying they want in a submissives/slave man. All over this site, there's enough info to fill a book that tell how to present oneself, but, many of us folk just like doing the same thing over and over to get the same result.

There's also a lovely woman, Aakasha, on this site, that may be able to assist you with your approach, I once recall her mentioning, in a thread on CM, that she was going to be offering a program for submissive/slave males part of the matter you've brought up. Here's a link to her website:

http://www.akashaweb.com

I hope it helps.

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RE: wannabe male slave - 12/12/2005 6:41:23 PM

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If you can find one with a lot of good references (from people with references) and with whom you can discuss in a very realistic way what you want... then go for it. The value of your time and money spent there can only be determined after the fact.

Can I make another suggestion? (and this one goes for anyone who wants to be a slave, or for that matter ANYONE). Jack Rinella has a new book out called "Becoming a Slave" that is really fabulous about almost every aspect. It's the first one that I've read that in such a detailed way slaps around the reality of life as a slave. There's a link for it at Leatherviews dot com.

I hope this is not seen as a sales pitch, but it's a book I acquired recently and read. I see a lot of value in it for other, especially for those who repeatedly ask here about how to learn to become a slave.

Good luck.

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