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RE: Need some advise - 12/7/2005 2:53:31 PM   
ModeratorEleven


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Status: offline 		The desire for discretion doesn't always indicate dishonesty.

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RE: Need some advise - 12/8/2005 1:50:21 AM   
Marquisd


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Status: offline 		Without appearing totally rude.............................and reading what you wrote in your reply....

according to the Canadian Diabetes association..........5 years after the first leg is amputated the patient with diabetes is most likely to use the other leg......and 5 years after that .............will die.

Sometimes it takes hard facts to take care of ones own body. From what you are saying this person does not give a flying f*** about himself.

I can only feel sorry......................I know it will not willingly happen here.

cheers

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RE: Need some advise - 12/10/2005 3:31:01 AM   
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according to the Canadian Diabetes association..........5 years after the first leg is amputated the patient with diabetes is most likely to use the other leg......and 5 years after that .............will die.


Hi again,
He lost his first leg, below the knee amputation, in 95. He lost his foot in the fall of 04. He had his stroke and heart attack that fall also. So your guess is as good as mine. However, I have given great consideration as to his demise!

"now wait a second ...

am i the only one who read this girl's profile .. where she states that she is looking for someone to play with "discreetly?"

sounds like dishonesty is commonplace in their relationship.

humbly,
sunshine"

Dear Sunshine,

My discrection is more because I live in a very tight knit community. Here in this town of less than 1,000, they are very very conservative. We have one local grocery and 6 churches! I do NOT want my daughter that is 17 having to deal with my sexual preferences at school. And that is exactly what would happen IF anyone in this small town knew my lifestyle.
I have already been crucified once by CPS for my lifestyle. My ex of 14 yrs decided that my lifestyle was not what he considered to be "right in the eyes of God". He called CPS and my whole house, computer and lifestyle was scrutinized. Not to mention my four children were removed while this 72 hour investigation took place! I now have a letter stuck to my fridge clearing me of all such things, however, ppl are slow to forget. So I would very much like to just hang out in the background and let everyone think that there was NOTHING to it to begin with! I hide all my toys, implements and anything that might even resemble a bdsm toy.
This is the reason for discretion! I posted a pic on here, so that ppl in the area I live know who I am. I did belong to the local bdsm community, until one of the "subs" helped my ex with his endevours. There are several on this site that live in my area and know me personally! So instead of getting mail from certain persons wondering who I am only to discover it is me, I posted a picture to let them know up front.
As for finding a hardon. That is my business. However since you feel I am being dishonest, I have said EVERYTHING I have posted on here to my Dom at least five times over in the last two yrs. HE knows how I feel and has been sleeping on the couch for many days now. HIS choice, NOT mine. He has also told me "I do not want this relationship". I feel he said it out of hurt, but he did say it. Rest assured, my Dom will no longer live in the same home as I do LONG before I actually do the dirty deed of having sex with another! And I have changed my profile to remove that I am just looking for casual sex.
Hope that clears it up!
respectfully thndershadow

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RE: Need some advise - 12/10/2005 11:38:17 AM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		im sorry for what your experiencing thndrshadow. i hope you find a solution. If your Dom has gone two years not willing to do anything about your grievances or face his issues, i think it will take a rock to fall on his head to do so now. i can only imagine how rejected and cheated you feel. For your own peace of mind i feel you have two choices, leave or accept the situation.

best wishes to you

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RE: Need some advise - 12/10/2005 11:58:10 AM   
sunshine333


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Status: offline 		my apologies, thundershadow, for jumping to conclusions.

i see you changed your profile and it no longer looks deceiptful. i would encourage you to take that one step further and make what it is you seek clear. it's none of my business, of course. just a friendly suggestion.

be well,
sunshine

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RE: Need some advise - 12/10/2005 12:17:23 PM   
candystripper


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Status: offline 		i just wanted to second what Oscar said. IME, when a lie has been told, watch the tracks, because the drama and bulls**t trains will be pulling in shortly. To protect myself, i drop any Man who lies to me, for any reason, about anything, immediately. This is an absolute deal-breaker for me. i have no regrets about adopting this line in the sand, apart from not having done so sooner.

candystripper

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RE: Need some advise - 12/10/2005 5:26:44 PM   
MasterFerdinand


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Status: offline 		thundershadow,
Thank you for bringing the subject up, and I think you've gotten some good advice.
However bitter the pill is to "swallow", (pun intended) L/let's face the facts, here. he lied to you about a lot more than E.D. As you know, that problem is relatively easy to resolve. he was abused as a child/young man by a woman. he is GAY, and can accept fellatio from a female slave because that is demeaning to her, and in his own way, revenge on Whomever dominated him before. Get yourself out of this relationship, as a slave, if your needs are not being met then you don't have a Master, you've got an abuser. Big Difference!!

Get Out, and be well

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RE: Need some advise - 12/11/2005 9:31:45 PM   
thndershadow


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Everyone seems normal, until you get to know them


Isn't that the truth!

We have had that heart to heart. I am not sure where it will go right now. But it doesn't look good. His nights of sleeping on the couch and NO head have brought him to talking. Now my job is to figure out what I want to do with the info. And it is A LOT of info! I would tell what the conversation was, but since they are NOT my issues, they are His, I can't. I hope that makes sense? Just the way I think.

I have to say, with Xmas coming, and I don't have any family except my 17 yr old daughter, this is a really really sucky (no pun) time to have to deal with this. But hey, I started it, by stop giving him head, thinking that he would want more of what I wanted. However that is not the case. I can say, I won't break it off until after the holidays. It is not fair to my daughter who is really really attached to him as her step father. Her own father, my ex, disowned her. My other three children went to live with him, she stayed here. She hates her father and nothing I can do, including counseling for her will help with that. So I don't want to dump that on her head (her syblings have disowned her too for living with me, the whole god thing, I am christian/Wiccan, if there such a thing, my pagan friends say yes that i have it right, lol but who knows, point is they think she is damned for staying with me, whole lifestyle thing and my religous views) she won't be seeing them for Xmas either. But that is a whole NEW conversation.

Thank you to all for listening and posting! I love you all for it. I love the whole community of alternative lifestyles for sticking together to help another out! I guess I do have more than my 17 yr old to be thankful for this season I just have to remember I belong to a community that really cares for its members!

thnder

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RE: Need some advise - 12/13/2005 2:50:24 PM   
KOMA


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Status: offline 		How long do you want to put up with this...?

Two years is a bit too f_ _ _ _ _ _ _ long if it were me!

Go get fucked real good like you need and deserve somewhere else.

He is lying to you... their is no ED, but there is MD...mental disfunction!

You deserve to have it all


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RE: Need some advise - 2/1/2006 7:15:15 AM   
illbegforu


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Status: offline 		I was caught by my master sucking a cock without permission.Because I behaved like a bitch in heat he is sending me to another master.I am to be trained to fuck his german shepard.Than I can return.He has already told me that untill he is sure I can be trusted,the only cock I will be allowed is Ralph.[the dog].My question is how can I show him I will stop sucking other men without permission.Help,he has already put a cage in room for me to stay in

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RE: Need some advise - 2/1/2006 7:23:49 AM   
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ORIGINAL: illbegforu

I was caught by my master sucking a cock without permission.Because I behaved like a bitch in heat he is sending me to another master.I am to be trained to fuck his german shepard.Than I can return.He has already told me that untill he is sure I can be trusted,the only cock I will be allowed is Ralph.[the dog].My question is how can I show him I will stop sucking other men without permission.Help,he has already put a cage in room for me to stay in

This post will probably be deleted but...

Was this under your hard limits? If it wasn't then I suggest you deal with the consequences and allow time to go on. I'm not really sure this will show him you can be trusted either and it sounds more like a largely contrived situation.


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RE: Need some advise - 2/1/2006 7:57:09 AM   
Sensualips


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My question is how can I show him I will stop sucking other men without permission.


Interesting punishment, or at least threat of punishment. I am not sure that it will prove you can be trusted not to suck other men. It would just prove you were willing to atone by accepting this.

The only way to demonstrate you can be trusted in that regard is to...well, to close your mouth and stop giving head without permission. Ever. But rebuilding trust takes lots of time, if it is possible at all.

You could possibly show regret or show an understanding of why this occurred and how it will be prevented in the future.

Not sure why this is not a new thread or how it pertains to the OP, but it is just too bizarre for me to skip over.


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RE: Need some advise - 2/1/2006 8:43:29 AM   
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I am to be trained to fuck his german shepard.


Ok first my pet peeve..it is shepherd :)

Luckily there really isn't much training involved. The training is much more for fido than you. He is the pitcher..you are just the catcher in this case. So given that you should be home to your owner in no time.

You can prove to him that you can be trusted by simply keeping your mouth shut and over time he will see you can be trusted.

Good luck.

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RE: Need some advise - 2/1/2006 9:08:59 AM   
Crazytwice


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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I think you need to draw a line in the sand, give him a firm timeline for visiting the doc and getting info about the ed meds (not everyone can take them, depending on their health).

Will he use other "tools" (toys!) for penetration on you?

Good luck.


I agree with Katie. A line in the sand is in order. Because he's diabetic, he may not be able to take the ED meds. Go to the doc with him. A penile implant may be an option.

Good luck.
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