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MistresseLotus -> "Unanswered Prayers" (10/7/2008 11:25:54 AM)

I’m feeling wistful today.  I read in my old hometown newspaper online an that  old boyfriend had died.  I last saw him 36 years ago.
 
I remembered our break up and my hissy fit.. the typical things little 19 year olds are prone to do.
 
I read his obituary and saw that life hadn’t worked out for him as he had hoped.  He had had 4 offspring and one step child.. 2 grand-ums.
 
He had owned a business and then worked for a trucking company for 17 years.  He had needed help from the local charity in the end.  Seemed his life was just getting back on track when he keeled over.
 
The longer you live- the more you see peoples stories unfold and the wisdom of the Universe.
 
Then I thought how my life would have been had things “worked out” and I thought of this Garth Brooks song Unanswered Prayers
 
What have been your “unanswered prayers”?


(I'm starting to think my "edited by" here is my signature line [:D])



hoodie -> RE: "Unanswered Prayers" (10/7/2008 11:47:00 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MistresseLotus

I’m feeling wistful today.  I read in my old hometown newspaper online an that  old boyfriend had died.  I last saw him 36 years ago.
 
I remembered our break up and my hissy fit.. the typical things little 19 year olds are prone to do.
 
I read his obituary and saw that life hadn’t worked out for him as he had hoped.  He had had 4 offspring and one step child.. 2 grand-ums.
 
He had owned a business and then worked for a trucking company for 17 years.  He had needed help from the local charity in the end.  Seemed his life was just getting back on track when he keeled over.
 
The longer you live- the more you see peoples stories unfold and the wisdom of the Universe.
 
Then I thought how my life would have been had things “worked out” and I thought of this Garth Brooks song Unanswered Prayers
 
What have been your “unanswered prayers”?


(I'm starting to think my "edited by" here is my signature line [:D])


I'm not sure that I have any unanswered prayers.  I think I've just taken alot of the negatives from my past, and turned them into positives for my life, and the lives of my children. 

I'm sorry for your loss.  Even though it was so long ago that you last saw him, I can tell it pains you. 



bipolarber -> RE: "Unanswered Prayers" (10/7/2008 12:02:00 PM)

Everytime I think I'm living a crappy life, I tune into one of those shows the religious channels run, about the famine or other natural disaster that is threatening to wipe out entire areas of the globe. It's a reminder of just how cushy I have it. And then I usually send some money in to something like the United Way, or Save the Children Foundation. (I stay away from religions that broadcast begathons)

In the end, I feel much better about how I'm doing.

Sorry your ex boyfriend had a hard time in the latter part of his life. I lost my Dad this last spring, and thanks to a lifetime of exposure to farming chemicals and dust, he didn't have a pretty time of it in his last couple of years. Asthma, diabetes, pulmonary infections, the onset of alzheimers...  it pretty much sucked for him too. So, I can relate. The end will never be as we imagine it. I'm just glad I'm here, now, and have such wonderful people around me as friends. I hope you have some in your life too. They always help. [:)]



LaTigresse -> RE: "Unanswered Prayers" (10/7/2008 12:30:58 PM)

Oh good grief Lotus, at age 46 I have to say there have been more than I can even remember. Usually relationship oriented.

I think one of the greatest things about time and maturity is that it teaches you to be more open to those forks in the road and the road blocks on the path you thought you absolutely had to take. Alternate routes can be so much more enlightening.



MistresseLotus -> RE: "Unanswered Prayers" (10/7/2008 1:00:54 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Oh good grief Lotus, at age 46 I have to say there have been more than I can even remember. Usually relationship oriented.

I think one of the greatest things about time and maturity is that it teaches you to be more open to those forks in the road and the road blocks on the path you thought you absolutely had to take. Alternate routes can be so much more enlightening.



Yep, that it does.  What I am looking for here are accounts people have of things that didn't go as they had thought they should, only to find out later.. it was because they were meant to "dodge the bullet" so to speak :)  Maybe it will give comfort to those that have had breakups to realize things DO happen for the best and as they should.

Thanks for your sympathies.. but it wasn't like that.  It was only a 2 month relationship with intense soap opera moments is all :)  No biggie.  I'm just musing about paths not taken.



MadAxeman -> RE: "Unanswered Prayers" (10/7/2008 1:16:21 PM)

I turned down the chance to join a band going to the states many years ago. For a while I saw it as a missed chance, but they didn't play the way I feel. Years later I met one of the guys (they were all from my home town) and he said it hadn't worked out. They had all ended up in dead end jobs too proud to come home as failures, a couple developed severe drug problems, one was ultimately to lose his life. That may have been a bullet dodged.



MistresseLotus -> RE: "Unanswered Prayers" (10/7/2008 1:29:10 PM)

Yup.. that's what I mean.



windchymes -> RE: "Unanswered Prayers" (10/7/2008 1:47:19 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistresseLotus

I’m feeling wistful today.  I read in my old hometown newspaper online an that  old boyfriend had died.  I last saw him 36 years ago.
 
I remembered our break up and my hissy fit.. the typical things little 19 year olds are prone to do.
 
I read his obituary and saw that life hadn’t worked out for him as he had hoped.  He had had 4 offspring and one step child.. 2 grand-ums.
 
He had owned a business and then worked for a trucking company for 17 years.  He had needed help from the local charity in the end.  Seemed his life was just getting back on track when he keeled over.
 
The longer you live- the more you see peoples stories unfold and the wisdom of the Universe.
 
Then I thought how my life would have been had things “worked out” and I thought of this Garth Brooks song Unanswered Prayers
 
What have been your “unanswered prayers”?


(I'm starting to think my "edited by" here is my signature line [:D])


Don't be too quick to assume that because he went from owning a business to just being an employee to needing charity at the end of his life means that he died unhappy.  That's pretty much what my father did....went from being in prestigious higher-management positions to failing at running his own business and losing all his retirement money to pretty much living off his meager social security and his wife's (my stepmother's) disability payments.  His last 15 or so years were the happiest of his life because he had peace of mind and simplicity with a woman he truly loved.

My condolences on your friend's death, though. :)



MistresseLotus -> RE: "Unanswered Prayers" (10/7/2008 1:47:52 PM)

Another one I had in my college days was an infatuation with a Persian college guy that used to board with us.  OOOOOOOooooooooooo I was so in love. He propsed marriage prefacing it with "I will never ask another this", meaning that if I turned him down he would never ask another to marry him thus dooming him to live a lonely life. To sweeten the pot.. he said we would move to Iran, live with his family of 10 siblings, his hashish addicted mother and of course I would have to convert to Islam.  He did say I would be "sogali" (forgive the spelling)- that's "first wife".  Yep.. I actually PONDERED the offer!  I finally wrote him while he was on Christmas break visitng his sister, through streaming tears I wrote him a note in which I felt that I would never bring him peace because of my nature and our cultures being so different.  I never heard from him again.  He's another I wondered what happend to.  I had heard he had returned to Iran.  Damn he was cute :)   Blue-black hair and honey colored brown eyes.  Looked like Omar Scharrif. But his laugh turned me off.  His laugh was like a little g*rl's giggle!  I loooked at his picture years later..and I wonder where I thought he looked like Omar....  Love is blind.  Homones too :)



babygirl005 -> RE: "Unanswered Prayers" (10/7/2008 2:02:48 PM)

i prayed and prayed for my marriage of 27 years to be reconciled.  Even though he had cheated on me numerous times in that 27 years.  That prayer was not to be answered.  Now, i have my wonderful Master, and i have never been as happy or blessed.  Now, i know what it feels like to be truly loved by a strong man.  i am so glad that prayer wasn't answered.



LaTigresse -> RE: "Unanswered Prayers" (10/7/2008 2:18:40 PM)

Hey, I prayed for a happily ever after with a GUY once!!!!

Of course that was way before I had a clue how wonderfully delicious women could be.



philosophy -> RE: "Unanswered Prayers" (10/7/2008 2:23:22 PM)

FR

.....um's.........still pisses me off sometimes.....



MistresseLotus -> RE: "Unanswered Prayers" (10/7/2008 2:45:14 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: philosophy

FR

.....um's.........still pisses me off sometimes.....


How so?  Having them or not having them?



philosophy -> RE: "Unanswered Prayers" (10/7/2008 3:09:02 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistresseLotus

quote:

ORIGINAL: philosophy

FR

.....um's.........still pisses me off sometimes.....


How so?  Having them or not having them?


.....having them die



MistresseLotus -> RE: "Unanswered Prayers" (10/7/2008 3:40:04 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: philosophy

.....having them die


My condolences.  Just know there is a reason for everything.  The impact of their lives had a purpose.



Lockit -> RE: "Unanswered Prayers" (10/7/2008 3:42:58 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: philosophy

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistresseLotus

quote:

ORIGINAL: philosophy

FR

.....um's.........still pisses me off sometimes.....


How so?  Having them or not having them?


.....having them die


Damn that one got me in a deep way...  I still can hardly breath... I am so sorry philosophy...



chamberqueen -> RE: "Unanswered Prayers" (10/7/2008 3:53:47 PM)

Just about a year ago I found out that my slave/fiance was killed in Iraq.  How I wept!  But, life goes on.  In December I decided I needed a big change in my life and met my Master.  I decided I was tired of being in charge and thought I would see how I did as a submissive.  Now I am in the best relationship of my life, am a collared slave, and things just keep getting better and better.  When one door closes another one opens, and I have never been on such a joyous and fulfilling journey before.



philosophy -> RE: "Unanswered Prayers" (10/7/2008 4:21:10 PM)

It was some years ago, and i came to terms with it a long time ago too. Still, every now and then i get wistful and wish things were different.

Bad things happen.....sometimes the universe is spiky and uncomfortable.......but sometimes it is wonderful and amazing. The trick is not to let the former overshadow the latter.

Also, when i look at the news i realise that whatever has happened in my life that i wish were different there are those who live lives of such abject misery that my woes pale in comparison.

Damn, this is getting a bit maudlin.........but thanks for the kind words.



PanthersMom -> RE: "Unanswered Prayers" (10/7/2008 6:54:56 PM)

on my wedding day in 1984 i prayed i'd spend the rest of my life with my first husband.  today is cub's and my sixth anniversary.  god does watch over those who are too stupid to watch out for themselves, he saved me from a lifetime of heartache and gave me happiness instead.
PM



VampiresLair -> RE: "Unanswered Prayers" (10/7/2008 6:59:30 PM)

"More tears have been shed over answered prayers than unanswered ones." - Truman Capote

Thankfully I have no unanswered prayers. The only one I had, for a while, was that I prayed I wouldnt fall out of touch with those friends who were so very important to me when I was growing up, since I had moved so far away. And lo and behold several of them contacted me on facebook and we are now back in touch and planning on meeting face to face again after, in some cases, upwards of 20 years.

DV



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