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RE: who should make the first move? - 3/9/2006 5:29:53 PM

MstrTiger

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I never approach slaves I like it much more when they come to me, there are some websites where people can send each other stars or smiley faces etc I always ignore them and expect people to send me a message. Like mspurrmeow I am also annoyed by random onlookers some of them are very rude I usually try to ignore them though I always manage to make eye contact with them when I am looking around the room which they usually see as a sign of encouragement so they look even more.

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RE: who should make the first move? - 4/14/2006 8:38:47 PM

LoganStrange

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I will just say this, slaves and subs are approched by thousands of horn dogs, dom wannabees, fake masters and the like,
I prefer to think that if I am indeed a worthy Master, she will seek me out.

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RE: who should make the first move? - 4/16/2006 3:02:27 AM

acctonthelook

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I don't remember who contacted whom first with me an my mentor Dom, but I'm glad we met.

I often contact ppl in my area for just friendship and I try to state that clearly.

When I have interest in someone I clearly state something that interested me about their profile and I always ask them to review my profile and if there's a mutual interest to please right back. Most Dom's I've contact said they liked that I made first contact because it clearly showed interest in being a good sub and to serve well. In fact, I'm still chatting with several and I cannot wait to finally meet them!

What urks me is to assume I ever would even want someone to email me with the immediate intention of consideration. I don't even know a thing about you yet? At times, I have received emails re: consideration. WHAT? The shock. I should never get such proposals until we have gotten to know one another in depth. Needless to say those go right into the 'block' folder!

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RE: who should make the first move? - 4/16/2006 5:21:12 AM

ScooterTrash

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ORIGINAL: cravinspankin

I have been told that a submissive should be patient, that if a Dom/Master is interested in her, He will let her know.

I wonder what you Doms and Masters think? Whether it's online, or say at a dungeon or lifestyle party....
Do you think it's inappropriate for a (single/available/unowned) sub to approach you?
Or would you rather she did?

To my knowledge, there's no real protocol here, either can and should contact &/or strike up a conversation if there is some interest. Even if it doesn't lead to anything substantial it's not necessarily a loss, just meeting and talking to other people is simply being social. Networking is not a bad thing either, you might contact someone who leads you to someone else, stranger things have happened. The only rule (lack of better term) I could see if be yourself and be polite (assuming being yourself is being polite..lol).

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RE: who should make the first move? - 4/16/2006 6:01:53 AM

LaTigresse

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While I have no problem meeting people and enjoying good conversation I never assume its any more than that. I have heard that I am intimidating to approach though it always is a bit of a surprise to me when I hear it. I have to say I just adore being flirted with a bit, okay sometimes ALOT to make me realize what the heck is going on, it really strokes my ego and lets me know my efforts and advances will not be wasted. I had to laugh at the across the room telepathic stare comment, I believe I tried that once and no, it didn't have the desired effect I was going for at all.......

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RE: who should make the first move? - 4/16/2006 7:23:46 AM

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Anyone who isn't flattered when approached in a respectful way by another person may not be someone worth your time. If you are interested in someone, expressing that interest in a tasteful, humourous and respectful manner is never a bad thing.

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RE: who should make the first move? - 4/16/2006 8:27:46 AM

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Most people who try and shame others are doing so out of some power trip and in the case of Doms, they are trying in a sick way to put you on the defensive and most submissives will then go over the top trying to make up for the imaginary offense.

I love it when submissives offer themselves up to me. I have approached submissives, some of whom have loved it.

I was once at a party, a halloween party and this witch walked in who bewitched my loins instantly. She was hot and I knew if I approached her she would blow me off so I simply ignored her. Late that evening a friend of hers approached me and said my little witch had spent the last hour checking on my references, watching my play style and was waiting face down and naked for me in another room.

So I marched right in there and read her the riot act for being so out of place for topping from the bottom and taking over my role of being the one to ask.

either that or I went in and cut her panties off and proceded to have my way with her, I can't quite remember witch...

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RE: who should make the first move? - 4/16/2006 8:51:02 AM

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I dont chase either, but I do leave trails of snausages and carrots for the ponys and pups.....The boys that really want this show me, and the ones that are the most enthusiastic (hungry not greedy) are the ones that get first priority.

Show enthusiasm my dear girl, it is the antithesis of what we learned in high school, I know, but vulnerability, earnestness, courage, conviction and enthusiasm are the sexiest things to a Dominant.

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