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pixidustpet -> RE: Need some advice (10/11/2008 9:59:01 PM)
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ORIGINAL: theRopist
I just arrived home from a memorial service for my friend. This is the issue.... My friend committed suicide by hanging. I just found out the method at the memorial. Now this is a friend I had introduced bondage to in recent times and she had never considered it to be a form of pleasure due to conservative up-bringing. After finding this out I about got up and left because I feel if I hadn't introduced her to rope play, that this would not have happened. This was not an accident and I feel partly responsible. Am I?
i have a cousin. he came home 26 years ago this winter and his mother, my aunt, was trying to load the shotgun and couldnt manage it. she told him it was to run off the dogs (not kill, just scare them) that kept coming around. there *were* dogs that kept coming around, a feral bunch of them. so he showed her how to do it, made sure she could do it herself, and went about the rest of the evening. went to work the next morning.
she shot herself while he was at work. he had no idea she was going to do that. she didnt show any outward signs that she was in despair, although we saw looking backward all the things that avalanched down on her that final week.
it is no more my cousin's fault that my aunt decided to shoot herself than it is your fault that your friend took her own life. it doesnt matter if you had taught her to tie a hangman's knot, if you didnt put it round her neck, you had no fault there. she chose to take her own life, you did not force her to.
i am sorry you are hurting. loosing someone you care about is hard, dealing with this sort of guilt is terrible on top of it.
kitten
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