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RE: online relationships - 12/9/2005 8:11:35 PM

fldrkhorse

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Sheesh, seems I'm the only romantic here. I'm a firm believer in you take love where you find it. Online or in rl takes honesty, commitment, and compromise. One can lie to you in your face just as easily as online. Distance is only relevant for a hook up. There are always obstacles, if it wasn't distance it would be something else (he's a slob, he snores, his feet are too big). Perhaps we too often take for granted whats in front of us. Perhaps we too often are not willing to put forth the effort. Perhaps too often our expectations are too great. One of my lifes lessons is not to listen to the nay sayers. No matter what it is, someone will tell me I can't do it.

I remember reading about Elizabeth Barret and Robert Browning. Browing, a lived in America while Barret in England. Browning fell in love with Barret from her writings and started a romance strictly through letters. Barret eventually came to America against her fathers wishes where they were wed.

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RE: online relationships - 12/10/2005 1:45:37 AM

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A distant relationship is difficult but at the same time, it is not impossible. However at some point it will go from a cyber relationship to real time relationship. Its only natural for it to evolve into that.. If there is a true connection it won't fizzle. If it fizzles then it wasn't real anyway.

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RE: online relationships - 12/10/2005 4:31:46 AM

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I myself have been in an online relationship for almost 3 years(January is our aniversary) due to me being the US Navy my schedule has not allowed for a meeting, we will be meeting in Febuary, but we are more than prepared and willing to keep it online for however long as neccesary. It is a matter of whether or not the two people can connect and stay attached to one another for a long period of time.

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RE: online relationships - 12/10/2005 5:27:30 AM

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there are indeed stories where onlines do work---I once had a dominant ages ago tell Me, we as humans all need a sense of community and online brings that closer to real time for those that cannot----well I may find out, My sub lives 3011 miles away, until we develop the real time and can over the course of the coming year, our relationship will indeed be online with phone calls in between----sigh

The internet has opened the flood gates of possibilities and its not like one in Australia can just pop over to Akron Ohio for coffee----

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RE: online relationships - 12/10/2005 6:01:13 AM

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My Sir told me from the very beginning that if we were going to have a relationship it would have to go to RT. It's been almost 8 months now and we have two to go before he gets here to whisk me away. It is very hard to love someone so much and want them so badly and have to wait.

I do agree that the best way it works is to have the plan in place for RT. My Sir and I have been busy these months with all the plans for our real life together. I will always be grateful for our time online though. These months of constant chatting online and the phone has built a solid foundation for us that we will take into real life.

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RE: online relationships - 12/10/2005 6:12:35 AM

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I am very happy for you.

Sincerely,

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RE: online relationships - 12/10/2005 6:42:43 PM

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Hi Fldrkhorse. I would like to thank you, for the words I couldn't come up with. You hit the nail on the head (OUCH) and I believe it is what you make it. You do with what you can.

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RE: online relationships - 12/10/2005 7:49:19 PM

krikket

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If you want something badly enough, and are willing to work hard at it, then yes, i do believe on on-line relationship can work. It might not be what they want, but sometimes it's better than not having that person in your life at all. All successful relationships take work, and require trust and honesty..and this type does as well...maybe even more so.. but, it is, imho, possible.

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RE: online relationships - 12/10/2005 8:35:27 PM

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I would like to add that I feel some types of relationships can exist only, or almost completely, online and/or long distance. I have several friends I met through an online group almost ten years ago. Three of those people I am still close friends with today. One female and one male I have never met -- one is a male I met twice (both resulting in amazing sexual encounters as well.) Our friendships have cycled through emailing-several-times-a-day to emails-every-few-weeks just depending on what else is going on in our lives. Thre three of us also remain on a small mailing list that is active and lively.

Obviously that is a different kind of relationship with different expectations and roles.

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