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stella41b -> RE: Warning to new submissives! (10/10/2008 7:31:01 PM)
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About four hours ago I got 'roughed up' on my way home from doing some charity work in Central London. I'm passing by a pub late at night in London with a crowd of what looks like office workers stood outside drinking. One of them blocks my path and demands a pound for beer. I refuse. I then get propositioned. I refuse and one of his friends turns round and asks loudly "'Ere is that a bloke?" Next thing I know I'm being leered at, jeered at, groped and felt up by several of these drinkers. I pull away, I start hearing 'faggot, poofter, man-whore, trannie, cocksucker', I get kicked, I kick back, and I break away and move on.
I'm a transgendered female. This doesn't happen too often, but I get every so often the comments, the stares, the sniggers, and people who feel it their moral public duty to out me. 'That's a man.' I also get ignored, excluded, and usually within the first three questions of anyone wanting to get to know me is trying to find out whether I have had surgery or not, what is in my underwear, who I sleep with, how and when. Can you imagine what it's like when you're waiting for a bus in the afternoon and ignoring a group of teenage schoolkids who are jeering at you, making fun, taking photos of you on their cellphones and passing comments, and the other people at the bus stop are just, like.. er well standing there as if nothing's happening?
I'm not a brick or a stone, but a thinking, feeling human being, but I'm also intelligent. I knew at the start not everyone is going to understand or accept me being transgendered or transitioning, but take a look at the postings before this and you'll quickly realise that I'm not much different to other people who aren't transgendered and certainly am not a special case. I could be a victim or a drama queen if I really wanted to be, but why waste the energy and emotion?
Some people are just 'that way'.. it's got nothing to do with gender, age, or level of maturity, they get off by pissing in the wheaties of others, they will add to your misery or misfortune when you're down, they will kick you when you're down, and it's got nothing to do with you - it's the only way they can feel good about themselves.
It makes me laugh when people talk about the BDSM community being one of 'like-minded people'. Not exactly. All you're doing is going from people in a narrow-minded society to a smaller subgroup or subculture of erqually narrow-minded people where you can only hope you're not going to be ostracized for being yourself.
It doesn't really bother me what other people think of me. I know who I am, so do the people who I am close to, people who I work with, and people who I live among. The kids in the local street know me, they say hello, they know me by name, and there are more people who are positive and supportive. And to me, these are the only people who matter.
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