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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 4:23:55 AM

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Yeah I spelt philosophy wrong cos I’m role playing being in a actual chatroom. Some people dream of 24/7 chatroom, one day that will be me, it is my dream and lifelong ambition.

...until the power goes out.

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 4:27:35 AM

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Wind up PC's have already been invented by 24/7 chatroom enthusiast Trevor Baylis

http://www.ethicalsuperstore.com/products/trevor-baylis-brands/trevor-baylis-eco-media-player/
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/africa/6040536.stm

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 4:43:07 AM

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You sound like a relatively intelligent girl. People who are masterful flirts have gotten so good because they practive a LOT. Now you live proof that this guy a) lied to you about you being special, and b)"cheated" on whatever "relationship" you had. Now, he has used his masterful flirting skills to somehow convince you his no-good cheatin' ways were your fault.

Either you a) did not learn your lesson, and will continue letting yourself start relationships with liars, and one day even have a real-life relationship with one, or b) did learn your lesson. Be wary of men telling you "the things girls want to hear". They're either stalkers or flirts.

Are you over-reacting? Maybe a little. I'm sure there have been several times when you were like, "Hmm...I wonder if he's the biggest player in the world....but he's really sweet and really cute...so I'll just ignore it! Yay!!" It still kind of stings, but when you start having relationships with people who don't think BDSM is the easy path to sex, then you'll feel happier in a much bigger way than you feel slighted and gutted now.

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 4:46:32 AM

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You sound like a relatively intelligent girl. People who are masterful flirts have gotten so good because they practive a LOT.

Maybe they just read self help books. We can't say for sure thus we should assume the worst.

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 4:47:49 AM

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I take flirting deadly serious though it shows deep commitment to my online women folk.

Please don't flay me.

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 4:52:38 AM

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You know deep down you want to be flayed by me. As soon as you admit that to yourself Katy we can get on with the flaying.

I'll look up what flay means later but in the short term lets assume it has the same meaning as fuck.

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 4:56:23 AM

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1. To strip off the skin or outer covering of. -> this is the definition I was going with, in order to keep on topic
2. To strip of money or goods; fleece.3. To whip or lash.4. To assail with stinging criticism; excoriate.

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 4:57:47 AM

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5. Fuck

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 6:55:48 AM

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I gotta good piece of meat for ya

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 6:58:30 AM

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Oh yeah, back to the OP.....

Honey, this is so common online, that you just have to expect it. You'll talk for awhile, they'll tell you how great they are and how hot you are, then one day they'll just poof. No reason to feel gutted, another one always comes along.

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 8:18:34 AM

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Yes and no. No because your feelings are your feelings and they just are. Yes because you assumed that because you were ready to take it to exclusive without meeting, that he was also. You didn't ask him if he was, if he believes in that prior to meeting, or what he needs to go monogamous. You assumed.

Next time ask. And btw, the more someone's been burned online, the less they are willing to make any commitments prior to knowing each other in real life. Next time meet first.

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 8:24:15 AM

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i know it sucks. but he isnt the only dominant in the yellow pages, and someone who is more on your page is going to be a better fit with you.

*checks yellow pages

* Seems to be a lot more Duminants, and Dominates than Dominants...
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OP...count yourself lucky that he even admitted to the cybering. Some jerkoffs would've lied and kept you trailing along until you had a collar, a tattoo, and a brand before you found out he was a player.

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 8:34:34 AM

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What I don't understand, OP, is why you hooked up with someone who was a flirt, and then expected them to change. Seriously???? There are small traits that you can let your partner know bother you, and you can work on them together ("work on" can mean getting to a place where they don't bother you, or the other person stopping the behavior). However, "flirting" is generally not a small trait.

Find someone who you don't feel you need to change, and you won't have this problem.

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 8:37:03 AM

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eh, am I overreacting?

Been chatting to a Dom for a few weeks now, everything was going great so I thought, had talked about meeting up in a few more weeks time, etc etc, he said we had a connection, I was special ...(you get the picture huh?)
he told me before that he is a flirt, but I mentioned to him for me...to believe somethings real then I take things literally, I only say things I mean 110% ..and if I saw that he was acting with other women the way he does with me, then how could I trust in what we have?
so he knew my views, said he was happy with me, and understood

so..yea..maybe you guessed it, but I found him quite happily cybering full on with any girl that was willing, he didnt even realise I had come online as he was so wrapped up in it..

so I said to him, eh..okay we talked about this I know where I stand now..I was obviously a bit of amusement

and now...sadly hes done the age old trick of turning round things onto me, saying I am at fault....blah I'm gutted..
do you think im overreacting?

You are 30 years old, an adult who should be able to make her own decisions about life and what you want out of it.
Do you really needa bunch of strangers to answer such a simple and idiotic question for you?

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 9:22:24 AM

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He told you he was a flirt, so he was being honest about something. Did you consider that maybe he was not someone you could find compatible?
Never let someone gut you who has only the briefest most flimsy hold of being someone you are only starting to chat with online.
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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 3:15:00 PM

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There's a great connection and you enjoy one another... you want something and you meet up with someone you like who says they want the same things. They build it all up while you are playing for real and then they let you down. Yes, it happens, it happens a lot. You don't trust most, but then one happens along that seems real and you get caught up in the moment. Thinking because they were able to see deeper, be deeper and get in faster, they must be real. Even the experienced can get caught in it!

Some people are very practiced at what they do and what they do is... find a way to please themselves and will use just about anyone to do so. All while seemingly coming off as very sincere. It can be a couple weeks or months or even a year or so and you have no clue because they play the game so well. They are well versed in manipulation and when caught, some become very passive aggressive and turn it on you, blaming you. RUN... RUN... be glad you can still run!

I have watched some people research, read, watch and learn from postings or other things out there and they learn their prey well. They know exactly what to say and do to turn the direction of things their way. They play and often other's pay.

When someone speaks pretty words... look around them, under them and into them before you believe the pretty words they play with. You are your only protection from those that play, so make the game go your way. Define what you want, expect a lot and don't trust any pretty boy with his game on. That doesn't mean you can't trust anyone... but it does mean, lay a foundation before your allow your heart to be put into the game. Wear your game protective gear and still be open, just don't get caught up in the romance and soulmate and pretty of it all until they have proven where their pretty comes from.

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 5:55:49 PM

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Yes dont worry this guy okay? and for petes sake dont become a "nun" hard to get out of that habit then? LOL

Hang in there and keep looking okay? You might have to kick many frogs aside until you find the right one! Good luck to you and stay strong.

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 7:22:31 PM

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lol....ahh bugger it

im gonna become a nun

Well aren't you special; he's an incorrigible flirt so you're threatening to become a tease for life?

I think your full of Papal bull, but if you do go through with it please give me a ring....I mean...ring me up if you're ever in New York. Did I mention I have a large pointy hat and ring and love to flay......I meant play for keeps? :)

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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 7:27:50 PM

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Hi, starx----
I am sorry to hear that you are distressed. I am a little concerned for you that you were so invested in someone after a few weeks that you feel gutted after that short a period of time.
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RE: gutted... - 10/11/2008 11:26:43 PM

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