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raney -> what would you do? (12/8/2005 9:37:17 AM)
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i am not sure what to do. not sure i should even be posting this.
last night, while reviewing our cell phone bill, i ran across an area where you can see all calls that are made from each phone. i was curious to see who made more calls, me or Him. when i looked at His call log, i was a little concerned. there was a number on His log, that was pretty consistent. a number i didnt recognize. it was called quite often right after my number. after thinking about it for awhile, i decided to look at His phone. i know i know, i should have NEVER done that, but i did. anyway, the number, belongs to an ex g/f of His. so i woke Him up, and asked Him whose number it was. He said He didnt know, then looked through His phone. when He came across it, He started laughing, saying it was just so and so's number. there was another womans number in His phone that the number was secret. He said He accidentally put her number as secret when He was messing around with His phone, and He cant figure out how to unlock it. that she is the daughter of one of His former teachers. very believable. but, He would not give me a reason as to why He was talking to this other girl so much, and why He called her so much after just hanging up with me. when i looked through His phone, i only looked at the address book, didnt read any of His text messages etc. just looked to see who that number belonged to. now, this girl has messaged Him at 1 am while He's been over here. He's been sleeping, i never looked at His phone. when i asked Him if the situation was reversed, and it was an ex of mine that i was talking to at least 4 times a week, if not more, that wouldnt He think something was going on? His reply to me, was, who i call and talk to is my business, just like it is His business.
i dont want to believe that He is cheating on me, but it is looking that way. just from the whole phone thing, and little things here and there. like, He says His mom is always complaining about not spending time with Him, but His free time is split between me and His parents at about 60/40. my thought would be, if she really wanted us to work on our relationship, she would not be complaining about how much time He is spending with me. if He and i were living together, she would see Him maybe once a week, not everyday. so that just doesnt quite add up. there are nights that He doesnt stay here, saying He already told His mom that He was sleeping in His bed that night. that is fine, but He is a grown man, and doesnt have to answer to His mother. no, i have not talked to her about this yet. i want to know if this stuff is actually coming from her or not. a friend told me to call the number and ask if there is anything going on between her and Master. i know if i do that though, and there really is nothing going on between her and Him, that that is it for us.
i guess what my question is,
what would you do if you were in the same situation? would you take His word and believe Him, or would you still be suspicious? i promised Him last night that i would not look at His call log anymore. i told Him i believed Him, which last night i did, but after talking to a friend today, i have some doubts. please help me to try to figure this out. and please dont tell me to leave Him right now, if i do find out that He is in fact cheating, i will leave Him, but right now, all i have is a phone number. for my own peace of mind, i have to be sure one way or the other.
thank you
stephanie
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