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ranja -> when is begging boring? (10/13/2008 7:53:29 AM)

I am still learning...i am not really a manipulative type and usually when i get told no i take it to mean no and might grumble but accept it...recently i discovered that my Husband is actually quite partial to a bit of begging...and a bit of mind twisting for that matter....now i think no might not mean no at all but rather be an ivite to beg... so i try a bit of begging...it doesn't come natural to me (yet) and i hear myself going a bit patheticly Oh pulease Master...and i wonder does it not become annoing? should i not shut up?...probably...



Rover -> RE: when is begging boring? (10/13/2008 8:07:29 AM)

Begging is annoying when it's not something I desire at the time (it can be plenty fun under the right circumstances).  I simply make it clear that it's not the time and place, and if that doesn't suffice then priviledges are at risk.
 
John



DesFIP -> RE: when is begging boring? (10/13/2008 8:39:26 AM)

It's something you need to talk to him about. Is it only appropriate when he's teasing you and saying 'not yet' or what? Only he knows when he wants you to beg. One way around this is to ask him to tell you to beg. That way you would only do it when he wants.

As far as how to beg? You've got me. Please, please, please is as much as I'm capable of. If he wants me to say something he tells me ie "You really want to X, don't you?". And then I can respond "Please let me X". After a while, doing it this way I do get an idea of what he wants me to beg for. But unless he leads, it isn't an area I can go.



TabrisMaceth -> RE: when is begging boring? (10/13/2008 12:41:21 PM)

You know what really helps with begging? Getting all pouty and watery eyed, and act like you're about to cry. Try not getting your way if you do that!

-Tabris



LaTigresse -> RE: when is begging boring? (10/13/2008 1:23:42 PM)

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ORIGINAL: TabrisMaceth

You know what really helps with begging? Getting all pouty and watery eyed, and act like you're about to cry. Try not getting your way if you do that!

-Tabris


Guranteed to NOT work with me. Then again, I am not partial to begging.



DesFIP -> RE: when is begging boring? (10/13/2008 1:26:11 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: TabrisMaceth

You know what really helps with begging? Getting all pouty and watery eyed, and act like you're about to cry. Try not getting your way if you do that!

-Tabris


Some tops get off on tears. Better know that beforehand.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dacryphilia



azropedntied -> RE: when is begging boring? (10/13/2008 1:31:55 PM)

Begging and whining is just plain irritating when done in front of me ,Now tears, ok that s  hot .



SailingBum -> RE: when is begging boring? (10/13/2008 2:01:46 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: TabrisMaceth

You know what really helps with begging? Getting all pouty and watery eyed, and act like you're about to cry. Try not getting your way if you do that!

-Tabris


I'LL give you something to cry about"  smirk

BadOne



stella41b -> RE: when is begging boring? (10/13/2008 2:08:29 PM)

When you're street homeless and you're trying to get your fare to the Homeless Person's Unit after the morning rush hour?



osocurious -> RE: when is begging boring? (10/13/2008 2:43:07 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

I'LL give you something to cry about"  smirk

BadOne

Ohhhhhhh .... promise ????

( *laughing* ... have you ever just been cruising along through the posts and responses, and out of the blue read something that just strikes you??? ...  this was the one that did it for me today [:D] 

On the subject of begging ..  ( it really depends on the
circumstance, and what contex it's done in, and which side of the "beg" you're on.
The whole thing reminds me how individualistic W/we A/all are.

What turns one on, turns another off.  



tweedydaddy -> RE: when is begging boring? (10/13/2008 4:19:08 PM)

Begging comes in two forms.

1 Please can I have? That's boring.

2 Please no! In the name of God no! Mercy!   That's fun.



ElizabethAnne -> RE: when is begging boring? (10/13/2008 4:31:53 PM)

Hello,

quote:

You know what really helps with begging? Getting all pouty and watery eyed, and act like you're about to cry. Try not getting your way if you do that!


Not a chance in this house.  That would be a quick way to punishment- and not a good kind.

But that is this house.  I despise a bawling slave.

I wish you well,

ElizabethAnne



shewhoserves -> RE: when is begging boring? (10/14/2008 1:32:10 AM)

try throwing a tantrum,



ranja -> RE: when is begging boring? (10/14/2008 1:42:41 AM)

Thank you all so much for your input.
I suppose i just have to read Him as good as i can to know when to beg...i see the point of begging for something not to happen might be done with more...urgency? if the threat is real and a very scary prospect...future fun eh, we are not that far yet...As for tears, mine flow with happiness but who knows, He might be able to squeeze them out with frustrating me too.
Begging on the streets haha, that would be a very very humbling experience i suppose, good punishment maybe if i don't get it right...it might teach me a proper lesson in begging, yeah, maybe not so boring after all....is it legal tho?
Right now i'm still really only begging just for a laugh and i have added cherries on top, how cheesy is that, but it works with texting though.
I can see myself kneeling and kissing His feet and asking very very sweet if i may please do something, that it would mean sooo much to me and if he'd only let me i would be ever so grateful, then add another please Master? and a few more kisses and then wait with my cheek on His instep....
Thank you all lots, Any more ideas?



ExKat -> RE: when is begging boring? (10/14/2008 5:03:30 AM)

  You'll probably be able to tell when it becomes annoying.

If he's watching you with hooded eyes, stroking himself, and asking you to beg more seductively/desparately/loudly, then you're probably not annoying.

If he doesn't turn off the football game, or wanders away at some point, you're probably being annoying.



kyraofMists -> RE: when is begging boring? (10/14/2008 7:12:19 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ranja
I suppose i just have to read Him as good as i can to know when to beg...


Why not just try asking him, "when is it appropriate to beg?"

In our house, it is very rarely appropriate to engage in begging behaviors outside of play or sex.  It isn't something that he finds attractive and I learned this about him by asking.

Knight's Kyra



JustDarkness -> RE: when is begging boring? (10/14/2008 7:13:39 AM)

Begging is boring if you continue afther an answer.



NuevaVida -> RE: when is begging boring? (10/14/2008 7:28:05 AM)

What constitutes "boring" is subjective. As kyra said, ask him what is boring to him, and what is exciting to him, and if boring falls into any of those categories or anywhere in between.

In my last relationship, I could beg for certain sexual activities; in fact, he loved when I did. And when I did, it wasn't an act. It came from a place within that was so desperate for the object of my begging that the trembling and the welled up eyes were very real, and he loved it and would drag it out as long as possible. If your husband enjoys you begging to suck him, for example, rather than a meaningless "please oh please let me suck your dick", reach into your emotional gut and consider that you are begging to please him, to feed yourself, and to ride the life-line that connects you. If what you are begging for does not mean anything to you, it might very well fall flat and boring to him. On the other hand...if it becomes the one thing that will sustain you through the day...well, that will come across quite nicely and if he is partial to begging, he might be quite pleased with it.

If it's real...if the motivation behind your begging is that you are really begging to please him and connect with him...I can't see a man who enjoys begging thinking that's boring.



ranja -> RE: when is begging boring? (10/14/2008 7:52:11 AM)

Thank you NuevaVida, that is just beautiful, i can get into that indeed



NuevaVida -> RE: when is begging boring? (10/14/2008 8:00:59 AM)

[:)] You're welcome, ranja, and thank you for the kind words.



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