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Those who identify as bisexual ... do you find yourself leaning more naturally into favouring one gender? Or are you a right down the middle 50/50 type?

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If you identiy as bisexual, are you sexually interested in people who blur the gender boundaries? If you are het/homosexual are you sexually interested in people who blur the gender boundary onto your usually favoured side of the binary?
 

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ORIGINAL: softness
Those who identify as bisexual ... do you find yourself leaning more naturally into favouring one gender? Or are you a right down the middle 50/50 type?

For my primary relationship, I have determined that I *need* a dominant man. For casual dating/FWBs, I'm closer to 50/50, although men are so much easier to find that I've dated a lot more of them than I have women.

Those who do identify as bisexual ... why do you think the PR for bisexuality is often so negative?

It's become trendy, and what is trendy is generally pretty annoying. Also, I like to say, everybody else is just jealous of all my limitless options. ; )

To everyone ... what is your personal  understanding of Pansexual? Is it something you would dismiss as needless label mongering?

Up to this point I've not been one to dissect sexuality to this degree. I've kind of worked on a 3-speed model: gay, straight, and other. (And I agree with Kinsey--most people have some wiggle room on their sexuality in my experience.)

If you identiy as bisexual, are you sexually interested in people who blur the gender boundaries? If you are het/homosexual are you sexually interested in people who blur the gender boundary onto your usually favoured side of the binary?

I have a thing for femme-looking girls with more masculine behaviors (think Faith from Buffy the Vampire Slayer), androgynous girls, and the occasional soft butch.

In reply to some other posters' comments:

My choice in men is usually quirky and/or geeky guys (Walken, Eddie and Brad from Grounded For Life, Zack from Bones.) I am a big MMA fan, though, so the occasional beefy, sweaty, professionally violent man does it for me too (Google Urijah Faber and Andrei Arlovski. You'll thank me.)

Physical attraction is more important to me with women than with men for some reason. Men can be downright ugly and if they're brilliant and in any way charming I'm hooked.

My beloved and I have an agreement that we can have sex with other people as long as we're together (which of course means we both have to sign off on all involved), and lately he's been ok with me having girlfriends without him involved.

There is definitely a difference in the dynamic between me and a woman. With women I'm usually the more dominant partner. Sex has generally been more gentle. And a woman I'm dating has yet to say to say something hurtful and not understand what she did. ; p~

I also hate Katy Perry's idiotic song. I can feel myself getting stupider every time they play it at the gym.

~faith

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ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

I would have to say that I favor men over women.  I haven't yet looked at a woman and said "I have to have her".  To be attracted to a woman I have to know her.  There is no specific physical type of woman that I'm attracted to, it's all about the person for me. Where men are concerned it's far different for me.  I am physically attracted to them first.  Sometimes the attraction only goes that far, and sometimes with getting to know them it deepens. 

I am intrigued by people who blur the gender boundaries, and there are more than a few that I find very attractive.  I have many friends who fit into that category and I've had some hot play sessions with a few of them.  I've yet to have a sexual or romantic relationship with any of them, and it's not out of the question, but it just hasn't happened.

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ORIGINAL: monywildcat

BLECH I hate that song!!!  It reminds me of all the barsexual girls that get freaky with their friends (or the random person, such as moi) to get guys' attention.  And adding to the bad PR.  Damn them. 

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ORIGINAL: softness

Watch this ... because its fun!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QOrafSpDmN4&feature=related

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ORIGINAL: VivaciousSub

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ORIGINAL: colouredin

I love that song and its like a marketing gneuis

For me bisexuality has never had a bad press the whole greedy thing has never been an issue for me. i actually think people are pretty tolerant to female bisexuals on the whole but male slightly differant there is a special kind of stigma attached to that, I have always assumed due to the physical act itself women on women seems far less intrusive, this is what i get from people who say negative things about bisexual men.

I also like that song - but I like Jimmy Buffet, so don't take my musical tastes with anything approaching seriousness.

I'm bi, and what coloured wrote struck a chord with me. I think she's hit the nail on the head. Here's the interpretations of "bi" that I've found for men and women - note, this isn't how I think.

Female Bisexual - likes women sexually but prefers to date men - I would guess this comes from porn? Thus, they're not seen as "gay" so much as "playing". Both of these views I feel are unhelpful. When I'm with a woman, I'm not playing. For some reason, I sense that bisexual women are seen as "safer" than bisexual males. Safer, in this case to the so-called natural order of man-woman relationships - she doesn't really mean it! She'll be okay once she finds a nice man!

Male Bisexual - seems to be seen as "gay" and occasionally "playing" at heterosexuality. I've met quite a few people who have honestly said, "there's no such thing as male bisexuals, they're gay men hidden in the closet".  This interpretation is even more off-putting to me.

The great Dr. Kinsey noted that almost zero people are 100% hetero- or 100% homosexual. The rest of us fall on a continuum. I think we all - that's everyone, not just us on the boards - could stand to review the work of Dr. Kinsey, if not for his specific conclusions but to reaffirm the fact that there's a panopoly of sexual practices, mores and beliefs. I fall in the 60/40 range, men to women.

Edited to note: whoever came up with the word "barsexual" needs an award. Pronto.

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"ERRRRRRR get of me you GAY!"