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RE: Well, he's gone... - 10/14/2008 8:10:45 PM   
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RE: Well, he's gone... - 10/14/2008 8:31:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Oh how i remember when my son went to boot camp, how hard that was.  But i also remember how incredibly proud of him i was.  The pride took over after about a week of crying myself stupid.  More tears at graduation, first because it had  been "forever" since i saw him and of course the incredible pride in seeing him accomplish something he so desperately wanted to do. 

Just when you think you've settled down and accepted that he is off living his life and are finally in a headspace that you dont cry yourself to sleep missing him..the brat will do something like surprise you by coming home for a special visit.......

"Kids" constantly torn between wanting to choke them and hug the stuffins out of them

Congrats on a most excellent job mom, you have every right to be very proud.

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RE: Well, he's gone... - 10/14/2008 10:58:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		Warm, loving hugs to you, hejira. What a loving environment you have raised your son in. You are both so fortunate. And my best to your Master as well, as he suffers his own loss. I hope you both will be together to comfort each other soon.

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RE: Well, he's gone... - 10/15/2008 12:11:53 AM   
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Tell him canada is the best place to start for world domination....they`ll never see it comming



well we will now won't we Darias?

hejira - mine are still little (for an old broad) and there are days I can't wait to see the hind end of them and days when I can't imagine my house without them ......

just remember that wherever he is, no matter how old - you will ALWAYS be Mom

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RE: Well, he's gone... - 10/15/2008 12:23:17 AM   
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After NOT seeing my 23 year old son for almost 2 years, the US Army sent my child back home to Me.  On October 10th, I had the great joy of having all 3 of my kiddo's under my roof for the first time in so long that I forgot how much they complimented each other. My cup runneth over.

We shared stories of the 'old' days when they were kids (LOL). Less than 1/2 of a decade ago the 3 were in high school and I was playing taxi-driver to them, working my arse off and wishing they'd hurry up and grow up so I could once again have a life of my own.

We laughed and we cried. We stayed up until 6am just enjoying the fall Kentucky weather around a bonfire that we each took turns throwing logs on in fear that the flames would die and the night might end. We rehashed the past decade and I was in my glory.

My son was in college and decided to join the Army. Why? Even he can't answer that! He went to Iraq 2ce. I shed many tears while reading/watching (via MySpace) my boy slowly tranform into a man. He is now home (safe, thank God!), much wiser, a Sarge with a purple heart due to the wounds he humbly suffered and is a Vet for his country.

Dear Lady, I hope and pray you and your son will be just fine. The next time you see him, hug him, squeeze him extra hard and thank him for his service. This once great country is being made even greater daily by MEN just like him who are true patriots. We don't have to believe in the 'war', we just have to make warriors of our children who will defend this land for future generations.

I believe 100% that the greatest gift that we can bestow upon our offspring is wings. Good strong wings to fly and soar. Let him go and allow him to become the man you trained him to be. God Bless!
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RE: Well, he's gone... - 10/15/2008 12:35:54 AM   
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U S A R M Y = Y M R A S U

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RE: Well, he's gone... - 10/15/2008 2:16:34 AM   
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RE: Well, he's gone... - 10/15/2008 2:30:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am so sorry.  It is very hard when they have to leave.  I am sure it is much more difficult when they go into the service, especially, when you are cut off from them like that.  My heart & my prayers will be with you. 

If it helps any, there are a great many of them coming back to live with their parents.  Mine didn't go into the service, but when the last one left, I was sad for a little while, maybe a couple weeks, when I realized I wasn't cleaning up after anyone else, except me & the 4 leggeds. 

Fast forward a couple years, first came a grand, then my son, who hadn't lived with me since he was 12 to get his high school diploma, then came my daughter, then another grand, all into a small little place with one bedroom, a living room, kitchen, & small den.  My son left & came back again during this time.   I don't know how we all fit in here.  Sometimes, it is frustrating to be so squished, but I have to admit, it is nice to have them here with me, most days.  We manage somehow. 

I am sure once your son gets where he can have regular contact with you & you know he is in a safe place, you will start to feel much better.  It is hard with the military.  I had a husband who was in the Coast Guard, which is much more open about things, but still, there were times, they couldn't tell me anything.  I think not knowing & that lack of real contact makes it much harder when you love someone & they have to leave. 

Hang in there.  Go out with friends.  Go out alone if you need to.  Treat yourself to a movie now and then, or a dinner, or even a pedicure.  And take some time now & then for a nice warm bath with candles, just for you, & just because.  Visit friends & family.  Do something you have secretly been wanting to do.  Visit a pet shop if you like animals, not necessarily to buy, but because the animals have a way of cheering up a heart.   All of these things help. 

Hugs to you.

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RE: Well, he's gone... - 10/15/2008 2:58:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		just lots and lots of hugs!

I can't imagine... I keep telling my 11 year old to stop growing and stop getting older.. does he listen? Nope.

He will do great hun. It shows a great deal of strength to even choose a military path.

*more hugs*

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RE: Well, he's gone... - 10/15/2008 5:03:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Wait till he comes home dressed in his new uniform and holds out his arms to hug you. Thats as good as it gets.

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RE: Well, he's gone... - 10/15/2008 5:06:27 AM   
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Wait till he comes home dressed in his new uniform and holds out his arms to hug you. Thats as good as it gets.


Agrees. You raised a baby to adulthood and taught him to follow his dreams. This also is as good as it gets.


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RE: Well, he's gone... - 10/15/2008 5:13:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		hejira,
I am a marine mom. You are free to write. Both me, (here) and him.
read the little packet a lot. it is comforting to have some idea what they are doing.
send care packets. Mine liked getting newspaper clippings - they get very little interaction with the 'outside world', and they are allowed to recive the clippings. (there seems like there is so little you can send them)

If you can't recieve a collect call (My Dad and stepmom, where I was living when mine went off to Parris Island, had a long distance block), your call will come just a little later - i think they take them off to an office to make the call directly.

Family day is fantastic. in three months, it will be so awesome to see him again :)

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RE: Well, he's gone... - 10/15/2008 5:40:59 AM   
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RE: Well, he's gone... - 10/15/2008 6:52:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		Aw... Good on you mom.

The bum will be back soon enough and you can squeeze him till he pops.

<3 Stay strong.

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RE: Well, he's gone... - 10/15/2008 7:07:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hejira, I was in the Army too.....went thru the whole Basic training thing.....and the one thing that we were made to do was write home at least ONCE a week...and trust me, those drills watched like a hawk to make sure we did!  Of course, more was also encouraged......and we did get weekly opportunities to phone home on Sundays. Granted, it may have been for only 15 minutes, but those 15 minutes were the one thing I looked forward to every week!  And getting letters from home were the best....the most heartlifting one came from my dad......who NEVER writes ANYTHING...my mom still signs cards for both of them.....I carried that letter around in my helmet til it literally fell apart.  He was a Navy man himself.

My parents came to graduation......and I swear, they were busting out all over......it was so great to see them again, but I wasn't the same person I was just 6 weeks earlier, and they both could tell.  We had a weekend pass, and while I can't remember what we did with our time, I just remember how good it felt to be with them.  You'll get to experience all the same things with your son, and trust me, he'll be as proud showing you off as you will be of him.  After all, kids learn their strength from their parents...sounds like yours learned well.

There are lots of folks who are going through the same thing you are...reach out, find a group, and you will find that it will be of great comfort.  Personally, I'd be terrified if my son chose a military path, but would not stand in his way......you are just as brave as he is.

ETA....if the collect phone calls are a problem, go to Wally world, get one of those calling cards.....just be aware of the fine print....use of a pay phone to make a call sucks up like 30 minutes of time, but you can get a 500 minutes card for like $20.  But they are a great thing for him to have......

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RE: Well, he's gone... - 10/15/2008 7:11:49 AM   
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ORIGINAL: spragueA
BTW, I've learned lots of acronyms since my lil soldier boy joined.  My all time fave is US Army. Backwards, it is quite funny, in  a tongue-in -cheek sort of way.
U S A R M Y = Y M R A S U
Yes My Retarded Ass Signed Up


  I knew it as Uncle Sam Ain't Released Me Yet........and then there's BOHICAN......Bend over, here it comes again......usually used in conjunction with the term "Big Green Weenie"!

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RE: Well, he's gone... - 10/17/2008 12:56:13 PM   
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Master's friend died this morning. My phone rang at 5:05 am. As soon as I heard His ringtone, I knew. 
 
His friend went peacefully and without pain or suffering- we really couldn't hope for more, except maybe more time. This was a man without darkness in his soul; he never said a word against anyone and he was way too young to go- only 55. The funeral is on Sunday.
 
Wasn't there a thread about supporting Doms when they are down? This is the kind of week when all we can do is hold each other tight and appreciate what we do have and not moan about what we don't.
 
I know I am blessed in so many ways. Sometimes life makes you earn it, though.

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RE: Well, he's gone... - 10/17/2008 1:00:33 PM   
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I know I am blessed in so many ways. Sometimes life makes you earn it, though.


i think earning the blessings is easy. Recognizing them is the hard part.   ((hug))


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