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Thrill of Virgin Slaves - 10/15/2008 10:58:01 PM   
Tslaveboy


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Status: offline 		Do Mistresses get a special thrill from getting a fresh virgin slave? A slave who is a clean slate and knows absolutely nothing of the lifestyle, but is willing to learn the ropes (sorry, I couldn't resist).

Or do most Mistresses prefer the experienced slave with extensive references?
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RE: Thrill of Virgin Slaves - 10/16/2008 3:29:30 AM   
GreeneGoddess


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Status: offline 		So many novices say they are "willing to learn"....the reality that I've found is that almost none are. particularly if it involves extensive time and effort on their part.   Sure, they're willing to drop trou and play as long as it's something they find fun and exciting, but really, isn't just about ANY man?  

A "slave" at that point they most certainly are not.

At this point in my life, I'm looking for a male sub who has the potential to be in a long term live in situation.   To me, that is going to require him having gone through the basics of self-exploration within the lifestyle to know that he can fit into that kind of situation, so yes - that is going to mean BOTH hands on experience, plus a level of self-education (books, getting involved in the scene, etc) to induce <gasp> personal reflection.    Know theyself.

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RE: Thrill of Virgin Slaves - 10/16/2008 3:49:21 AM   
MmeGigs


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Status: offline 		I don't much care how much experience with kink a fellow has.  If he's polite, friendly and realistic, is looking for a personal connection as well as a kinky one, and wants to be part of my social circle and come with me to munches, parties, etc., I'll seriously consider him.

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RE: Thrill of Virgin Slaves - 10/16/2008 4:17:24 AM   
Madame4a


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Status: offline 		I'm not so much interested in slaves.. but as a general rule, I prefer someone with some experience... extensive references are a bit more than I need though...

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RE: Thrill of Virgin Slaves - 10/16/2008 4:19:11 AM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		I never had a 'virgin slave' - but I did find great joy in my 'virgin pup'.  

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RE: Thrill of Virgin Slaves - 10/16/2008 9:13:10 AM   
LadyJulieAnn


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Status: offline 		I was seeking a sub who knew what activities he enjoyed and shared similar interests to mine.  I think it would have been difficult to be with someone who had no knowledge of the lifestyle or BDSM.  As far as previously trained subs/slaves with extensive experience, I wasn't against the idea, but as a new Domme initially, I probably was a bit intimidated by those types of subs.  It didn't appeal to me when a sub would say he was trained by "Mistress X" because he would need to be re-trained by me.

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RE: Thrill of Virgin Slaves - 10/16/2008 12:05:33 PM   
CallaFirestormBW


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Status: offline 		We like both, in our neck of the woods. I have no problem with a boy that we can teach... and even a boy with an extensive resume is going to have to learn -something-... if nothing else, about the way we do things in Bladewing country. *grins*

(Yes.. I have been corrupted, listening to back-to-back Rocky Top and Bad Things! )

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RE: Thrill of Virgin Slaves - 10/16/2008 12:40:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		i was blessed with my cub, he'd decided long ago to wait for the right person.  i didn't go looking for a virgin, but he found me.  it meant alot to me to be the person he shared that with.  it wouldn't have mattered to me, but i considered it an honor.  i don't expect people to be virgins in this day and age, but i do think being the person they want to share that  first experience with is pretty special.
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RE: Thrill of Virgin Slaves - 10/16/2008 4:07:13 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		I don't want a report card from someone I don't know... what good would that be?  Experience or none... I don't care... but if there have been many before me, I might think that I may be the next one on his ex list.  Virgin doesn't impress me unless it is my daughter and even then... it depends.  Any submissive or slave I am with will thrill me simply because he got to that place where we thrill one another and make something happen. 

Now a guy on ebay selling his virgin ass... hummm might make an interesting story... but I see no other personal worth.

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RE: Thrill of Virgin Slaves - 10/16/2008 4:55:02 PM   
VampiresLair


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Status: offline 		I was a virgin when I met my Owner, but if she wanted me simply because I was a virgin...  Then we wouldn't have made it past day 2 together.

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RE: Thrill of Virgin Slaves - 10/16/2008 7:46:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Tslaveboy

Do Mistresses get a special thrill from getting a fresh virgin slave? A slave who is a clean slate and knows absolutely nothing of the lifestyle, but is willing to learn the ropes (sorry, I couldn't resist).

Or do most Mistresses prefer the experienced slave with extensive references?


I find any sub who is willing to learn to do things the way I want them done is a clean slate.  I'm less concerned with how much experience someone has than I am with what kind of person they are, how we connect, and whether or not I am attracted to them.  Experience with another Domme does not necessarily mean that they have experienced the kinds of play that I like, or the ways in which I like to play.

Experience isn't a bad thing.  People who are experienced generally know what they like and what they don't.  My new boy has roughly 30 years experience in D/s relationships and BDSM play.  More than a few of the things we have discussed have been things that he's never experienced, but is willing to experience because he knows that these things make me happy.  THAT trumps experience every time.


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RE: Thrill of Virgin Slaves - 10/17/2008 8:58:42 PM   
spinntja


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Status: offline 		Experience. Not much interested in virgins unless they *really* know who they are. (Do you? I certainly did not.) -- SJ

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RE: Thrill of Virgin Slaves - 10/17/2008 11:06:49 PM   
Tslaveboy


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Status: offline 		Nope. I lost my virginity at 25, didn't know what I was doing and it has been a long process to get where I am now.

It wasn't until my late 40's that I realized I was sort of kinky. By my early 50's, I realized I was a lot kinky. And I seem to be getting kinkier each year.

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RE: Thrill of Virgin Slaves - 10/18/2008 1:32:54 PM   
SnowRanger


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Status: offline 		Hello All,

From my own experience,  I belive that my Mistress enjoyed our first session because she considered me "unformed."  On the other hand, I interviewed with two other Dommes who decided that I was too inexperienced.  One of these later two women, flat out told me that a session with her would scare the hell out of me.

One out of three ain't bad!

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RE: Thrill of Virgin Slaves - 10/18/2008 1:43:43 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		If we are talking about scene virgins...  I have been the first experience for oh...  lets just say "many".   It's something of a responsibility, IMO, because whatever that person experiences is going to stay with them, and color their ideas of bdsm for awhile.   I am glad to say that I have been very successful so far.   Still, I would not take on a new person as a personal submissive unless they truly matched me kink wise.  There is a world of stuff that I will not do and/or do not enjoy, and it would be wrong to hold someone back just because I'm jaded.

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RE: Thrill of Virgin Slaves - 10/18/2008 9:10:49 PM   
AcademyForSlaves


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Status: offline 		Hi.

I like both. A virgin slave is a clean slate. Someone I can mould into what I want. Not jaded, not set in his ways. I love them.

A slave that's experienced has already learned a few lessons and might require less training. he has an idea of what most Mistresses want and don't want. This kind of slave can be good too.

The best slave is one that'll serve and obey me. he can be virgin or experienced.

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RE: Thrill of Virgin Slaves - 10/18/2008 9:33:43 PM   
ShaktiSama


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Status: offline 		I have only been the first "play" experience once, and I'll admit there were some parts that were difficult--this was a man who had been saturated with masochistic desire for many years, but in his forties he had never played before.  He had no sense of his limits and his feedback during play was completely off; I ended up mauling him like a tiger because he was so happy that he literally couldn't register pain the way he should have.  He just grinned as if I was feeding him birthday cake while I went at his body hammer and tongs with every toy he had collected.  He ended up in quite a state.

There are other forms of virginity, of course.  I would say that being the first for any man, with any form of intimacy, is always an honor.  I wouldn't call it a "thrill" because I wouldn't consider it some sort of cheap high that I'd prusue by deliberately seeking out young or inexperienced people.  I would just call it an honor and a very touching expression of trust--and I would take the responsibility to be worthy of such trust very seriously.

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RE: Thrill of Virgin Slaves - 10/18/2008 10:41:15 PM   
Tslaveboy


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Status: offline 		Now you have me curious. What could she possibly do to you that would scare the hell of you.

I knew of one Domme who hammered a subs scrotum to a solid oak butterfly board, then misted the whole thing with alcohol and lit it up. The pictures alone from that session scared quite a few friends of mine.

So I'm wondering. I'm intrigued. I wish I knew.

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RE: Thrill of Virgin Slaves - 10/19/2008 9:36:19 AM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		Wait, are we talking about sexual virginity or BDSM virginity?  There is a difference.  I was my pup's first mistress.  I was not his first 'girlfriend'.


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RE: Thrill of Virgin Slaves - 10/19/2008 2:46:52 PM   
SnowRanger


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Status: offline 		I have no earhtly idea Tslaveboy.  The board part of the scene you described would make me wince but the fire play wouldn't scare me.

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