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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/18/2008 5:14:39 AM

Faussie

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Reading a profile is extremely important. It helps determine whether or not your talking to a legit, respectable dominant. Not to mention, it -helps- weed out the 75%+ of the HNG's, fakes, & SOB's that you don't want to talk to in the first place. I say it only helps because, even a monkey could write a convincing profile; yet, some aren't even equivalent to that of a lowly primate. >:3

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/18/2008 6:00:55 AM

whiteslavebitch

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If I were looking for a relationship, I would. However, since I'm not, I just send a polite reply if the initial message was polite, otherwise I just delete it.

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/18/2008 6:13:32 AM

lttoy

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Depends on the message. If the message is at all decent and even just a small part personal I will always read the profile of who sent it even if I see just from the message we are probably not a fit just out of courtesy.

Messages that are 100% mailed in, rude or clearly show we are not a fit I do not read the profile. there is no need to.

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/18/2008 7:13:03 AM

leadership527

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quote:

ORIGINAL: IvyMorgan

I respond (politely mostly) to every mail I get sent.

If we get to about memo number 3 ish, I'll look at the profile.

I am upfront about "friends only" and "in a relationship" (it even says so in my profile now, as I realised tonight it still called me single, oops)

I'm not a sub, but this is pretty much my tactic. I respond to emails as written. Sometimes, the nature of the email will stir my curiosity and I'll go read the profile to understand more. I tend to allow my relationships to just develop organically as they do without making a bunch of standards and procedures for myself.

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/18/2008 7:17:31 AM

VivaciousSub

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I'm casting my lot in with the other posters here. I like to perv people's profiles, see what makes them tick, so to speak. Only time I won't is if I get a seriously rude email from someone - well, ok, that's not always true, sometimes I do check out their profile....if there is one...to see what in the name of God is flapping around upstairs in their belfry.

One other situation where I don't always check profiles: A good bit of my cmail comes from people who like my ink and those people tend to be seriously far flung, so I'll write them back to thank them, but don't explore further.

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/18/2008 7:34:40 AM

QandA

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I follow along the lines of IvyMorgan and leadership52. Since it's quite obvious from my profile (our profile, actually) that I'm in a relationship and we're seeking friends only, I give folks the benefit of the doubt that they understand this and reply to their initial contact by itself. If they show an interest in continuing an intelligent, civilized, conversation then I'll go check them out.

I don't tend to put a lot of stock into profiles, though. Like Faussie mentioned, it easy for anyone to make a profile that looks interesting. I put more weight into what is said to me, specifically, than what is addressed to the crowd. I also tend to reserve final judgement until I've gotten to know the person in real life for a bit. Up until that point, y'all are figments of my demented imagination on the other side of my computer screen.

lil Aidan

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/18/2008 7:39:13 AM

windchymes

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Since I'm already in the mail department, and if it's a nice email, I just click reply and answer the immediate content of the email. Depending on the content of their email, then I might go read their profile. Based on the content of that, I may or may not answer the second email, lol.

Sometimes, the email might be so nice, and the photo accompanying it even nicer, that checking the profile is an "Oh yeah, should do that" kind of afterthought.

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/18/2008 7:39:16 AM

CarrieO

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I always look at the profile of anyone who emails me. I'm usually put off by those with nothing written....lack of substance in the profile makes me question the substance of the person. What do they have in their journals? Have they posted anything here in the forums? If so, I'll glance through those too.

I did have an interesting thing happen last night, however. I was contacted by a man in my area who said he and his sub were also looking for friends (which I make clear in my profile as my goal). I checked out his profile and...lo and behold, nothing. I sent a quick reply saying that I looked at his profile and found nothing there so I wasn't sure what he was about and what he was looking for. The reply I recieved was pleasant and he agreed he hadn't done anything because he was new.
Interesting guy and I learned about a local group and a flea that takes place in RI that I knew nothing about....the things we can learn when we give someone a chance.

It also depends on what is said in the email. The one-liners I'll usually delete...goes back to the lack of substance issue. When I first signed up, I felt the need to reply to everyone....now I'm more discriminating. Interesting responses so far....but I'm not surprised by them. Most people want more than a "hey you".

Blaakmaan....

The fact that you put important information about yourself in your profile is a rare and wonderful treat....of course you know I'll have to check it out now.

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/18/2008 8:01:14 AM

osocurious

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*laughing*
Is it just me???
I LOVE reading the profiles!!! .. E/everyO/one’s profiles!!!

What a person does, or does not put in their profile seems “key” to me.
And the profiles in themselves can be quite educational.

I love the forums here so if I read something in a thread that I think is well said, I look at that person’s profile, if I think someone just posted something totally useless, empty, thoughtless, or argumentative in an empty way … I look at their profile.
If I read something that is thought provoking, intelligent, educational, interesting …
I look at the profile.
If someone’s avatar is cool, original, sexy, attractive … I look at their profile.
If a person posts something that immediately causes me to shiver with desire ..
I’m DEFINITELY Reading THAT person’s profile … *sighs*
...lol.. sorry .. got to rambling ... *blushes*

So yes … *more laughing* … it’s a given if S/someone messages me … before responding ... I‘m going to look at their profile!!
( I have to add .. it’s not really their profile message that dictates my response, or lack of response to them )

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/18/2008 8:43:24 AM

sambamanslilgirl

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yes i read all profiles (dominant/submissive) before replying - simply to make sure (a)they're not scammers and/or spammers or (b)worthy of my time to respond back.

i recently received a message from a "dominant" who was listed as submissive then switched back to dominant when asking for more pics.

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/18/2008 8:58:42 AM

DavanKael

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Hi, Blaakmaan----
I assume that any e-mail I receive is from a potential conversant, nothing more.
If the e-mail contains a 1-liner or one of the scads of repetitious Dom or sub demands/supplications, I likely drop a short 'thanks for your mail, best wishes for that which you seek' kind of reply.
If the person e-mailing me has taken the time to put together a cogent e-mail and seems to be wishing to engage in conversation, I'll take the time to read the mail and check out a profile. Again, not with anything presupposed but that the person may be someone with whom I choose to speak.
I also generally, just as a matter of course, tend to peek at people who look at my profile even if they don't send me a mail. Curiosity.
Davan
P.S.--Thank you for the < smirk > missturbation with your "Besides i'm too busy plaiting snot" comment.

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/18/2008 9:17:54 AM

Roselaure

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I always read the profile before if I am going to respond. If the mail is rude or spammy in nature I do not respond at all.

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/18/2008 9:38:45 AM

GreedyTop

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sometimes I do, usually I don't.

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/18/2008 9:39:36 AM

sblady

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I rarely read profiles prior to responding to a message especially as I'm not seeking a Dominant. I assume the message is from someone seeking "friends only" as that's how my account is set up. Yep, I know I assume incorrectly and when the e-mail goes in another direction, I ask them to please view my profile.

If there is something in the e-mail that is a bit intriguing or if the mail is from someone I recognize from the forum, I may read their profile and journal.

< Message edited by sblady -- 10/18/2008 9:41:03 AM >

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/18/2008 10:05:22 AM

beargonewild

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Most times I will read the profile of anyone who sends me a message, especially if it's from someone I don't know. Yes I admit I am curious and like to get some sense of the person from their profile and that may or may not influence how I reply back and depending on the type of message I initially received. Most times the mail I get are from people I know asking about something I posted, though since I am not actively seeking on here, I have never approached someone with the intent of trying to start any type of D/s dynamic.

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/18/2008 10:33:54 AM

pixidustpet

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i generally look at the profile if i'm going to respond, yes.

"gentlement" who cannot be bothered to read my profile where it clearly says that TheEngineer has asked that i not correspond with dominants? why should i respond, when it would be in direct opposition to what he wishes? down that path lies madness...and punishment for disobedience.

kitten

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/18/2008 6:12:40 PM

laura2161

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Count me in as one who views a profile if I plan on responding to an email. I also view profiles of people in forums if I find their questions interesting (I just perved yours)

laura

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/18/2008 7:54:47 PM

daddysliloneds

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i actually look to see if they've viewed me before i open their e-mail. it's the actual content of their e-mail that will determine whether or not i choose to look at their profile or to respond to them in kind.

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/18/2008 9:51:26 PM

heartcream

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I like to read the profiles of men I will reply to. I am amazed at the talent in the varied contents of the profiles here. I like the ones that feel heartfelt.

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RE: Do You Read a Dominant's Profile Before You Respond... - 10/19/2008 7:15:44 AM

Slavelary

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I do, and I make sure he's read my profile before sending me a message. If he hadn't it usually means he's a scam artist.

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