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Rude messages - 12/10/2005 10:04:40 AM   
LadyCompassion


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Status: offline 		I was wondering if anyone on here receives mail like this as often as I do. I was messaged by someone today who looked at my profile and because I had a picture on it and was engaged he said I was teasing him and called me a "fake" I don't know how he came to this conclusion, but he obviously felt strongly about it because he continued to call me such. He felt that I was teasing men even though I had a very obvious disclaimer on my profile saying I am not interested in anyone serving me or for me to be serving anyone else.

This is just a little blurb of what he said to me.


"we dont meed to be teased by your photoi
if you realkly exist and a re engaged
stick to him
dont tease us
I am into hypnosis"

Do any others have this problem?
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RE: Rude messages - 12/10/2005 10:13:15 AM   
LadiesBladewing


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Status: offline 		I've had a few encounters with this, both here and in other venues. I've read your profile, and it seems very clear to me from that profile that you are not trying to either recruit or lead anyone on.

I'd hazard that the individual who wrote you was disappointed, and had to vent his frustrations at anyone besides himself and his unrealistic expectations.

Don't take these things personally. Just go on and do what it is that you do, without worrying about the nay-sayers.

Lady Zephyr

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RE: Rude messages - 12/10/2005 10:15:38 AM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		This message you received is just weird beyond words.

Its like an attack and a come-on at the same time.

Who actually thinks approaches such as this work?


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RE: Rude messages - 12/10/2005 10:17:30 AM   
mnottertail


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyCompassion
"we dont meed to be teased by your photoi
if you realkly exist and a re engaged
stick to him
dont tease us
I am into hypnosis"


These are the exact words that Anton Mesmer, in his book on self-hypnosis, says to use to hypnotize yourself for the first time while masturbating on the internet........

So someone learns........it ain't all bad.........

Fuck 'im and forget it.

Ron

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RE: Rude messages - 12/10/2005 10:21:25 AM   
IrishMist


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Status: offline 		Hmm sounds to me as if he is wallowing in self-pity. Personally, I would take it as a compliment though. He saw your picture, was turned on by it, and then frustrated because you were in a relationship. Even though the email is rude...I would just pass it off as a frustrated admirer

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RE: Rude messages - 12/10/2005 10:25:29 AM   
orfunboi


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Status: offline 		There are idiots on every site you can visit...just comes with the territory. My advise would be to ignore and block and be thankfull you don't have to deal with the asshole in real life. i am amazed at some of the bs i get in emails on this site, but i just shake my head and move on, they really are not worth the energy for much else. Occasionally i might respond with something back, but only if i'm bored.

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RE: Rude messages - 12/10/2005 10:30:13 AM   
MizSuz


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Status: offline 		Yes, I've been receiving emails like that since I got on the internet (early 90s???). Any venue, any service, any lifestyle.

I've come to liberally use my filters (block, spam, etc.) and prefer a 'fuck off and go away' sort of profile. It has minimized the trouble considerably for me. Now I don't even notice those emails beyond the time it takes to hit the filter button. I'd have to check my block list to see who I've blocked because I don't pay attention. If your content sucks - you're OUTTA there.

Take no prisoners!



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RE: Rude messages - 12/10/2005 10:38:56 AM   
FTopinMichigan


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quote:

ORIGINAL: thetammyjo
Who actually thinks approaches such as this work?


Unfortunately, many people think it'll work. Check out this IM conversation I got this week:
Man: hello maam
Top: Good morning.
Man: (name) 39 from mi hung handsome nasty will be in detit next mon
Top: And you what? Want me to find you a hooker?
Man: no maam.. very intigued by sexy doms...
Top: I have no interest in nasty men.
Man: nasty in a good way///
Top: Nor do I care for a man that is crude.
Top: Keep up your search. My profile is clear about NO Causal encounters. READ profiles.
Man: so sniffing your nylon feet is out?

See, this type of contact (with total disregard for info in the profile) happens quite often, and when you get it, as the other poster said, "don't take it personally." Just delete it, or block him from bothering you again. Sometimes, that type of contact is done to get you to defend, or debate your position. It's just to get a rise out of you, and sometimes it works. They are playing a game of Tag, and you're "It," and they hope you'll grab the bait, and respond.

Best not to encourage him, LadyCompassion, by defending what you already have your intentions clearly listed. If he had read your profile...he wouldn't have bothered you at all.

K

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RE: Rude messages - 12/10/2005 10:55:00 AM   
LadyCompassion


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Status: offline 		Thank you for the replies.

After I posted this he messaged me again and said that I must be a man because I responded to him so forcefully. I explained to him I am not about to let someone like him try and walk all over me and that I simply don't have the right parts to be a man. I found it amusing at that point. And then he messaged me saying that I was lovely and such and apologized. And then he asked me if he could hypnotize me. Bizarre person.

< Message edited by LadyCompassion -- 12/10/2005 10:56:45 AM >

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RE: Rude messages - 12/10/2005 11:03:09 AM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		You could always report him to a mod for harrasment. Of course blocking them is just as effective. Mods probably wouldn't do anything.

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RE: Rude messages - 12/10/2005 11:04:30 AM   
FTopinMichigan


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyCompassion
After I posted this he messaged me again and said that I must be a man because I responded to him so forcefully. I explained to him I am not about to let someone like him try and walk all over me and that I simply don't have the right parts to be a man. I found it amusing at that point. And then he messaged me saying that I was lovely and such and apologized. And then he asked me if he could hypnotize me. Bizarre person.


But you see, you've also proven to him that his antics for online contact actually work...he captured you into having dialogue with him. Sometimes it can be fun to mess with them then, but it usually ends with just being an annoyance.

K

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RE: Rude messages - 12/10/2005 11:13:37 AM   
MizSuz


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyCompassion

Thank you for the replies.

After I posted this he messaged me again and said that I must be a man because I responded to him so forcefully. I explained to him I am not about to let someone like him try and walk all over me and that I simply don't have the right parts to be a man. I found it amusing at that point. And then he messaged me saying that I was lovely and such and apologized. And then he asked me if he could hypnotize me. Bizarre person.



I'm very curious - why do you choose to continue to interact with him?

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RE: Rude messages - 12/10/2005 11:23:35 AM   
mistresskatie


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Status: offline 		Right ok!! On this site there are some lovely people who are very genuine however I have never come across so many abusive weirdos emailing me ( not the odd 1 but multiple). The ratio is unfortunately unbalanced.

I receive abusive emails etc all the time and have bought it to notice on disscussion boards and to the moderator. I have taken their advice and just block them.

If you get the slightest incline the person who is emailing you is a god dam freak then BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: Rude messages - 12/10/2005 11:27:01 AM   
LadyCompassion


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Status: offline 		Ive stopped interacting with him. I only responded the first few times because I wanted to see what the was motive behind his messages.

< Message edited by LadyCompassion -- 12/10/2005 11:36:58 AM >

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RE: Rude messages - 12/10/2005 11:28:12 AM   
mistresskatie


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Status: offline 		Plus It must be men who so desperately want to be women and feel so intimidated and inadequate, that find that they must insult actually women.

They are just jelous and it is very laughable that someone should even mention that, they must have very small chipilartas!!!

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RE: Rude messages - 12/10/2005 11:30:32 AM   
mistresskatie


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Status: offline 		His motive being he is a muppett xx

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RE: Rude messages - 12/10/2005 11:33:03 AM   
mistresskatie


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Status: offline 		Plus the moderators can not do anything unless it is illegal activity so best not to bother them, They will just advise to block. x

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RE: Rude messages - 12/10/2005 11:50:26 AM   
candystripper


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Status: offline 		LadyCompassion, i have not suffered the particular indignity You have just experienced, but i have had my fair share of fruits and nuts. One Man kept me in a Yahoo IM for 45 minutes, trying to persuade me of the wondrous eroticism of pee. My only response to most of His questions was "No". Why the f**k i allowed this to go on for 45 minutes is a bit of a mystery. i guess i was caught in a loop, trying to make myself heard; and that was never going to happen.

So, i think we've all been tagged by the fruits and nuts brigade here on CM; though i do enjoy reading about new techniques, LMAO.

candystripper

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RE: Rude messages - 12/10/2005 12:18:52 PM   
MsSonnetMarwood


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From: Eastern Shore, Maryland
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quote:

Do any others have this problem?


Regularly.

This morning's episode included several emails with a "subject" who insisted I read his rather long winded and doubtful profile, and claimed something along the line of me passing up on a wonderful future if I passed up on him. I kept my response simple, and pointed to my own profile which indicates I'm basically not looking for a slave/property but rather something part time, and that I also consider myself responsible for my own bright future and don't rely on someone else to provide it.

He responded by sending me MULTIPLE of those "instant replies" on of which claimed he was involved and not looking, and blocked me.

I have to say, it totally cracked me up. It's like the Saturday morning comics.

< Message edited by MsSonnetMarwood -- 12/10/2005 12:27:03 PM >

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RE: Rude messages - 12/10/2005 12:21:46 PM   
MizSuz


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyCompassion

Ive stopped interacting with him. I only responded the first few times because I wanted to see what the was motive behind his messages.



Yeah, sometimes I've remained engaged to try to understand, other times just to antagonize them, and still others because I took the bait and fell victim to the lure of self rightous indignation.

After 500 or so I became pretty much immune (and a bit hard assed about it).

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- Robert Heinlein

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