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RE: What should I do? - 12/13/2005 6:38:26 AM

Chris123

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ORIGINAL: MsPurrmeow

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ORIGINAL: WulfMan
I didn't want to lose her, but yet I didn't want to lose a peice of me.

Read the above to yourself.
If you lose yourself, then you have little or nothing to offer her, regardless of your occupation.

Completely.

I don't think you should ever have to betray yourself and your beliefs or what is important to you to keep someone. She may just be ignoring how much it means to you. Try explain the best you can. Some people get unshiftable ideas in their heads. "This is dangerous, therefore you are stupid and are trying to hurt me." This may be hard to penetrate but patience, earnesty and tact usually do the trick.

Good luck!

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RE: What should I do? - 12/14/2005 9:06:27 PM

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From what I can tell it's the fact that I may not come home. Let's just say my job isn't exactly safe. I understand this, in reply what I could do with my life out of the military. Well I could finish my degree, having dropped the college thing for awhile for the military. Out of college I could go work with my father at Lockheed Martin, god knows he'd put in a good word for me. Mechanical engineering is kinda a high demand feild. But if I did this I almost feel as if I'd let down those that have died along side of me, those families of those men. If you have been to Iraq or Afganastan you'd see what good we are doing there, just look at the children. Despite what the media says, you have to look at it. Well I'm gonna stop rambling, just got myself on a subject that I feel strong about.
I love her, but I'm not sure if I can let that part of me go yet if ever.

Just ask her how she'd feel if you left the military and went to work for Ratheon or some other Middle East posted contractor. I think that this may clear some things up.

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RE: What should I do? - 12/15/2005 3:30:36 PM

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I say duty comes first. But I think you know that. We appreciate your service.

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RE: What should I do? - 12/18/2005 6:06:46 AM

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Some people aren't cut out to be military spouses.

You are a member of the military. She knows that.

I think her decision is whether or not she wants to be a military spouse.

If she wants you, she has to decide whether or not she can handle the realities of military life.

I don't see where you have to do anything. The ball is in her court.

Yve

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RE: What should I do? - 12/18/2005 6:33:22 AM

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i think it also depends on what type of relationship you have, if you are more of her slave, and you in the beginning swore to obey her in all things then if you value that promise you have just one thing to do, obey, but if you are her submissve, not her slave i would say follow your harth like the rest here is saying, if the miletary means so mutch to you i would not give it up if i was you, but you must search your own soul and talk whit her, tell her how strongly you feel aboute this.

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