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Public behavior - 10/19/2008 4:28:12 PM   
WildHoneyPie


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Status: offline 		Does your D type show dominance over you openly in public?  My Daddy will sometimes have me walk a pace behind him, or take my wrist firmly and say "come with your Daddy."  This makes shopping at Home Depot ever so much more entertaining.

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RE: Public behavior - 10/19/2008 4:30:26 PM   
juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: WildHoneyPie

Does your D type show dominance over you openly in public?  My Daddy will sometimes have me walk a pace behind him, or take my wrist firmly and say "come with your Daddy."  This makes shopping at Home Depot ever so much more entertaining.


Simply he feels it is wrong to show dominance in a way that other people will "know" he is domming me. I call him "Daddy" in public all the time... no one even notices

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RE: Public behavior - 10/19/2008 4:41:09 PM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		Personally, I don't believe that general public should be a part of our dynamic. He shows dominance over me but in ways that keep us off of other people's radar. For instance: I'm not allowed to open my own doors. That means that I wait until he comes to my side of the car to let me out. I wait for him to enter a building. It reminds me that my movements are at his pleasure without upsetting others.

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RE: Public behavior - 10/19/2008 4:43:47 PM   
marieToo


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For instance: I'm not allowed to open my own doors. That means that I wait until he comes to my side of the car to let me out. I wait for him to enter a building. It reminds me that my movements are at his pleasure without upsetting others.


That is very sexy.

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RE: Public behavior - 10/19/2008 5:03:32 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I don't think it would be construed as anything more than etiquette or being a gentleman.

He'll order for me, take control of situations, be the one to make decisions, have me do things for him that would seem pretty ordinary to most people.

I would not say it's overtly known to anyone what is going on..it's just his being the one in charge.

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RE: Public behavior - 10/19/2008 6:10:01 PM   
BRNaughtyAngel


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Status: offline 		Most of the people we socialize with are either in this "lifestyle" or they know about us and accept it.  So because of that, He may do or say things that you could call "domming" me.  He'll also do little sadistic things to me as well, like pinching the tender flesh under my upper arm just to watch me squirm.  He has bitten me in stores and restaurants, but no one has ever paid any mind to us.

Mostly though, our dynamic likely goes unnoticed by those who aren't aware of our relationship.  And truthfully, I think most people don't pay much attention to what's going on with other people unless they're just being really obnoxious with their behaviors.

He does pick on me though because I walk slower than He does and I generally end up several paces behind Him if we aren't holding hands.  He'll slow down, and remind me that we aren't in some country where I have to walk 5 paces behind Him.... so "step it up woman!"

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RE: Public behavior - 10/19/2008 6:17:26 PM   
tsatske


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Status: offline 		We don't do things that could not pass in public - but, really, if you take a casual enough attitude about it, most things can pass.
I wear a collar all the time. it never comes off. It is a simple metal chain, locked at the back with a standard padlock. I do wear my hair long, but usually i wear it up, because it gets hot at work.
I work in child care. All the ums I work with have noticed my padlock at one time or another, and commented on it. I treat it as a casual, non-issue.
Last week, on a field trip to a pumpkin farm, a 6 yo from another site noticed the lock. He said, 'Hey, you have a lock on your necklace!'
I said 'Yes, I do.' that's all I said, until he continued. When he said, 'That's wierd!' , his teacher started trying to pull him away, obviously afraid I was going to give him a lecture on my own personal political views or sexual prefrence or whatever reason I was wearing this thing, I just smiled and said, 'Well, yes, it is.'
He looked at me for another minute and said, "I bet it is to keep your necklace on. Is it to keep it on?" And I said, "yes, it is. You are very smart."
That's all.
Virtually the same approach works with adults. Do what you do, and don't assume that others notice more or know more than they do. I don't push my lifestyle in others faces, but I do, just, live my life. That simple.

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RE: Public behavior - 10/19/2008 6:33:40 PM   
juliaoceania


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t is a simple metal chain, locked at the back with a standard padlock. I


That is a fashion statement where i live, extremely common

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RE: Public behavior - 10/19/2008 6:48:33 PM   
tsatske


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That is a fashion statement where i live, extremely common


Yes, I know, but I live in the Bible Belt of the U.S. Not quite on the buckle, but - add to it that I live in a VERY small town, and you get the picture. But, if treated casually enough, things pass.
Where I live, both at my work place and at Masters, staff meetings start with a Bible verse, a prayer, and a biblical reflection ( a sermon). At a public event attended by the whole community to raise money and awareness for cancer, many public groups dressed up a float, dressed in a theme and marched in a parade. Churches, buisnesses, ect. The publicly funded hospital's in town had as their float theme, 'The Ten Comandments of Moses'. Okay.
But, most people do not pry, and unless you get in someone's face, they generally do not get in yours. Lots of children ask me about my locking necklace, and I answer with causuallness - the only adults that have EVER asked have been police officers. And I answer with the same casual strait face. Since it really is none of their buisness, and it really is not pushing the lifestyle in their face anymore than a person wearing a cross or a pentagram is pushing their religion in your face, why should I feel compelled to answer more? in fact, answering more would, IMO, qualify as pushing in peoples face - but just wearing it, and living my life, does not, at least not to me.

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RE: Public behavior - 10/19/2008 7:22:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		The dynamic is always there in public but few would know it.  I pump the gas and run the errands while He waits in the car.  I serve His meal at fast food, refill His coffee or coke, things like that.

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RE: Public behavior - 10/19/2008 7:39:36 PM   
slaveluci


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The dynamic is always there in public but few would know it.  I pump the gas and run the errands while He waits in the car.  I serve His meal at fast food, refill His coffee or coke, things like that.

Same here.  If we're eating somewhere that one can fill his/her own cup, I always get His and keep it filled.  It's "subtle service" in that it's not a blatant act but something He desires, expects and enjoys.  The door thing that Osidegirl mentioned is something He used to do all the time.  I say "used to" because it was when He used to drive everywhere.  I waited for Him to come around and open the door of His truck for me to exit.  Same with getting back in and with entering/exiting stores, etc.  Now, I drive everywhere so that part of it kinda went by the wayside.  He still opens all other doors.  Again, nothing blatant but something He desires.

Since "Daddy" isn't what I call Him most of the time, I don't use it in public.  "Master" is the term I use most times and I don't blurt it out loudly in public.  If I call Him anything at all, it's not at full volume for everyone to hear and judge..............luci

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RE: Public behavior - 10/19/2008 7:43:40 PM   
catize


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ORIGINAL: proudsub

The dynamic is always there in public but few would know it.  I pump the gas and run the errands while He waits in the car.  I serve His meal at fast food, refill His coffee or coke, things like that.


Same here, and sometimes I'm so subtle he doesn't even notice!  We were at a crowded restaurant and our table was wobbly.  I stuck my foot under the table leg and kept it steady.
Another time we had decided to share a dessert.  When it was brought to the table, the top spoon was pointed my way and I changed them around. 

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RE: Public behavior - 10/19/2008 7:51:01 PM   
girlygurl


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ORIGINAL: proudsub

The dynamic is always there in public but few would know it.  I pump the gas and run the errands while He waits in the car.  I serve His meal at fast food, refill His coffee or coke, things like that.


OK, I wasn't going to quote you again but since there's two, I'll make it three. Well, we live in Oregon so we don't pump our own gas lol. Anytime I can do for my Sir I do it. It makes me happy!

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RE: Public behavior - 10/19/2008 9:41:14 PM   
ExKat


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Status: offline 		  Master and I tend to be super cuddly in public. If he gets domly and pinches me, or smacks my ass...well, people will just think, "Damned kids" rather than, "Damned kinksters". He'll display his dominance in person if I'm misbehaving. We don't do anything as ordered as a pace behind or anything as such.

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RE: Public behavior - 10/19/2008 10:42:11 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		My girl walks behind me, unless we're having a conversation, she always opens my doors and always calls me Ma'am, unless it's REALLY inappropriate, like at her job.

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RE: Public behavior - 10/20/2008 5:05:08 AM   
VivaciousSub


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Status: offline 		Sir and I keep the dynamic going in public, but not to a degree where we might offend other people. We're sensitive to the crowd we're in.

For instance, we were in Ybor yesterday - Tampa's District O' Oddities - so I could get my nipples pierced. The piercer certainly knew our dynamic - Sir's nickname through the whole thing was "Boss" - and afterward He told me repeatedly how proud he was of his little girl. Some people overheard and gave us big happy smiles (that only mirrored the one on my face!). Now were we around His parents, we'd be a bit more subtle than that.

All He really has to do though is get this tone of voice that to others sounds completely 'normal' but to us, makes it clear what my place is. Mmmm....


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RE: Public behavior - 10/20/2008 5:24:38 AM   
SlaveSuru


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My Master ha me do little things like getting his drinks at self serve restaurants ,  Or I go half way across the store for something and he stays in the general area.  I usually tend to walk a step behind him to his right as well.   He enjoys doing little things he knows make me squirm,  like reaching over in an empty aisle of the store and tweaking my nipple.  Lately he has had me walking on his right side with my hand in the crook of his elbow,  I like that one most I think.


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RE: Public behavior - 10/20/2008 11:37:37 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I know i belong to him and would shout it from the rooftops if i could.  When we go out we hold hands that always make me feel little because Master has large hands.  I usually call him Matt in public as per his order, sometimes i slip and call him Master but i don't think anyone notices.  We don't do anything obvious but he has the "look" all he has to do if give me the look and whatever i was doing to earn it stops right away.  So we don't push our lifestyle on unconsenting people.

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RE: Public behavior - 10/20/2008 1:14:10 PM   
kristileigh


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Status: offline 		Master prefers that i walk to the side and a little behind him in public. When W/we eat out at a restaurant that W/we are being seated Master picks His seat first and sits and then i sit next to Him.

As for the public displays......as Master says if HE wants to grab my ass or tits , they are His so if He wants to then He will. He doesn't do it when people are watching usually, but yes He does do it in the grocery store and in Wal Mart.

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RE: Public behavior - 10/20/2008 4:05:47 PM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		When i  met my Sir for the first time, he told me that he wouldn't do anything to embarass me in public or in front of my family.    And he hasn't!

Having said that, he likes to pinch my nipples when he is driving, or slap my butt in the parking lot (to the amusement of the man walking behind us!). He plays with me in a somewhat subtle way.  And for the most part in public i call him Joe - except when i slip and call him Sir.  I have been known to call him Sir in front of my kids - who were too grown  up to ask why - or were afraid of the answer.

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