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RE: Unique Rituals - 10/21/2008 12:20:51 PM

CreativeDominant

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ORIGINAL: subtee

Do you keep the same rituals for new slaves/subs, then?

A few. The chain is an example. Contact each day is another.

But I had different rituals with each of the three submissives I had that were specific to our dynamic. Since I do not have a submissive right now, I have no rituals in place with anyone. And for rituals to work, as Lady Pact said, they have to fit those three criterion. I would say that respect for your partner and your dynamic is inherent in the ritual...especially something as simple as the contact ritual I and others have noted...but some people believe that you can respect someone and their beliefs without following them.

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RE: Unique Rituals - 10/22/2008 2:56:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: leadership527

Yes, what they said

Our relationship develops organically, over time, as it will. While as the dominant I definitely do some shaping, I have not found the need for inserting elaborate rituals.

Just checking back in on the thread here. Sorry I haven't been on much in the past couple of days to thank everyone again.

Leadership, I did want to address the above. One word you used in particular was "elaborate" and I wanted to respond to that. A ritual doesn't have to be elaborate. In fact, the ones that I have found most effective over the course of time have been ones that aren't. Some people do write these long, extensive rituals, where everyone has to remember various lines that they recite. Almost like parts in a play. I've never found that kind of thing effective. Of course, to each their own, and all, but going by those three guidelines that I listed prior is what has worked for Me.

In the long term, the D/s dynamics that have been successful for Me have included rituals. When I don't go this path, I've noticed a serious lack of structure.

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RE: Unique Rituals - 10/22/2008 3:02:56 PM

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# The ritual has to serve a purpose.
# The ritual has to be practical.
# The ritual has to fit the dynamic.

I agree with you here. because my life is an equal mix of protocols (both high and low) and ad lib free flowing, rituals do take a place daily. Most however are well established rituals but on occasions I do use unique rites. Although I do have a carefully formatted rite for collering, I beloieve that each collering is unique and make each one that much different to suit that specific person and place he or she will fill in the home and dynamic.

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RE: Unique Rituals - 10/24/2008 12:22:43 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

The ritual has to serve a purpose.

The ritual has to be practical.

The ritual has to fit the dynamic.

Dear LadyPact
My rutauls include:
Waking and before-sleeping observations. This is full prostration at His feet or prosrtation to a beautiful Victorian Holily...it says; Not my will, But Thy will be done.
I have it on the wall at the foot of the bed.
My rituals also include texting: sleeping now, or siesta now, waking now with my name Slave Indigo, or yuor slave.
These rituals mark the beginning and the end of sleep periods that i take.
These ritauls are prectical as they relax me and (literally) ground me.
The ritual form a lynch-pin of the dynamic in as much as they mark the begining and the end of my time away from Master because i am sleeping. It's a function of love and my mssing Him when i am sleeping. He requires the ritual. So more importantly because He reuqires it it is necessary.

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RE: Unique Rituals - 10/24/2008 1:00:56 PM

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As a former Mistress, I dictated everything. What name a worm would call me, what they wore, when and if they ate, woke, etc. Perhaps that is a bit more protocol?
As far as ritual, my fave would have to be that whenever they ejaculated, they had to shout my name. (That is, if I allowed them to pleasure themselves, or release.)

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RE: Unique Rituals - 10/24/2008 4:08:57 PM

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Very nice thread. I like to let rituals develop as a relationship forms. If I have a relationship with a sub where rituals don't form? It's typically a sign that we're not compatible.

My personal favorite is when my pet turns back the bed then kneels beside it, waiting for permission to hop into bed too.

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RE: Unique Rituals - 10/24/2008 11:59:19 PM

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Master and i had more rituals when We were apart than now We live together. But one that i adhere to is that everything of Master's is always on my right. When i am serving food, His plate and glass etc are on the right so i always know which is His. In the fridge, His regular milk is always on the right of my low fat milk etc. i wear His collar (my identity bracelet) on my right wrist and the initial commitment ring on my right little finger. Why everything on the right? Well, Master is always right ... isn't He

However there is a vacancy on My left for My sub-to-be ...

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