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ALAstella -> RE: feminization (1/17/2009 12:51:51 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Coupleofwhats
I like Crossdressing when actual effort is made to look like a beautiful woman, and the CD revels in his own beauty.
The whole gorilla-in-a-tutu look is pointless at best; more often, it's insulting to women.
This isn't quite as insulting as people deciding who looks good in what outfit, 'outing' the transgendered with cries of 'it's a man', 'that's a bloke' or cries of 'Oh my God' or taking it upon themselves to decide who is acceptable as a female or not.
You want the whole 'gorilla in a tutu' look? Fine, take yourself off to somewhere for example in London such as Brixton, Tottenham or Peckham and you'll find plenty of heavy-set women wearing ill-fitting clothing, wigs and make up who just as accurately fit the description. Why, you don't even have to go that far. Simply browse some of the profiles of the female dommes to find some who look more like glamorous transvestites than the glamorous transvestites themselves.
Besides, to expect your average CD or TG to immediately transform themselves into a beautiful woman is not just unrealistic, but is a gross misunderstanding over what feminniity (or masculinity for that matter) really is all about. Even for someone who is working towards full gender reassignment it can take them years to develop any sort of credible feminine image.
But the thing is, if women can wear trousers, jeans, and adopt formerly masculine styles to their clothing and footwear and walk through the streets without comment, why is it such a major issue if a guy chooses to crossdress as a woman? I mean who's making it a big issue and reacting with all the drama?
And you really think all it takes is a good outfit, a wig and a few cosmetics to create a woman? Isn't that way of thinking more insulting to women in general?
And it's precisely here we hit the crux of the matter.. Women who are born as girls are raised that way, more or less, there's a right of passage and stages from being a girl to becoming a woman which take many years, just as it takes years for a boy to become a man. Most crossdressers know this, it's got nothing to do with passing as a woman, they want to feel like women and experience what women experience, and the desire for forced feminization is quite often a desire to be taught what women were taught as girls. It's a desire for lessons in femininity, not necessarily as a means to humiliate them and it doesn't necessarily mean they perceive women as being anything less than men, they rather perceive it as an extension of themselves, and it's a desire to meet the challenge of being able to cross the barriers between genders and to experience life as being one or the other gender.
The thing is the transgendered community embraces both genders and everything between. Try to work out the difference between a transsexual female in the early stages of her gender reassignment, a transvestite, and a crossdressing male on the basis of their appearance, and you can't. I can't anyway. The difference lies entirely on the inside, the transsexual female really is female whereas the crossdressing male is merely fulfilling an emotional need. It lies within, there's no way of knowing from their appearance.
Crossdressing in itself lies within someone's basic human right of freedom of personal self-expression, for they are as free to choose how they present themselves to the world as the rest of us. Why do they do it? Because they need to is the most superficial answer I can give, but what does it matter anyway? They are certainly not under any obligation to be aesthetically pleasing to anyone else.
If you don't like the way someone looks you can always look away or ignore them, and just move on. The only ones who make a problem out of it are the ones who have a problem with it for this is what it is, their problem.
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