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Any Suggestions or Words of Wisdom? - 12/11/2005 9:58:09 AM

d0min0e

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I have been reading the forums to see where I belong.. So maybe if I explain myself I will find the answer I so desperately desire..

I am very naive to the everyday lifestyle of BDSM. I know what I like in the bedroom but that is the only place it is practiced really.
I consider myself a switch, well because I like to be in control sometimes and other times i like to be a sub.

When I am in control and I know the limits of that person, I do them. From choking to slapping across the face, racking is a personal favorite of mine.

Tieing them up to where they cannot move,gagging them to where they cant talk. One thing I have not tried yet and would love to is gag the person so they cant talk,leave them only in their underwear and make them get down on their knees and shave my legs...Weird right? I dont know why, but it came to me one day..

When I am the sub, I like it when the other orders for me, I love to be slapped around, gagged, choked, cuffed, unable to move..Undressed even when I dont want to, though I am very self concious and it makes me uncomfortable (in a good way though). I would even go as far as someone video taping me and threatening me to use it if I dont do what they ask..

What I want though, is to learn more..I want to see what is all offered. I know the sky is the limit but how do I go about getting that high? I need a mentor to take me under their wing and show me all there is to offer...I have a personal friend who practices this life style but he is more of a sub. I want someone to take control of me right now till I learn more and can choose to be dom with someone more experianced..Maybe once I learn more I can surprise him.

Anyway suggestions or words of wisdm are greatly appreciated..

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RE: Any Suggestions or Words of Wisdom? - 12/11/2005 4:53:06 PM

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I would suggest you find other adventurous spirits in your age group to practice with. Many areas have thriving TNG (The Next Generation) groups.
Best of luck
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RE: Any Suggestions or Words of Wisdom? - 12/11/2005 8:21:59 PM

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i would suggest finding a local group and getting involved with it...if you are near Memphis, i know there is a very good group there that runs a dungeon, they also have many munches you can meet people at. There are a lot of TNG groups around now and they may also be able to help you meet the right mentor. Good luck in your search

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RE: Any Suggestions or Words of Wisdom? - 12/11/2005 8:35:12 PM

RolePlayDomme

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Well, not that I like "labels" and the like, but it sounds to me as though you are, as you say, a switch. Some will tell you that switches don't exist:; you're either sub or Dominant. That's like saying it's either noon or midnight...there's LOTS of stuff in-between.

Do you know how to find local BDSM groups in your area? If you don't already know somebody in a group, they can be understandably hard to find...

The key is to remain open minded and adventurous...people were satisfactorily kinky long before there were organized groups or the internet. But the fact is, it's often more fun when you can interact on some level with like-minded others. I love involving trusted others in my scenes, but some people are just as kinky and much more private.

If you'd like you CAN find real people that you can interact with in person, watch them scene, have them observe you scene. Do you know how to find local BDSM groups in your area? If you don't already know somebody in a group, they can be understandably hard to find...

If you want to interact with others, this is a good place to look...contact Dominants, submissives and switches in your area that you find on Collarme, and let them know what you're looking for...

Once you've found someone that you want to meet with, or have info on a group, post again, and get tips on safe ways to meet people!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: Any Suggestions or Words of Wisdom? - 12/11/2005 8:57:05 PM

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quote:

I know what I like in the bedroom but that is the only place it is practiced really.

That's great if all you want is S&M but it can be a problem when it comes to Dominance/submissive. After all, if it's just Kinky Sex then you aren't getting your Discipline that's needed in everyday life. You have no rules to follow or punishment to have for failures. A firm hand is needed in more places than just the bedroom. Doms need to know when to cutt themselves and there subs off of alcohol when at bars/parties. Some if not most subs need that firm hand to keep them from spending to much at stores or be draged out of a shoping area.

It's really great that you are willing and ready to try out a 24/7 D/s relationship. As a switch it wouldn't be a bad idea to be with someone who likes giving discipline but could also use a little themself. This way both of you keep on each others toes pushing yourselves to be the best you two can. This involves keeping a clean house, nice yard, time managment, having the bills paid on time, and possibly being some what healthy and in good shape.

As for finding a Dom, well I think it will happen sooner or later. The trick is to stick to your standards and being yourself. Message those who might interest you. As already stated, try checking out some of the groups in your area. I also suggest that you see about making friends with couples. This way you can see various ways on how some of the D/s relationships work for people. What you want does exist and you will find it if it dosen't find you first.

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RE: Any Suggestions or Words of Wisdom? - 12/11/2005 9:04:39 PM

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Anyway suggestions or words of wisdom are greatly appreciated..
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muhammed went to the wall and came away enlightened.

the book of life has mirrors for pages.

is this helping?
i suggest.........time......patience...experimenting

and by all means............have fun

take care

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RE: Any Suggestions or Words of Wisdom? - 12/12/2005 5:32:11 AM

d0min0e

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Thank you all. I have been speaking with a few people and I am going to be attending a weekly that happens in nashville this week.. I am excited to meet people who practice this everyday..

Thank you all..and keep em coming.