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Incadius -> RE: How to choose the right Master... (10/26/2008 10:46:05 AM)
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I don't know exactly what you are looking for, but I know most Masters who don't feel like they have something to prove have the happiest submissives. If you submit to someone, submit to who the person is on a regular basis, not what he acts like when he's "playing the role". It feels nice at first, but after a while, the ones who are trying to fit a role that doesn't mesh with how they are normally start to feel fake, and then the relationship begins to crumble. It can take months or years, but I've seen it happen in almost every case. Fall for the person, and let the dom side be the icing on the cake, and you'll do great.
And anyone who tries ordering you around right from the start and tells you you are not a good submissive if you don't feel comfortable bowing to their will on day one is someone you want to steer clear of. I only mention these types because a friend of mine had this exact thing happen to them. That kind of dominant is not good at what they do, and they try to push their shortcomings onto their sub, blaming them instead of admitting that they themselves are not flawless. Submit and take orders only when you feel comfortable, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Hope you find what you're looking for, and I hope this helps.
And listen to califsue, a few posts up. Some may disagree with her methods, but there's sound advice in there. Don't submit long term until you know, without hesitation, what you want in someone. If you jump in, both feet first and eyes closed, you stand the chance, and a pretty good one at that, of ending up with someone that you truely aren't happy with. And I've seen people stay with someone like that because they just don't know anything better is out there.
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