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RE: Toy Responsibility - 10/20/2008 8:10:06 PM

Lashra

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Insertables used on him, he(my sub) buys as well as the lube and condoms. He also bought some other items that he really wanted to try. I bought the quirt, flogger, strapon/harness and some CBT toys and restraints. We keep adding to our huge toy bag so usually if you want it you buy it and then its your responsiblity to keep it and he of course gets the job of cleaning them all

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RE: Toy Responsibility - 10/21/2008 2:54:57 AM

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I've always provided my own insertable toys...or only used new in the package if someone else provided.
As far as the ouchie toys...i never thought to have my own toy bag....i'd much rather have someone use a flogger, etc. on me that they were comfortable and proficient with. It really just depends on what your understanding with your Dominant is...i've been told in the past, only they would buy, or i couldn't buy without specific permission..
After Stephen passed i inherited his toy bags...they dont' do me much good now, but i do have favorites there, and one day i'll share with someone special.....

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RE: Toy Responsibility - 10/21/2008 8:54:17 AM

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Master and i add to our toybag from time to time. Most of the toys we have he has bought and have never and wil never be used on anyone but me. One toy that i love/hate i bought, he asked for it as a Christmas present so i got it for him. Most toys we shop for together.

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RE: Toy Responsibility - 10/21/2008 10:40:20 AM

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That is between you and your Master/Dom. My Master wants me to take care of our toy box. If it is found to be out of order, my butt gets swatted. Some Masters/Doms want their slave/sub never to touch the toys, but some Masters/Doms don't want to deal with their care.
ooohhh...a butt hook? Master T wants one of those! He saw a great picture of a butt hook hooked to a hood and the sub couldn't put her head down or ass hook would feel very ouchy! Let me know how that goes.

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RE: Toy Responsibility - 10/21/2008 12:40:57 PM

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Master has brought most of ours, but they are things we have chosen together, altho i would happily buy toys as well.

As for who looks after the toys, well master looks after some of the kinkier items and i keep hold of the vibes..

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RE: Toy Responsibility - 10/21/2008 2:15:06 PM

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I have my own toy bag, which, should I go to a club on my own (or sometimes with friends/tops depending on the who they are) I take with me.

There is a disadvantage in that whoever then tops me is going to be less familiar with my toys.
There is an advantage in that I know what they feel like, and can guide them, know they are clean, safe, not damaged, not going to harm me because they are in a poor state of repair etc.

I also know what I have and how it works in case I ever bump into that elusive masochist.

I bring my own condoms. Not that I am often in positions where one might be used, though, if it's not *my* insertable, it will be a)cleaned and b)condomed before I even *think* about it going inside me. For that point, if I were to use my insertibles in a club, I'd put a condom on them, just for cleanliness and cleanup ease.

I bring my own gloves, basic common sense if you're going to fist someone.

I don't do blood, scalples etc as they are too unsafe for me medically.

I've done needles once, I should imagine I would always expect the top to provide the kit, as it's a sign that they know what they need to be safe, call it a "do you know what you're doing" test. I'm not going to provide the alcohol wipes if they don't have them, because I'll be too busy wondering *why* they don't have any. This may well change should I wind up in a relationship where needles are a more common occurance.

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RE: Toy Responsibility - 10/21/2008 3:01:56 PM

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about buying the toys, Master T buys most of the bdsm stuff. He loves this place called sub-shop.com that has all kinds of great prices (quality is better than most I've seen as well). I buy the vibes and things like that (I sell sex toys to my clients and thus get a 50% discount on my toys-too bad I can't get a deal on the kink stuff). Anyone have a better place to get kinky things other than sub-shop that is not horrid expensive and still good quality? not trying to hijack thread-just goes along with some responses :)

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RE: Toy Responsibility - 10/22/2008 9:57:00 AM

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My Owner had a great many toys when I entered this relationship. However, all of the toys meant for insertion (vibrators, plugs, etc.) were mine. I am responsible for those sorts of things as we both figure I know best what fits and what pleases me in that regard. Cleaning and maintanance is done by both of us. There hasn't been really any rules since we've been together about who is to pay for new toys. Sometimes I buy, sometimes He does. It depends on our bank accounts at the time we find a particularly pleasing object.

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RE: Toy Responsibility - 10/22/2008 4:47:58 PM

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Most Dominants I have met have their own toy bags containing the types of toys that they have a preference for using or have specialized in using for example single tail whips. I would not allow someone with no experience with a single tail to use one on me .... so though I own one myself ...unless I know they have experience with ..it remains packed away

If say you have an issue about using their dildoes that he has and for sanitary reasons and you feel washing and sanitizing is not enough .. you could suggest that you buy condoms to cover them or supplying your own dildoes.

I have over my time involved I purchased a good collection of toys to have on hand...this way if I have a friend Dom stops in and we decide to play we have something on hand.. also I have had Doms visit from outside the country... being toys can present problems when crossing over the border and be confiscated ... I decided to solve the issue by buying some myself so they do not have to worry about losing their collection or trying to explain to custom officials why they have certain items in their baggage

A former dom that I was involved with has recently decided to retire from the lifestyle and thought highly enough of me to offer me his toy collection ..so within the next couple of weeks I will be inheriting them.

A Dom that I was involved with and now my current one have offered to buy toys for me as gifts

so I am amassing a fairly large collection toys

Now if you decide to get involved in an online D/s relationship chances are you will be asked to buy toys yourself
as most Doms will not invest money on an online only relationship but if they ask you to buy stuff and it may cause financial problems for you ..be honest about and tell them ..if they order you to buy anyway then they are not that concerned about your welfare they are not much of a dom

If you want an idea what to start with if you want to buy some items for yourself without going into hawk for ... a couple dildoes , a vibe, nipple clamps or clothes pins, a leather belt ... you can also look at sites like frugaldomme.com .. for toys to make... there are simple ideas for a homemade flogger, household items for sensation or impact play , instructions on making cuffs and spreader bars

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RE: Toy Responsibility - 10/22/2008 5:56:57 PM

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Both my Dom and i will equally buy the toys, but because they stay with me, it's my job to make sure that they are cleaned before and after play.

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RE: Toy Responsibility - 10/22/2008 6:38:47 PM

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I have my own toybag, as certain toys (insertables and the like) are for use on me alone and others (disposables, condoms, and such) I don't think a Dom should always have to pay for. That said, I also have several impact toys, many of which I have made myself. It really isn't all that expensive to have your own toybag if you use pervertables and/ or are craft-inclined and, as we found out at Steel's Vegas birthday party, extra toys just make the party MORE fun!

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RE: Toy Responsibility - 10/22/2008 6:51:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

The rule of thumb I tell people is: if you care that the toy is used on other people, then buy the toy for yourself and request that it be used on you.

Honestly, it'd be nice if a bottom popped for disposable stuff on a regular basis. Needles, fire play supplies, wax play supplies, scalpels, condoms...they get expensive after a while.

Master Fire

i absolutely agree...when i use the needles then i replace them. Same with any disposables...i can clearly see the supply going down as the scene progresses and all i can think is i better get some more of this or that for next time....
As for my toys, i have a few, and plan to get more as time goes on...but i tend to only purchase or have made toys that are thuddy and slip me into a delicious coma on the web. When it comes time to buy something that really hurts me, i somehow run out of disposable cash.
i sometimes think im the worlds worst masochist. Most days ill avoid pain like the plague.

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RE: Toy Responsibility - 10/23/2008 9:44:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: BuddnRoze

i more or so meant the buying of them. i figured it would be a joint thing, anyone have thoughts there.

When i was single I bought what I wanted to be in the toybox.

Now i'm in a relationship we discuss what is going to be bought. i suggest the things I would like to have used and he tells me to make sure the things he wants to use on me are purchased lol

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