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agirl -> RE: Nothing and everything (10/23/2008 7:37:13 AM)

This is a random reply to your random post.( I'm a random poster these days)

There's nothing like the ability to recognise the good things in your life, no matter how they occurred and it's nice to hear that someone, somewhere is content right this moment.

Interesting to read how your expression of that, is interpreted by others. And coming from someone that has no desire to be Mother Theresa and who just takes care of her small corner of the world, I also have to ask why expressing that you're happy, elicits cries of *what are you doing for others?*. I'm also wondering who the *low masses* are. Mind you, if you'd written a long list of all your good deeds, you'd likely be accused of being self-satisfied and smug....lol.

Enjoy.

Regards, agirl













MadameMarque -> RE: Nothing and everything (10/23/2008 7:38:09 AM)

Happiness shared is happiness multiplied.  Thanks and continued blessings.


"Hey... I don't have all the answers. In life, to be honest, I have failed as much as I have succeeded. But I love my wife. I love my life. And I wish you my kind of success."

- from Jerry McGuire, screenplay by Cameron Crowe




NuevaVida -> RE: Nothing and everything (10/23/2008 7:50:48 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: leadership527

To those who read this post as a "go me" post, it really wasn't intended to be that way and I'm genuinely sorry for that. It really was just as simple as realizing in the grocery store parking lot that my very ordinary life (complete with two divorces and two associated financial meltdowns and other assorted misery) had kind of suddenly come up all aces -- relationship wise, not financially -- and I was having an OMG moment.



Speaking from someone emerging from a mean and ugly divorce, and emerging from a 4 year relationship that left me wondering "wtf?", your comments here feed the hope I am already riding on, for my own future. Sometimes, even in the thick of my own financial and relationship disaster, I find myself blissfully happy for how rewarding my life continues to be because of the people in it and because of my own perspective. Living in the present is indeed an awesome thing. Thank you for yet another reminder that life really can be good, rewarding and joyful, no matter what the circumstance.

Personally I saw your post as I see all of your other posts - a positive contribution to a world that can sometimes be stressful and confusing. Thank you.




kyraofMists -> RE: Nothing and everything (10/23/2008 7:55:24 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: leadership527
It really was just as simple as realizing in the grocery store parking lot that my very ordinary life (complete with two divorces and two associated financial meltdowns and other assorted misery) had kind of suddenly come up all aces -- relationship wise, not financially -- and I was having an OMG moment.


To quote an amazing woman that I have had the pleasure of hearing speak, "Rock on with your bad self".

I fully believe that if you look for misery, you will find it.  However, if you are focused on looking for the good in life then it will find you and as you said, you will come up all aces. 

Knight's Kyra




celticlord2112 -> RE: Nothing and everything (10/23/2008 8:25:00 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

woopie for you--what are you doing to help your fellow "man"?
 
oh I'm sorry, are the low masses supposed to cheer for you?

Why not?  Where's the harm?

Sometimes, life just happens to be good--and there's enough crappola in the world that it's good to hear about the good life when it occurs.

Myself.....no 401(k)....major upheavals in the personal sector....recession possibilities dampening new client acquisition in the business sector.....and this is still the best time of my life. 

I have a slave.  I am (re)learning the fine art of step-parenting.  I have friends that give a damn about me, and about whom I give a damn.

I am not rich, I am not broke, I am not satisfied, but I am alive, and my future is still looking up and not down.

Life is good.  And that needs to be said.....often.




stella41b -> RE: Nothing and everything (10/23/2008 8:25:32 AM)

Wow what a brilliant OP. I'm happy for you.




akisha -> RE: Nothing and everything (10/23/2008 8:56:14 AM)

Leader,
Happy to hear all is well and you are enjoying the life you have.

For those that responded negatively, wow lighten up, think well of someone that is actually not bitching about something on here.

Having been one of the ones that have lost absolutely everything twice in my 34 years because of bad choices in partners, and still stuggling to buy my own home (again) I can't see why you would react so negatively to a very upbeat and positive posting. Talk about looking for the bad instead of rejoicing in something good.

3 years ago i moved here with nothing but a baby in my arms and our clothes. It only took a couple weeks to start getting back on my feet and now i'm totally self suffiecent again. A "can do" attitude goes a long way. Concentrating on how hard things are and being bitter that someone has managed to make good in their life is extremely self defeating.

As for yapping at him about doing for his fellow man, you have no idea if he donates time or money or what ever, you just assume he doesn't. And really; man seriously needs to do for himself first and formost. I agree we should all help out when and how we can but there is a limit.

If more people focussed on the positive things in life instead of dwelling on poor poor me type of crap, society might be a little better off.




oceanwynds -> RE: Nothing and everything (10/23/2008 9:31:43 AM)

It is great to hear someone feeling good about life. That things seem to all fit together now.

It is interesting that some have problems with another's happiness. As if how dare you be happy, when I am so sad/hurt etc. I seen this thinking so many times, instead of you dragging 'me' up, let 'me' drag you down into my pit.

My life today can be view with tons of obstacles; mom's health, possibility of losing my home, financial dip and not being able to see Sir often because of my daily obstacles. In a few weeks it would have been my anniversary, if hubby was still alive. I say so what to all of this. They are all challenges that I will get through. The important thing is what I do today that will matter and count.

As I have heard throughout my life, misery loves company, and they sure can't stand another being happy. I don't think this will ever change. I am glad there are some people who can share with others that they are happy. Good for you Leadership.  I am a happy person too.

oceanwynds




girlivy -> RE: Nothing and everything (10/23/2008 9:37:21 AM)

OP,
Thank you for sharing your many blessings that have been bestowed upon you.
It is  an inspiration!  

Having found myself at different times thought this journey "so poor without a pot to piss in", as well as "not wanting for anything" The lesson i have learned is to do ones best to enjoy the present regardless of what has or does not have. Life is ever changing.
For myself, i can honestly say that regardless of what cards are dealt, i have learned that i will be the same person internally, and be thankful and rejoice in the moment of life.

It's not so much a choice at times situation ones in, but  whats "drawn" from each situation IS a choice. Some just choose to draw negative energy from more situations be it their own or an others.

How and what one identifies them-self as/with, could be a thread of it's own. Some may measure successes in material and public status, others through knowledge, and spiritual growth. It''s all about what works for each individual.

Then there's that whole perception little thingies, as well as nurture issues. which varies from one to another.

Sooooooo having said all that, i understand both sides. Do i agree with both sides? Hell NO!!
Again I would like to extend a smile and a blessing of continued success to you and yours :)

Honestly, from the title of this post, I thought it was going to be a post about being in a "sub mindset" As i have often used that phrase of "having a feeling of beings all, and yet nothing" at the very same time.
Cheers!





apiercedkitty -> RE: Nothing and everything (10/23/2008 10:30:09 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: leadership527

To those who read this post as a "go me" post, it really wasn't intended to be that way and I'm genuinely sorry for that. It really was just as simple as realizing in the grocery store parking lot that my very ordinary life (complete with two divorces and two associated financial meltdowns and other assorted misery) had kind of suddenly come up all aces -- relationship wise, not financially -- and I was having an OMG moment.

@SimplyMichael: Actually, the really funny thing is that I hadn't even thought of the financial part as "good fortune". I saw it as pretty mediocre providing a plain and unadorned setting for the sparkling jewel in my life which is Carol. In reviewing this, I think WhipLash might've been right that given the possible spread of finances across the internet, it was probably insensitive to post such things. Honestly, I hadn't thought about "thank you" since it was, as I said, a pretty simple "OMG" moment. But the "Thank you" sentiment is also perfectly appropriate.

To everyone here who has shared a bit of themselves, and in that sharing, helped me to understand this incredibly weird yet wonderful thing that has happened in my life... to everyone that has taken the trouble to argue me to the ground on some point... to everyone who's life is not at all like mine and in exposing those differences has helped me to learn about myself... Thank you.


And that right there, my dear fellow posters, is what makes Leader's posts such a joy to read. There are many (myself included) that need to take a hard look at how he responded to the negative around him - with humility, honesty and the ability to express himself with amazing clarity.




kallisto -> RE: Nothing and everything (10/23/2008 4:32:48 PM)

What a  great post leadership!!!  And everyone else who responded so positively.   It seems as though everywhere I turn nowadays someone has something negative to say.   It's wonderful to hear people from all different locations and walks of life being positive.   Life is too damn short for me to wallow in own my misery, let alone someone else's.  [:)]   I take in every moment (ok, most every moment)  with a smile on face [:)]




tweedydaddy -> RE: Nothing and everything (10/23/2008 4:40:44 PM)

Nice to know I'm not the only one who's doing well!
Pity there are so many people too small inside to feel good for another's success.




GreedyTop -> RE: Nothing and everything (10/23/2008 5:01:42 PM)

Leader.. fwiw, I never took your post to be a 'look at me' thing.. simply a shared ackowledgment of blessings appreciated!  Good on you and Carol..  I wish you both continued success in everything *hug*




leadership527 -> RE: Nothing and everything (10/23/2008 5:09:16 PM)

quote:

Original: NuevaVida
Speaking from someone emerging from a mean and ugly divorce, and emerging from a 4 year relationship that left me wondering "wtf?", your comments here feed the hope I am already riding on, for my own future. Sometimes, even in the thick of my own financial and relationship disaster, I find myself blissfully happy for how rewarding my life continues to be because of the people in it and because of my own perspective. Living in the present is indeed an awesome thing. Thank you for yet another reminder that life really can be good, rewarding and joyful, no matter what the circumstance.

Isn't that the truth. About a year ago I was canned from my job. I made about 3/4 of the total family income so losing my wage stream was concerning. My response was to invest my new copious free time in my marriage, slap a collar around my wife's neck (*laughs* not really, she started it. but it just sounds so damned dominant when I say it that way), learn to do the job right, and suddenly I've got this really swell glass full of lemonade that started with being canned from work. Go Go You Too!




LadyPact -> RE: Nothing and everything (10/24/2008 7:36:14 AM)

Leadership, I'm sure the folks on the boards will absolutely appreciate the thanks.  However, I don't believe you owe an apology.  Just because there might be people out there who aren't especially on an upswing, it certainly doesn't mean you can't talk about yours.

I've had those OMG moments.  Just like you, I posted about it here, too*.  To Me, it was a good thing to be able to look around My life and say, yes, I am truly happy.  There's nothing wrong with acknowledging those kind of moments for what they are.  Not all of us have them every day or we tend to have them during certain periods in our lives, but not others.

The truth of the matter is, no, I'm not especially on an upswing right now.  This isn't especially going to be one of My better days.  I could have sat here, reading about you realizing your good fortune, and had nothing but jealousy and spite.  Instead, I was really glad for you and your Carol.  Not only that, but you reminded Me of one of My OMG days, which will help Me get through this one.  For that, Leadership, I think it's much more appropriate that I thank you.


*The post I was referring to above.  I couldn't remember how to link just what I had to say, so you'll just have to look for the purple writer in the thread.  http://www.collarchat.com/m_1822176/mpage_1/key_sitting%252Cpatio/tm.htm#




sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Nothing and everything (10/24/2008 7:46:50 AM)

i posted the same thought recently on my myspace blog.

here i am - a single/divorced mom nearing 40 (and i don't look it), rocking out to bands 3 to 4 nights a week and for the first time in a very long while, i'm actually enjoying life. i've tackled standing in front of cameras recently and tomorrow will take part of a documentary filming.

it feels wonderful to heed to the advice of Auntie Mame and live, live, LIVE!




spankablemilf -> RE: Nothing and everything (10/24/2008 9:38:37 AM)

It's the typical liberal "anti-success" that's becoming more and more common and come Nov 4th will most likely become even more common.

quote:

ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

quote:

ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

woopie for you--what are you doing to help your fellow "man"?
 
oh I'm sorry, are the low masses supposed to cheer for you?


Why on earth the sarcasm?  Is there something you find irritating about someone being happy with their life?

Seems to me that the world would be better off if we all cheered when someone reaches their goals, rather than treating success as an anathema.  For that matter, why assume that the OP might not already be helping his "fellow man"?  How about the fact that he's not being a burden to society?  Do you think that the "low masses" automatically ask, "What's in it for me?"





spankablemilf -> RE: Nothing and everything (10/24/2008 9:42:36 AM)

Amen sister :) Tell 'em like it is!

quote:

ORIGINAL: catize

Leadership,
Apparently your joy tests the limits of tolerance for some people.  Your happiness and contentment with your life is too much for the bitter, jealous, miserable whiny populace.  You must apologize at once, and remove that smile from your face!  You dare never laugh again, because……..well just because! 
Disgruntlement lessons will begin first thing in the morning! 




myotherself -> RE: Nothing and everything (10/24/2008 10:02:14 AM)

A few years ago I had everything - lovely house, good job, great salary, partner.  But I wasn't happy.

Then I lost it all - the job, the house, the partner.  Now I'm in a job that pays peanuts, but delivers 100 times my salary in job satisfaction.  I have a tiny house, and a crappy pension to look forward to. 

But I have a whole load of new friends *waves at the sunderland munch* and a new partner. And I couldn't be happier.

I'm glad I'm not the only one counting my blessings!




justgemmie -> RE: Nothing and everything (10/24/2008 10:34:25 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: spankablemilf

It's the typical liberal "anti-success" that's becoming more and more common and come Nov 4th will most likely become even more common.



there are not enough swear words for me in this -- can you cut the political bullshit and enjoy a happy post already!!!??? 

Leadership ~~ congrats  [:)]    well done i say, well done!!

gemmie




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