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RealSub58 -> RE: the dominant within as a path to control and discipline (11/1/2008 1:47:33 PM)
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ORIGINAL: stella41b
She referred to this as 'the dominant within' and it was a way of working towards control and discipline. I was required to adopt some of her character traits, her methods of self-expression, her tastes, preferences, and to work at making them my own and working them into my inner nature. She felt that submission was just like obedience, it had to be absolute, unquestioning, non-negotiable, and to come from within. She was looking for me to be totally submissive and obedient to her will, but also to carry a sense of dignity, of pride and honour in my submission. She insisted that I dominate some of her paying submissives and slaves, and she trained me to be a dominant with a small 'd', as no more than an extension of my submission. She wanted me as an alpha type female slave and wanted me to be able to indepedently make the right decisions and choices through having 'the Mistress within'.
She saw this as a more preferable model of service than command and service.
This taught me to understand authority transfer as a stage in the relationship and not something which happens continually throughout the relationship.
Please feel free to share experiences, thoughts, opinions.
I believe that this is what my Sir is teaching me at this point.A woman, like me, must believe in her own strengths as well as learn strengths from the dominant. The first time we played with a male sub, he wanted me to assume an alpha type of positon and I couldn't. I can now. This will prevent the lostness some feel when their own identity seems to be swallowed up by molding of the dominant..a mini clone so to speak.This mini cloning is not any sort of transfer or exchange.
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