I have a question:

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

I have a question:

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> I have a question:

Page: [1]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

I have a question: - 10/22/2008 9:08:16 PM

saveanescapist

Posts: 1
Joined: 8/25/2008
Status: offline

IS ANYONE SERIOUS ON THIS SITE?
I'm getting desperate.
I thought, when I turned 18, 'finally! I'm going to be able to seriously pursue the one passion that I've had to keep from everyone in my life. I'm legal, and i'm going to find someone who can dominate me and who I can explore this lifestyle with.' I've pined to reach this point since I hit puberty.
And here I am, in Chicago, with an apartment almost all to myself, I can go anywhere on the CTA in half an hour, and you're telling me that there isn't one girl reasonably close to my age in all of Chicago that will dominate me?
I've gotten a few maybes that fell through. I've gotten a lot that just want me to buy them things. Isn't there a single woman in this damned city who just wants a man to worship her without money? I don't even want to get laid. I just want to bow at a Mistress' feet. Maybe clean her floors for her. Perhaps even be allowed to worship her feet!
I crave it more then anything in my life! Is there no hope for me?

Profile

Post #: 1

RE: I have a question: - 10/22/2008 9:12:52 PM

AAkasha

Posts: 4429
Joined: 11/27/2004
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: saveanescapist

IS ANYONE SERIOUS ON THIS SITE?
I'm getting desperate.
I thought, when I turned 18, 'finally! I'm going to be able to seriously pursue the one passion that I've had to keep from everyone in my life. I'm legal, and i'm going to find someone who can dominate me and who I can explore this lifestyle with.' I've pined to reach this point since I hit puberty.
And here I am, in Chicago, with an apartment almost all to myself, I can go anywhere on the CTA in half an hour, and you're telling me that there isn't one girl reasonably close to my age in all of Chicago that will dominate me?
I've gotten a few maybes that fell through. I've gotten a lot that just want me to buy them things. Isn't there a single woman in this damned city who just wants a man to worship her without money? I don't even want to get laid. I just want to bow at a Mistress' feet. Maybe clean her floors for her. Perhaps even be allowed to worship her feet!
I crave it more then anything in my life! Is there no hope for me?

Last I recall, Chicago has a pretty cool alternative club scene for 18-20s crowd - Neo? Exit? Is Black Market Chicago still open (for toys) - if so, talk to the people that run that place and see what cool clubs for 18+ kinksters are out there. You can also look into the "munch" scene (I am sure others will give you links and names) which tends to be a little bit of an older crowd (in my experience, but it might be different). Get yourself a dog collar and some bondage cuffs and go find yourself an outrageous hot goth girl to experiment with in the meantime. A fair number of people into alternative music are also experimenting with kink. Don't worry so much about your age - you are getting older every day. One day you'll be too old :)

Akasha

_____________________________

Akasha's Web - All original Femdom content since 1995
Don't email me here, email me at [email protected]

(in reply to saveanescapist)

Profile

Post #: 2

RE: I have a question: - 10/22/2008 9:14:58 PM

FullfigRIMaam

Posts: 718
Joined: 6/21/2007
Status: offline

Your question almost begs a smartass response, but I'm not going to go there.
You look adorable. Don't act desperate. Find a group in your big city to join, go to munches, and you'll find someone who will play with you if you behave well in public.
Good luck, M

_____________________________

"touching was and still is and will always be the true revolution" Nikki Giovanni
"Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence." Erich Fromm

(in reply to saveanescapist)

Profile

Post #: 3

RE: I have a question: - 10/22/2008 9:50:33 PM

ShaktiSama

Posts: 1674
Joined: 8/13/2007
Status: offline

Lol...last I checked, cute boys don't have any trouble geting dominated. You want to be dominated by someone your own age who isn't a pro, o clubbing.

_____________________________

"Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea."
-- Robert A. Heinlein

(in reply to FullfigRIMaam)

Profile

Post #: 4

RE: I have a question: - 10/23/2008 3:19:06 AM

undergroundsea

Posts: 2400
Joined: 6/27/2004
From: Austin, TX
Status: offline

Chicago also has (or had) a TNG chapter, which is a BDSM group for the younger generation. Aside from that, Chicago has fetish events at clubs fairly regularly.

Cheers,

Sea

(in reply to ShaktiSama)

Profile

Post #: 5

RE: I have a question: - 10/23/2008 4:02:03 AM

MsStarlett

Posts: 1879
Joined: 12/23/2007
Status: offline

Oh lord. My 'baby' just turned 18. If anyone did to him what I do to my 'boy toys'... I think I'd have to kill them.

Of course, my son is a High School Senior dating a College girl who looks kind of like ME! All our friends keep asking, "Has he read Oedipus?"

*sticking my fingers in my ears*squeezing eyes tight* LaLaLaLaLa!

_____________________________

It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.
It is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed,
the hands acquire shakes, the shakes become a warning,
It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.

(in reply to undergroundsea)

Profile

Post #: 6

RE: I have a question: - 10/23/2008 4:24:17 AM

hopelesslyInvo

Posts: 522
Joined: 2/10/2008
From: the future
Status: offline

i remember the troubles of being 18, and how anyone i'd talk to would either be paranoid i was not actually 'legal' and just saying i was, or simply didn't take me seriously. it's like joining the military, and you're the green rookie that it feels like no one wants to deal with. at 25 and not feeling any different than i did at 18, i do notice however a difference in treatment from people; no one comments on my age at all anymore, let alone do they hold it against me much to my knowledge.

basically i have the impression that people will always 'know what to expect of you', and you will at times have to go though some less than simple or easy lengths to prove you are different, if it's worth it to you.

and as much i hate to say it, and as much as you don't want to hear it, and as much as your probably won't even listen~

you will not be seeing as clearly now as you will later, you can call it being naive now, or being wiser later, you can really call it whatever you want... but do not be desperate, do not act desperate, do not come off as desperate, do not rush into anything, do not take your 'first experiences' as being the right, correct, or only "way things are".

also, while i hate to sound like the people that judge you too much on your age alone... you said it yourself, you're 18, you just got on this boat... did you expect it would take just a day or two to make a voyage? it's not like you were betrothed to a mistress when you were a small boy, you've got to look, you've got to let them see you, you've got to have patience, and you really ought to do yourself the favor of being practical about this~

also, search the forums for threads entitled 'sub frenzy', and while it sounds preachy of me and possibly pretentious or assuming on my part, and while i know it says you're a switch rather than a sub/slave... perhaps some time spent on looking at a relationship not just as 'a woman to dominate me' but also looking at it as 'a woman to submit to' will open your eyes a little wider. there's far more that goes into the relationship you're seeking than just being "present and accounted for".

< Message edited by hopelesslyInvo -- 10/23/2008 5:21:00 AM >

_____________________________

great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.

(in reply to saveanescapist)

Profile

Post #: 7

RE: I have a question: - 10/23/2008 5:15:24 AM

MISTRESSKUMA

Posts: 226
Joined: 8/15/2007
Status: offline

What do you have to offer? What are you bringing to the table besides just a body to lie there while she slaves over you?

(in reply to saveanescapist)

Profile

Post #: 8

RE: I have a question: - 10/23/2008 7:37:27 AM

SnowRanger

Posts: 503
Joined: 5/25/2008
From: Sinsinnati
Status: offline

What do you consider "reasonably close" to 18?

Hello,

That was my first question. My mistress warned me early on that there are a lot of posers looking for a quick easy buck. Frankly, I doubt that any of the Dommes that have posted here would say that there is any thing easy about it.

Let me get back on point... You can't push your lower age limit too far; but, perhaps you can take your upper age limit a bit further along.

In any case, you have to sort through a lot of sand and gravel to find a nugget of gold.

Good Luck,
Mike
SnowRanger
Double Lunch and Hook It!

_____________________________

You can't help where you were born; and, you may not have much to say about where you die; but, you can and you should try to pass the days in between as a good man.
Anton Myrer Once an Eagle

(in reply to saveanescapist)

Profile

Post #: 9

RE: I have a question: - 10/23/2008 7:50:40 AM

thetammyjo

Posts: 6322
Joined: 9/8/2005
Status: offline

If all you are doing is cruising a website when you can find several good BDSM groups in your city, then will not find a partner any time soon.

You have to prove you are serious, too.

_____________________________

Love, Peace, Hugs, Kisses, Whips & Chains,

TammyJo

Check out my website at http://www.thetammyjo.com Or www.tammyjoeckhart.com

And my LJ where I post fiction in progress if you "friend" me at http://thetammyjo.livejournal.com/

(in reply to saveanescapist)

Profile

Post #: 10

RE: I have a question: - 10/23/2008 9:16:48 AM

faerytattoodgirl

Posts: 5824
Status: offline

quote:

there isn't one girl reasonably close to my age in all of Chicago that will dominate me?

hmm...if you find kelly bundy..im sure she would dominate you.....she does that alot on tv.

edit:and i cant find anyone at 38...so age isnt the issue.

< Message edited by faerytattoodgirl -- 10/23/2008 9:18:02 AM >

_____________________________

I did not reply to your cmail.

I am flawed.

Imperfect.

MUST SPANK!!!

SPAAAAAAAANK!!!

(in reply to saveanescapist)

Profile

Post #: 11

RE: I have a question: - 10/23/2008 10:07:25 AM

MistressRouge

Posts: 876
Joined: 3/18/2005
From: Birmingham West Midlands UK
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: MISTRESSKUMA

What do you have to offer? What are you bringing to the table besides just a body to lie there while she slaves over you?

My thoughts exactly, want want need want lol