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RE: to all the long term experienced sub/slaves. - 10/24/2008 5:03:53 AM

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Personally, no matter how much i love/desire/need some one, if they are going to chose another instead of me then the are not the right one for me.

I agree with this. You can't keep someone in a relationship by attempting to be "more submissive", either it is there or not. And if it's not, why would you bother spending time with someone who is not into you? Boring. And emotional letdown.

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RE: to all the long term experienced sub/slaves. - 10/24/2008 8:13:45 AM

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hallie, I am in a similar situation. My Master will always train others. Most of it is on the internet, some in person. In his case I know that part of the training is sexual.

The way that I deal with it is to remember that I am special to him, and that I knew from the beginning that there would be others in his life. I think of his pleasure, and I think of the fulfillment that he gives me. Hearts are big enough to care for many and in various ways. I have an important place in his heart that no one can ever shove me out of.

I know it's not easy to have the one person who you care most about share his attentions with others, but there are times when the choice comes down to staying or leaving. If you stay then you need to make the best of it. That's the choice that I made because it is what works for me. It is up to each person to decide. Big hug.

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RE: to all the long term experienced sub/slaves. - 10/24/2008 9:58:21 AM

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RE: to all the long term experienced sub/slaves. - 10/24/2008 1:44:45 PM

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Me and Sir started that way too! We spent over a year just getting to know each other, and now we're together and very much in love and very happy.

Coincidentally enough, we had a similar situation like this last week...

You have to figure out what your feelings on this are, if its a big enough issue that it could cause problems, distrust, bitterness, then its best that you talk to him about these feelings right away. Then He would have to decide if this is something that he has to have. If he wants to mentor these girls and you have an issue with it, you both have to decide whether or not it could damage your relationship with each other.

In my case, He didn't see me reacting to it well, after I made one single comment. I don't know how I sounded when I said it but apparently it spoke volumes. Then again, he knows I'm a jealous one. My time is My time, dammit. If it were something Sir needed to have in order to be happy, then .. well, we'd have to work on it and work through it. I have my own issues that would need to be hammered out beforehand.. and its certainly not going to happen overnight.

After you figure out your feelings and talk to him, your Master needs to make a judgment call on whether or not it can affect the relationship in a negative way, if it can, it may not be a good idea to be training these girls until he works out something with you first. If he goes ahead with it to the point where you are unhappy, then either things would need to change or you may not be compatible.

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RE: to all the long term experienced sub/slaves. - 10/25/2008 12:21:49 AM

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Up in the morning it''s time for school
The dom is teaching her with his tool
Polyamory and submissive sex
The dom as the teacher gets off his kecks
Working his fingers up and down his bone
Be sure this Master won't leave you alone

Fling, fling, the sub on the bed
To get in position after giving some head
She'll be lucky if she can use a seat
The way it is looking she's got cum to eat
There in the bedroom teaching through fucks
The dom as a teacher don;'t know how mean he looks

As soon as twelve o'clock comes around
He's decided to lay her body down
Time to get dressed and look so neat
Out of the apartment and into the street
Down to the drug store round the bend
To bring back more condoms to learn again

His throbbing cock returns to its slot
He tries for the rhythm to make her hot
With the sub he loves a sub dom romance
With deep penetration making her dance
Feeling the semen as it flows
In and out and in he goes

His throbbing cock returns to its slot
He tries for the rhythm to make her hot
With the sub he loves a sub dom romance
With deep penetration making her dance
Feeling the semen as it flows
In and out and in he goes

Hail, hail this mighty dom
Is using his bone to teach her lessons
Long live Master's bone
For sure with subs he's never alone
Pump, pump, pump in every hole
He's teaching submission body and soul

inspired by Chuck Berry

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RE: to all the long term experienced sub/slaves. - 10/25/2008 3:08:06 AM

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Just don't fall for comparing adult poly relationships to the familial relationships between parents and their offspring because it is really a whole different relationship when adults share a sexual relationship.

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RE: to all the long term experienced sub/slaves. - 10/25/2008 4:24:18 AM

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eyes, Ink is a lucky man to have such a wise slave. I agree with that statement very much. I have seen many do this who don't understand Poly any more than I understand 600 shades of red lipstick.

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RE: to all the long term experienced sub/slaves. - 10/26/2008 11:18:24 PM

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I don't see that the original poster was speaking about a poly- relationship (However, I agree that to discuss adult plural relationships in comparison to those of parents and children is an erroneous move), rather concerns over her Master training others. OP, it seems that you have concerns about the separateness of the training, how it may affect your relationship, what he may be doing, etc. Imo, this warrants conversation and a Master should, again imo, always be willing to talk with the person(s) who belong to Him about issues that could bring together or out asunder. Afterall, proving worthiness is not only on the s-type person, but honor and trustworthiness must be proven by the Master as well.
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RE: to all the long term experienced sub/slaves. - 10/26/2008 11:26:18 PM

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Please please train me by-.. oh wait, I can't be trained to be me, of course if he wants to teach felatio 101....

Sorry but he, and you need to get priorities straight. If you're his number one girl he needs to treat you that way. If you're insecure about him 'teaching' other girls he needs to address YOUR issues first, before the other girls who 'need him'. Seems like you need him too... and he's falling short of the mark on all accounts.

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RE: to all the long term experienced sub/slaves. - 10/27/2008 3:46:24 AM

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hallie,
Thank you for clarifying.

One on one "trainings" are terribly intimate, and your feelings about it are not right or wrong. They are just what you feel. A relationship this new rarely can withstand the kind of stress he is thinking of putting on it, so I think your concerns are justified. It seems that he hasn't done what needs to be done with you as far as training goes and it might perhaps be more beneficial that he put his focus there instead of spreading his knowledge around.

At best, he's not doing the training that needs to be done in his own relationship.

Good luck,
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