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RE: Mixed feelings... - 12/22/2005 8:05:42 PM

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If the reason you submit to women is because of the extreme sexual they create in you, it might have a lot to do with the reason you don't feel the same way toward dominant men. If you are not sexually aroused by men, then you would be less likely to have that same awe inspired desire to please.

If you see women as the object of worship (so to speak) then to see a man treat them as if they are NOT deserving of worship, but on the other hand, as the one who should be doing the worshipping, it might generate some angry feelings. You might see men who fail to view women they way you do as doing something wrong. Just as you might view the women who go along with it as encouraging wrong behavior and giving up something of themselves.

I don't think you are judging, just being honest about reactions you are having, and trying to understand them.

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RE: Mixed feelings... - 12/23/2005 1:01:56 AM

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Thanks TNstepsout. I'll let this subject drop now i think! I guess we all manage to work things out over time. Have a great Christmas eveyone...

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RE: Mixed feelings... - 12/23/2005 11:07:38 AM

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I have a lot of respect for any dom/domme....I believe it takes a lot of self-control, hard work, and investment in time and interest in their subs to be a good dom/domme.

I absolutely have respect for dommes. Although I am drawn to doms.

Actually, I have respect for any of us, who are willing to say what it is we want/need, and put ourselves out there to find it...

Hugs for Fastlane who got his feelings hurt!

Good luck on your quest, Sardaxia.

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RE: Mixed feelings... - 12/23/2005 3:14:23 PM

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Thanks Christina. I've learnt a lot just from this thread...it's helped me grow up a bit more in my viewpoint.. We should rename it the 'Help sardaxia with his neurosis' thread, lol. Thanks for comments.

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RE: Mixed feelings... - 12/23/2005 4:28:36 PM

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In the past we have both enjoyed the service of a bi sub-but as of late my wife has taken over the role of total control--now she wants us both to service her and she has had me kneeling for him

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RE: Mixed feelings... - 12/24/2005 10:05:29 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sardaxia

Thanks Christina. I've learnt a lot just from this thread...it's helped me grow up a bit more in my viewpoint.. We should rename it the 'Help sardaxia with his neurosis' thread, lol. Thanks for comments.

Too funny. Ya know I'm always figuring out goofy stuff about myself. The thing is you're ahead of the game if you think about why you feel a certain way before you start acting on it or running your mouth. It's one of the reasons I enjoy these boards and the people on them. At least people here (for the most part) are introspective and willing to take an honest look at themselves.

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RE: Mixed feelings... - 12/24/2005 3:38:55 PM

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Oh no...not me...none of that honesty stuff for me...much too complicated and messy!!

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RE: Mixed feelings... - 12/24/2005 4:22:43 PM

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Your post is extremely interesting and your feelings about male subs and male Doms is not uncommon among the male species, its the chest beating thing I think--however, it is not common across ALL male Doms, I have three who are dear friends who respect My sub to the max---why? Because what one first needs to do is de-genderize the dynamic of the dance--

In the life, there are those that need to Dominate and those that need to submit---these are driving needs that must be met to feel completeness---now given that, Domination and submission are not gender specific, females submit--to Doms or Dominas, males submit to Dominas or Doms--it is the preference at that point--it is where the subtlety of the dynamic then takes shape--we should never lose site that D and s is an inner drive not a gender issue--

and I find it offensive when one "type" gets sniffy with the other--it puts the life right back to vanilla, not allowing for differences and preferences and after all isn't that what WE seek? Freedom to be what we are?

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