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AAkasha -> RE: I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I met here (10/29/2008 3:07:39 PM)
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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze
You know from your description of the session, maybe it would be an idea to befriend a pro domme in your area and sometimes join her for a double session? Just as an idea, the subs might not all be good looking but think about the variety of things you could experience and instead of spending money on a pro sub you could spend the money on fetish gear and the domme would possibly be happy because most guys will be in heaven to have 2 dommes, just as an idea, it might be worth a try....
It's a great idea and one I have tossed around, and may revisit. I think the biggest challenge is not only the chemistry part (call me shallow - I do have to be attracted to someone to dominate them in the flesh, so they either have to be charismatic - to me - or I must know them enough to develop affection, which takes time), but also if a man is paying a pro domme for a session, chances are, he does have his own expectations. The nice thing about paying is that the only expectations are mine. I don't care so much about the money - at least then I can be assured there are no demands on the table for any kind of activity that does not strike my fancy.
And the thing about charisma - or them being attractive to me - it's not just me being shallow and saying a guy must be "hot" (true, on some level). There have been some men who were drop dead gorgeous with a perfect body, but no chemistry/no charisma - it's more about body language, the right kind of eyes, an expressive nature, etc. A man could look like a GQ model with the body of a pro athlete and lack that and it'd fall flat for me; another man may appear somewhat geeky to many but I find his eyes to be incredibly gorgeous - it's a slam dunk.
If a pro femdom were a close friend though, sure, she'd be able to pick them out of a lineup, no problem. My kinky girlfriend can do that by scanning a room at a crowded club any time - she just knows what I like. Perhaps cultivating that kind of relationship is an idea, but I can't help but coming back to the idea that since time = money, it's far simpler for me to pay cash.
Granted, if the economy continues to go into the toilet and business takes a bad turn in my vanilla career, I may be much tigher with my money :)
Akasha
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