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I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I met here - 10/24/2008 10:25:21 AM   
AAkasha


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Ahh, see, collarme does work!

Not sure if anyone had tried this dynamic before.  I am paying for the pro session (paying the dominatrix) and co-topping the sub/bottom/switch (pick your label) gentleman that I met here on collarme recently (I am also compensating him for his time).  We exchanged a couple of emails, met for lunch to determine chemistry, and then I booked the session.  He knows it's all my choice and my dime - I may just provide instructions to the dominatrix regarding what I want done to him while I watch, or I might do half or most of the topping myself.  Next step is going through the toy list with the dominatrix to see what gear of my own I should bring along.

To address the questions before they come, "I'm sure you have plenty of men willing to be topped without having to pay a professional in a dungeon," I purposely picked this dynamic. I want to do it outside of my home, I want a fully equipped dungeon at my disposable and I want the enjoy the dynamic with another woman, in a framework that has a decidely transactional feel to it. 

If a thing such as "professional male submissives" existed, I'd love it.  I'm in an open relationship now (yeah!) with a husband whose ok with my outside encounters, but both he and I prefer them more topping/bottoming oriented, not romantic in nature, and purely for sensation play. 

And for those that suggested a couple of months ago I get involved with a couple, or in the club/fetish party scene, I'm also working toward both with a girlfriend of mine and have a few locales in mind.  It's a heavenly time.  The wheels are turning...

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RE: I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I me... - 10/24/2008 10:27:23 AM   
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This sounds very cool!  I hope you'll give us a review after its all over...

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RE: I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I me... - 10/24/2008 10:33:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

This sounds very cool!  I hope you'll give us a review after its all over...


I will absolutely.  Maybe he'll do the same.  I've never quite had this kind of situation before, and the challenge I am having leading up to it is structuring it in my head.  Since I'm dealing with a time limit, and a variety of "urges," the question is how to orchestrate it - how to go from Point A, to B, to C, and which things make sense in which order. And this type of planning is not the way my brain thinks; I generally, as a top, do what I feel like doing. There's no planning really at all.  But in this case, I do have to plan a little bit, because I don't want to forget anything... (hahah)...

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RE: I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I me... - 10/24/2008 10:46:32 AM   
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I like to plan a bit.. or at least have several options...

I must say though, the time limit would be difficult for me -- unless it turned out that I wasn't into it.. and I could say.. "ooop, time's up, sorry"

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RE: I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I me... - 10/24/2008 1:36:24 PM   
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Geez, 99% of the male subs here must be wishing they were in that guy's shoes! I know I am!

The dynamic is really interesting. The fact that it's not romance-oriented sheds a little different light on things. Snce it's the domination aspect that really seems to drive you, without the "clutter" or expectation of anything else, the sub could feel even more like a plaything than usual.

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RE: I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I me... - 10/24/2008 1:37:19 PM   
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being topped by multiple women i bet would be hot   have fun ..mal ..where do i sign up ?

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RE: I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I me... - 10/24/2008 1:48:53 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: hardbodysub

Geez, 99% of the male subs here must be wishing they were in that guy's shoes! I know I am!

The dynamic is really interesting. The fact that it's not romance-oriented sheds a little different light on things. Snce it's the domination aspect that really seems to drive you, without the "clutter" or expectation of anything else, the sub could feel even more like a plaything than usual.


It's going to be an interesting social experiment on myself. I have no idea how my mood will react to this and how my urges will unfold, especially because I have no ongoing talking/flirtation with the gentleman. I simply established that there's enough chemistry and I feel he's definitely a capable (experienced) bottom so I know I'm in good hands (ironic), but how my desires establish themselves once surrounded by that much equipment and options -- who knows. 

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RE: I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I me... - 10/24/2008 6:10:18 PM   
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Not to hijack, but I've often wondered how many women would be willing to pay for pro submissives.  I find the idea very appealing - a man that isn't going to be stalkerish or creepy, one who gets that it's my dime and my decision (as opposed to a do-me)...

Heck, I might be willing to pay just to have a lovely submissive guy around that I could boss around for a few hours without having back talk, pouting, or other high maintenance behaviors.

Just pondering out loud.  Good luck with your upcoming fun!

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RE: I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I me... - 10/24/2008 6:45:05 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: khem

Not to hijack, but I've often wondered how many women would be willing to pay for pro submissives.  I find the idea very appealing - a man that isn't going to be stalkerish or creepy, one who gets that it's my dime and my decision (as opposed to a do-me)...

Heck, I might be willing to pay just to have a lovely submissive guy around that I could boss around for a few hours without having back talk, pouting, or other high maintenance behaviors.

Just pondering out loud.  Good luck with your upcoming fun!



I don't think there is a large enough market for it, but I would love it.  For just the reasons you listed. I want some no strings play, I want a man who is a capable bottom and very good at reading a domina and can take a variety of torments, and in a fully equipped dungeon outside of my home - all on my terms. What's not to love?  Subs complain, "Well you can have them lining up to dominate for FREE," and the answer is that nothing is *free*.  I'm at a stage in my life where the exchange of monetary means is more efficient and practical than courting, screening, dealing with drama, emotions, romance. And it also creates a transactional feel that is very safe and effective for me.

The gentleman I met for this may be good blood for "pro sub" actually; I'll know after I get to interact with him - he seems fairly intuitive and experienced, and he'll have to deal with me after knowing very little about me. We've never even really flirted.  Is it possible? Will it work? I have no idea. But it's worth trying and very interesting - I will be intrigued to see how my femdom side reacts.  It might end up being too --- forced, I dunno. 

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RE: I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I me... - 10/26/2008 6:06:14 AM   
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quote:

khem wrote: Not to hijack, but I've often wondered how many women would be willing to pay for pro submissives. I find the idea very appealing - a man that isn't going to be stalkerish or creepy, one who gets that it's my dime and my decision (as opposed to a do-me)...

Still not hijacking, I hope, but...

Being a pro sub sounds very dangerous to me.  In a professional D/s encounter (either way round), the client is essentially a complete stranger but the pro has a reputation.  Word will, one assumes, get around if the pro misbehaves.  You can go to a pro Domme and let her tie you up, on the assumption that, if she were going to abuse that, somebody would have squealed by now.  But that doesn't work for a pro sub -- so how would they ensure their safety?

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RE: I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I me... - 10/26/2008 1:50:12 PM   
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Its certainly an interesting set up and it'd be curious to see how your experiences pan out. Removing any element of a relationship and the initial 'courting' would definitely add something to the dynamic, plus no awkward 'I'll call you after.'

I didn't even stop to think this might be something a Domme would want?

Hmmmm. Food for thought!

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RE: I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I me... - 10/26/2008 4:40:25 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: beeble

quote:

khem wrote: Not to hijack, but I've often wondered how many women would be willing to pay for pro submissives. I find the idea very appealing - a man that isn't going to be stalkerish or creepy, one who gets that it's my dime and my decision (as opposed to a do-me)...

Still not hijacking, I hope, but...

Being a pro sub sounds very dangerous to me.  In a professional D/s encounter (either way round), the client is essentially a complete stranger but the pro has a reputation.  Word will, one assumes, get around if the pro misbehaves.  You can go to a pro Domme and let her tie you up, on the assumption that, if she were going to abuse that, somebody would have squealed by now.  But that doesn't work for a pro sub -- so how would they ensure their safety?

beeble



If a pro sub worked in an established house of domination alongside pro femdoms, he'd be safer.  That was my ideal anyway - then he'd have access to an equipped dungeon just as the pro femdoms do.  This is much better than working out of his home or outcall, in my opinion.

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RE: I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I me... - 10/26/2008 5:27:18 PM   
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AAkasha wrote:
If a pro sub worked in an established house of domination alongside pro femdoms, he'd be safer.  That was my ideal anyway - then he'd have access to an equipped dungeon just as the pro femdoms do.  This is much better than working out of his home or outcall, in my opinion.

That makes sense.

Non-hijack ends.

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RE: I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I me... - 10/27/2008 9:44:56 AM   
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Aakasha, (this is a bit simplistic, but, I think it will work for you.) just get out one of your own personal toys, begin playing with it, and see where your fantasies go.
If I had to decide where to start a fantasy meeting such as you described, I'd do the things that come first to my mind when I'm alone and uhm...fantasizing...

*have fun!!!*

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RE: I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I me... - 10/27/2008 10:01:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: hardbodysub

Geez, 99% of the male subs here must be wishing they were in that guy's shoes! I know I am!


That goes for me as well.

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RE: I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I me... - 10/27/2008 7:23:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Aakasha, (this is a bit simplistic, but, I think it will work for you.) just get out one of your own personal toys, begin playing with it, and see where your fantasies go.
If I had to decide where to start a fantasy meeting such as you described, I'd do the things that come first to my mind when I'm alone and uhm...fantasizing...

*have fun!!!*


Yes, of course. My bag of stuff has turned into "few bags of stuff" and I might have to cull a little, but I'm bringing my favorites.
The debate of the moments seems to be what to wear. One moment I feel like getting dressed up and being decidely fetishy.  The next moment I feel that I should just wear the most comfortable jeans and outfit I have - who cares, it's a sure thing (hahah).  It will be a "game time decision."

Akasha


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RE: I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I me... - 10/28/2008 4:02:26 AM   
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Mix it up, definitely something fetishy, as the domme will be dressed up and you simply want to look your best too (which woman doesn't)

It's absolutely awesome, I can't wait how it turns out!

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RE: I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I me... - 10/28/2008 5:28:10 AM   
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I am starting to realise why women take dates so seriously, and why they are so pissed when the men don't show for WHATEVER reason...

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RE: I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I me... - 10/28/2008 5:40:00 AM   
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Well, I doubt most men would appreciate a woman showing up in old sweatpants, not bothering to comb her hair or use makeup...

I think it is simply impolite to NOT show up on a date, no matter if a romantic, platonic or professional one, if it would happen at work, I would have little patience and possibly decide I can't work with people who are not reliable, if it happens on a date date, well if they guy can't be bothered to show up, I can't be bothered to waste my time with him

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RE: I'm booking a pro session next week with a guy I me... - 10/29/2008 9:12:11 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

This sounds very cool!  I hope you'll give us a review after its all over...


Ah yes, review time.  I'm still processing and digesting a lot of it, but it was clearly very worth it.  I can honestly say it went a completely different direction than I had anticipated, which I suppose is the beauty of it, because it was fully organic.  Being in a fully equipped dungeon (kudos to Passive Arts in Los Angeles) with a playful, sometimes menacing sweet sadist (double kudos to Tink, who works there), I can safely say I was both satiated and *spoiled* for this little visit.  Impact play and sadism are not at the very top of my list per se (this comes from being 6+ years in a relationship with a non masochist, so that side of my play tapered off), but being with a bonafide painslut with a high tolerance and an experienced sadist was lovely; I'm very high on reactions and intense emotion, so being able to participate in quite a lot of sadistic energy without breaking a sweat was surreal and intoxicating.

In phase two of this experiment I'll do it again without having a paid dominatrix there, so I can be on the delivery end of everything, not just the portions I decided on a whim to take into my own hands.  It was far too easy to just provide a casual request and see it carried out, and then play nurturer (ah, as if he needed it!) to the suffering boy; a very subtle good domina/bad domina vibe there, on and off.  But damn, that's a very wonderful, relaxed, pressure free way to enjoy all the sensations and emotions of BDSM without concentration, accuracy, worry.  She was also totally familiar with his physical limits so there was no worry there, but now that I have seen first hand, I'm fairly clear he's way beyond my capabilities as a sadist anyway.  Yay for being a kid in a candy store.

The pro submissive.  What a concept.  I felt quite catered to; he was attuned to my needs and emotions without being demanding, pushy or insecure. He was keenly aware of my mental state and presence despite being on the receiving end of a great deal of sensation from both ladies. I was absolutely and lustfully fascinated with his capacity for pain and the way he processed it - his reactions were delicious and made me feel achy and yummy in all the right places. 

I had worried that there would be an awkward, uncomfortableness about the clear lack of intimacy in an otherwise intimate setting.  In my personal relationships, I am a very touchy-feeling (sexually, affectionately) domina that likes to mix things like deep passionate kisses in between cruelty and comforting or as a tool for teasing and denial, but I had to steer clear of that kind of emotional intimacy to respect my own limits, and I assume his. But that didn't put a damper on anything, if anything, I felt the subtle sense of denial, the forbidden, the taboo aspect - getting close, thinking about it, but then, ultimately, no, not going there - it just added lots of good pent up lust and energy on my end.  Which I was able to bring home to my husband, whose only post scene observation was: "wow."  Guess he liked the mood I came home in.

If any femdoms in So Cal are interested in the boy, let me know. Yes, he's a pro :)  He did a wonderful job and it was well worth the money.

More later, perhaps, when I come down some more.

Akasha


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