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Domestcgent -> Male wife (10/26/2008 9:12:47 AM)

It is my desire to be the "wife" of a strict, dominant female. I am not so much into all the BDSM things, though I have nothing against them, but rather desire to be in a relationship with a woman where I take on the traditional female role, including potentially crossdressing to one extent or another. Is being a male wife without all the BDSM trappings possible?



peppermint -> RE: Male wife (10/26/2008 9:17:18 AM)

Of course it's possible.....everything is possible between the right two people.  A year or so ago there was a thread about being a male wife.  You might want to search for it and see what has been written about the subject in the past. 



chiaThePet -> RE: Male wife (10/26/2008 10:11:24 AM)

 
Shouldn't be a problem at all.

And begin;

Coffee grounds have plugged up the maker and a brown sea covers the
counter running into the open silverware drawer and down that impossible
to reach crevice next to the stove. And a voice booms in the background, 
"Is my coffee ready yet?"

Eggs are burning in the pan as french toast smolders on the griddle as you
try to dress the youngest for ballet practice while shouting to the oldest
to get up or he'll be late for soccer practice. And a voice booms in the
background, "Is my breakfast ready yet?"

You forgot to let the dogs out because you were busy cleaning up the vomit
from the middle ones latest stomach malady, so the one that drools in constant
streams on the furniture has deposited a steamy load on your champagne
carpet. And a, voice booms in the background, "Hey, who farted?"

You finally get them all around the table as you do the circus balancing act of
eggs over easy with bacon and hash browns for the middle one, scrambled
with cheese and link sausage for the youngest, egg white omelete with beef
patty sausage for the oldest, cause the yolks are "nasty" and links "look like
the middle ones penis, ewwwww mommmm!" And a voice booms in the
background, "This is a little leathery babe, could you throw a few more
pieces on the griddle, and cinnamon this time, and just a sprinkle of powdered
sugar, cause you're so sweet."

An underhanded olympic discus throw of sausage connects with a full
glass of milk creating a scenic cascading waterfall onto the linoleum below,
as a terrible thumping emits from the dryer in the laundry room followed by
ungodly shrieks of an inhuman nature. The youngest disappears under the
table amidst a volley of giggles. And a voice booms in the background,
"Honey, I think the cat wants out."

Up next;

Hour two.

chia* (the pet)



AAkasha -> RE: Male wife (10/26/2008 11:05:13 AM)



quote:

ORIGINAL: Domestcgent

It is my desire to be the "wife" of a strict, dominant female. I am not so much into all the BDSM things, though I have nothing against them, but rather desire to be in a relationship with a woman where I take on the traditional female role, including potentially crossdressing to one extent or another. Is being a male wife without all the BDSM trappings possible?


Besides "being able to crossdress" (lol), what SKILLS do you have that make you a better homemaker than a woman who may or may not want that role in your relationship?

My husband is mostly the wife in our relationship, but he's taking a break to work a little bit for a change.  When he isn't working, I am the one working and earning the money, and he handles every domestic task - I do no grocery shopping, cooking, laundry, ironing, errands, dishes, cleaning. Crossdressing plays no role in this - if we mess around with a variety of sexy, slightly embarrassing feminization games, it's in the context of S&M/power exchange.  While staying home all day dressed en femme sounds exciting and fun, you have to realize that there's also a practical role that must be completed. It's not an easy job.

Akasha



MistressOfGa -> RE: Male wife (10/26/2008 11:38:27 AM)

chiathepet,
I am finding it hard to digest that any Mistress/Master would actually sit ideally by, while her submissive is doing all the work. Call me what you want to, but I have my share of work around the house. We both cook, clean and do laundry.
 
I can't imagine there are Dominants who live in a 24/7 with their submissve, and expect, (Demands) their sub to do it all, without their Mistress/Master doing anything to help. 
 
I live in a 24/7 relationship. I have never demanded or commanded my sub to do anything. He stated in another thread, that he does what he does for me, out of his love for me, and he does. I won't try to fix what isn't broken. I can't compare him to any of my past subs, because he is very head-strong and very verbal if he feels he is being "commanded". My last sub, all I had to do was ask him once and he was up and fetching. Not all subs are equal, I am in the process of learning that. One rule I have is he is not to holler for me from another room. I apply that to myself as well.  For us, it works.
 
For what it's worth, I will not hesitate to get up and clean the kitchen, even if my sub is sitting on the couch watching TV. It is important to me to be able to do these things, because of my medical condition. Don't get me wrong, on my bad days, he is right there doing for me anything he can.
 
I don't judge or criticize another Dominant for doing what they do, even if it is nothing. That is how they run their home. It is not how *I* run mine.
 
Peace, and OP, welcome to CM!
 
MoGa

ETA: OP, yes it is. Anything is possible with regards to wiitwd. Good luck on your search.



Venatrix -> RE: Male wife (10/26/2008 11:48:59 AM)

As a general reminder, the more requirements you have, the harder it will be to find someone compatible.  Figure out which of your desires are must-haves and which you can negotiate on.  I have fairly narrow vanilla requirements in terms of the person I want as a life partner, so I'm fairly flexible on the BDSM part of my requirements.



Domestcgent -> RE: Male wife (10/26/2008 11:52:14 AM)

Perhaps I wasn't clear in my post. It was not my intent to not work, but simply to fulfill the traditional wife's role in the relationship, much as many female wives do now where both her and the husband work. Doing domestic chores after I return from work, on weekends, however She may desire it done, but still working and contributing to the household. I am not looking to be supported by Her.



MistressOfGa -> RE: Male wife (10/26/2008 12:37:05 PM)

With that criteria, I can't imagine you will have to wait long for a Domina who is looking for someone just like you.
 
MoGa



ShiftedJewel -> RE: Male wife (10/26/2008 4:45:53 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

chiathepet,
I am finding it hard to digest that any Mistress/Master would actually sit ideally by, while her submissive is doing all the work. Call me what you want to, but I have my share of work around the house. We both cook, clean and do laundry.
 
I can't imagine there are Dominants who live in a 24/7 with their submissve, and expect, (Demands) their sub to do it all, without their Mistress/Master doing anything to help. 
 
I live in a 24/7 relationship. I have never demanded or commanded my sub to do anything. He stated in another thread, that he does what he does for me, out of his love for me, and he does. I won't try to fix what isn't broken. I can't compare him to any of my past subs, because he is very head-strong and very verbal if he feels he is being "commanded". My last sub, all I had to do was ask him once and he was up and fetching. Not all subs are equal, I am in the process of learning that. One rule I have is he is not to holler for me from another room. I apply that to myself as well.  For us, it works.
 
For what it's worth, I will not hesitate to get up and clean the kitchen, even if my sub is sitting on the couch watching TV. It is important to me to be able to do these things, because of my medical condition. Don't get me wrong, on my bad days, he is right there doing for me anything he can.
 
I don't judge or criticize another Dominant for doing what they do, even if it is nothing. That is how they run their home. It is not how *I* run mine.
 
Peace, and OP, welcome to CM!
 
MoGa

ETA: OP, yes it is. Anything is possible with regards to wiitwd. Good luck on your search.


Ummm... welllll.... Keep in mind that when twice isn't feeling well both of us will pick up the slack... ok? No problem. But normally she cooks, cleans, does the laundry, takes care of the yard, preventative maint. on the vehicles and some of the repair work on the bikes. Pretty much everything from keeping up the paperwork for the taxes and doctors and meds to handing out those same meds when they are required. And on the weekends she absolutely loves to bath Scooter. She braids his hair every morning before work, prepares breakfast, makes the coffee, packs his lunch and even starts the car ahead of time if it's cold outside. Beyond that she is an incredible care taker of her cat and parrotlet, her room looks more like a greenhouse because of all the plants that can no longer be outside because of the cold. And then... when she isn't busy, she helps the neighbors take care of their flower gardens, teaches the neighbors daughter how to cook and garden and is an avid reader.
 
And people wonder why I keep saying... NO you can't have her!!
 
And I do... well... pretty much what ever I'm in the mood to do at the time.
 
I'm gonna direct her to this thread so that she can tell people that she isn't abused... she really is spoiled rotten!!
 
Sorry MoGa... I'm one of those.
 
Jewel



MzMia -> RE: Male wife (10/26/2008 6:29:44 PM)

Actually, wanting a male wife does not appear to be that rare.
Almost everyone could use a "wife".
[:D]
Here is the thread I started on the subject 2 years ago.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_946070/tm.htm

Good luck on your search.
 




OneMoreWaste -> RE: Male wife (10/26/2008 6:43:57 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa
I am finding it hard to digest that any Mistress/Master would actually sit ideally by, while her submissive is doing all the work


Ohhhhhh..... believe it, lady! [&:]



chiaThePet -> RE: Male wife (10/26/2008 8:28:08 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

chiathepet,
I am finding it hard to digest


Gosh M of Ga, I really wasn't trying to feed ya anything here, much less make
a statement that Dominants are lazy. (Though I'm sure some exist somewhere
out here at the collarme hive) The OP stated his desire to assume the traditional
female role in a relationship, and I obliged in a light-hearted manner, applying
what many females experience during a typical family morning. Overdone more
than likely, most assuredly cli-che ridden, and blatantly out there. I don't do small.

I think more than a few females, and yes, some males, can identify with the
madness of the morning I spun here. Twas not commentary nor judgement
of either Dominant or submissive. A relationship will be what it is allowed to be.

Not that I'm not appreciative of your well balanced relationship with your own
submissive, it's just that it means more to him here than me. I merely wished to
remove the Op from his fishnet fantasy into the more mundane if not satisfying
role many, certainly not all, females have known and love. Mine was more about
portraying the female role beyond cute skirts, lip rouge and curtsies, into the
zone of reality of the ordinary day to day. Her strength to cope speaks for itself.

For me, this was more about females rather than Dominants or submissives.
But hey, if you don't mind fetching a brewskie for the boy, more power to ya.
And of course anything is possible on this glorious little globe of ours. That's
why they sell ruffled skirts in Big and Tall sizes, and come-fuck-me pumps
big enough to fit sasquatch. But the reality is, dressing up and playing a female,
is just that. Few men could actually fill the shoes they walk in day to day.

But thanks for sharing your passion, and what the heck, yell at him from the
other room every now and then, just to keep his reflexes honed. 

chia* (the pet)



PanthersMom -> RE: Male wife (10/26/2008 8:53:58 PM)

while i was in the nursing home this summer cub was househubby.  he did a wonderful job.  normally i'm the one taking care of all the stuff because that's just the way i am.  he took over like he'd been doing it forever.  not quite the same, but well enough that my house was still standing and all living creatures in it had survived 6 weeks without Mom.
PM



FullfigRIMaam -> RE: Male wife (10/26/2008 8:55:44 PM)

I'll take one please. [8|]
quote:

I am finding it hard to digest that any Mistress/Master would actually sit ideally by, while her submissive is doing all the work. 
Oh it's not that hard to do MistressOfGa.  In fact some wife type men would prefer you stay out of their way anyway.   For myself, if I'm in a relationship where I feel I need to be doing equal amounts of housework because he doesn't like to be commanded, I call that relationship vanilla.   M



chiaThePet -> RE: Male wife (10/26/2008 9:05:21 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: PanthersMom

while i was in the nursing home this summer cub was househubby.  he did a wonderful job.


No doubt. I'm the thread that keeps my home and extended family together.
Mother saw to that, and yes, there were many commands amongst the love.

Just don't put me in a pair of stillettos.
I've got great legs that go all the way to there..........
But you'll have to practice your "Timberrrrrrrrr".

chia* (the pet)



atypicalsub -> RE: Male wife (10/26/2008 9:07:00 PM)

I am the male wife to a Domme.  I do most of the cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, etc.  I work part time to pay my share of the expenses.  As far as the cross dressing most days I just dress comfortable, jeans or sweats, but isn't that what you'd expect a woman to be wearing while cleaning the house anyway?  When we have time we play dress up.  She said she sometimes thinks of me as a life-size doll for her to play with dresses and make up on.



MsStarlett -> RE: Male wife (10/27/2008 5:12:54 AM)

ChiaPet, loved your 'morning dialog'.   It so describes how being the 'wife' is a really tough job.

Luckily, neither myself nor my husband is the 'wife' in this household.  We both work... but not to much.  He does all the grocery shopping & most of the cooking.  I tend to end up taking out the trash and mowing the lawn.... when it gets done at all.  Cleaning is rather iffy at best... especially this time of year.  We always say that we throw our annual New Year's Eve party as a big excuse to clean up after four months of 'holidays'.

Did I mention that I REALLY need a house boy???



MistressOfGa -> RE: Male wife (10/27/2008 6:06:37 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

chiathepet,
I am finding it hard to digest that any Mistress/Master would actually sit ideally by, while her submissive is doing all the work. Call me what you want to, but I have my share of work around the house. We both cook, clean and do laundry.
 
I can't imagine there are Dominants who live in a 24/7 with their submissve, and expect, (Demands) their sub to do it all, without their Mistress/Master doing anything to help. 
 
I live in a 24/7 relationship. I have never demanded or commanded my sub to do anything. He stated in another thread, that he does what he does for me, out of his love for me, and he does. I won't try to fix what isn't broken. I can't compare him to any of my past subs, because he is very head-strong and very verbal if he feels he is being "commanded". My last sub, all I had to do was ask him once and he was up and fetching. Not all subs are equal, I am in the process of learning that. One rule I have is he is not to holler for me from another room. I apply that to myself as well.  For us, it works.
 
For what it's worth, I will not hesitate to get up and clean the kitchen, even if my sub is sitting on the couch watching TV. It is important to me to be able to do these things, because of my medical condition. Don't get me wrong, on my bad days, he is right there doing for me anything he can.
 
I don't judge or criticize another Dominant for doing what they do, even if it is nothing. That is how they run their home. It is not how *I* run mine.
 
Peace, and OP, welcome to CM!
 
MoGa

ETA: OP, yes it is. Anything is possible with regards to wiitwd. Good luck on your search.


Ummm... welllll.... Keep in mind that when twice isn't feeling well both of us will pick up the slack... ok? No problem. But normally she cooks, cleans, does the laundry, takes care of the yard, preventative maint. on the vehicles and some of the repair work on the bikes. Pretty much everything from keeping up the paperwork for the taxes and doctors and meds to handing out those same meds when they are required. And on the weekends she absolutely loves to bath Scooter. She braids his hair every morning before work, prepares breakfast, makes the coffee, packs his lunch and even starts the car ahead of time if it's cold outside. Beyond that she is an incredible care taker of her cat and parrotlet, her room looks more like a greenhouse because of all the plants that can no longer be outside because of the cold. And then... when she isn't busy, she helps the neighbors take care of their flower gardens, teaches the neighbors daughter how to cook and garden and is an avid reader.
 
And people wonder why I keep saying... NO you can't have her!!
 
And I do... well... pretty much what ever I'm in the mood to do at the time.
 
I'm gonna direct her to this thread so that she can tell people that she isn't abused... she really is spoiled rotten!!
 
Sorry MoGa... I'm one of those.
 
Jewel


Jewel,
I suppose I am the opposite. But..it comes from being so sick these past two years. Relying on family to take care of my every need, to the point of them crippling me more. One of the reasons that I am so happy now, is that I am doing more for myself. I cook, clean and do laundry and I am loving every moment of it. I have limited time left and I don't intend to waste it sitting on my butt doing nothing. I know that sounds harsh, but it is the truth. I am not judging anyone's life or the way they lead it. I was simply stating how I lead my life.

quote:

Ohhhhhh..... believe it, lady! [&:]

Caught me at a bad moment. Yes of course I know that there are Dominants out there who do very little to help with chores.

quote:

Gosh M of Ga, I really wasn't trying to feed ya anything here, much less make a statement that Dominants are lazy. (Though I'm sure some exist somewhere out here at the collarme hive) The OP stated his desire to assume the traditional
female role in a relationship, and I obliged in a light-hearted manner, applying
what many females experience during a typical family morning. Overdone more
than likely, most assuredly cli-che ridden, and blatantly out there. I don't do small.

I think more than a few females, and yes, some males, can identify with the
madness of the morning I spun here. Twas not commentary nor judgement
of either Dominant or submissive. A relationship will be what it is allowed to be.

Not that I'm not appreciative of your well balanced relationship with your own
submissive, it's just that it means more to him here than me. I merely wished to
remove the Op from his fishnet fantasy into the more mundane if not satisfying
role many, certainly not all, females have known and love. Mine was more about
portraying the female role beyond cute skirts, lip rouge and curtsies, into the
zone of reality of the ordinary day to day. Her strength to cope speaks for itself.

For me, this was more about females rather than Dominants or submissives.
But hey, if you don't mind fetching a brewskie for the boy, more power to ya.
And of course anything is possible on this glorious little globe of ours. That's
why they sell ruffled skirts in Big and Tall sizes, and come-fuck-me pumps
big enough to fit sasquatch. But the reality is, dressing up and playing a female,
is just that. Few men could actually fill the shoes they walk in day to day.

But thanks for sharing your passion, and what the heck, yell at him from the
other room every now and then, just to keep his reflexes honed. 

chia* (the pet)


You are just too cute [:D] Thank you as always for just being you! <hugs>

quote:

Oh it's not that hard to do MistressOfGa.  In fact some wife type men would prefer you stay out of their way anyway.   For myself, if I'm in a relationship where I feel I need to be doing equal amounts of housework because he doesn't like to be commanded, I call that relationship vanilla.   M


Oh boy, did I ever give the wrong impression here. We do not have a vanilla relationship, far from it. It is ME who wants to help. He is the first to take a dish towel out of my hands if I even look like I am going to clean. I want to do these things. It doesn't make me any less dominant or him any less submissive. I delight in the knowledge that I still can do these things around the house. There will come a time when I will not be able to. For the past two years in Phoenix I felt as though I was a ghost in my own home. I was just there and no one saw the person that I was, they only saw my illness. I feel like for the first time in a long time, I matter. Me and not what is wrong with me.
 
I didn't mean to strike a nerve in anyone. I am pretty verbal and I tend to let my fingers go when I see something I feel pretty passionate about. But I am now looking on the bright side, I haven't really had anyone respond to my posts in a while and I am reassured that I am not on everyone's ignore list <bg>







MissEnchanted -> RE: Male wife (10/27/2008 7:06:31 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Domestcgent

It is my desire to be the "wife" of a strict, dominant female. I am not so much into all the BDSM things, though I have nothing against them, but rather desire to be in a relationship with a woman where I take on the traditional female role, including potentially crossdressing to one extent or another. Is being a male wife without all the BDSM trappings possible?


Domest,

Check these out:
http://www.collarchat.com/m_946070/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#946070

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2232257/tm.htm

for the record:
The OP said:,  ('including potentially crossdressing to one extent or another')

Welcome to the forums Domest

ME



ShiftedJewel -> RE: Male wife (10/27/2008 2:19:08 PM)

MoGa... I absolutely understand that!! And I love your attitude and energy!
 
Admittedly I told Scooter when we first met that my only domestic quality is that I live in a house!! I will cook and clean, I do laundry and grocery shopping... when there is no one else to do it. I would much rather be working on drywall, or painting, or puttering around in the garage. I have a blue million "projects" going on. I crochette, cross-stitch, sew and make floggers and that type of toys, I really do stay busy most of the time. But the housework thing?? Not my thing in life. lol
 
Jewel



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