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Jeptha -> RE: guidance to a slave from experienced Masters (10/27/2008 11:01:08 AM)
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ORIGINAL: antipode
Don't blame everything on the master guy - you picked him, you're there because you wanted to be. You've clearly picked someone who has no respect for you - so you need to take this as a positive, and use it as an incentive for you to go out and find a dom who will help you grow, and be fair to you.
In general, I concur with others that the "rule setting" is a ridiculous way of domming, or mastering - in my opinion just as stupid as insisting on being called "Sir" or "Master". I tend to think that men who do that stuff, who read their sub's email, what have you, are intrinsically insecure males devoid of creativity - the telling thing is that they all do exactly the same stuff. I am a controller too, but to let you do detail reports of your day - what would I get out of that? How do these types even have time for that?
Enough of a rant, get out of there, I hope you have learned what the danger signals are that you need to look out for. And remember: he broke the rules by planning to bang another chick, so the rules (all of them) no longer apply, that is always the deal. You are free.
I agree with all that, and particularly with the first sentence.
Take personal responsibility for what you do and where you're at and it will empower you to make clearer decisions in the future.
Edited to say: Upon a moment's reflection, I'm not sure I can say he "has no respect for you". Though it does sound bad, I certainly don't know him that well. This might just be his ham-headed way of trying to get a little fantasy that he's always wanted (or whatever) to happen. You might be able to remind him of the conditions that you agreed upon and that would be that.
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