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subslaveme -> RE: To give a gift to a Mistress when first Meeting them (10/27/2008 11:06:08 AM)

Thanks for all the ideas, it is funny, because, when I try to date in a vanilla  relationship. I would never think of bringing  a gift to a first date. Someone said I should, and I did, but ended up saying it was not my idea. Maybe I want to be good at this. lol.




lateralist1 -> RE: To give a gift to a Mistress when first Meeting them (10/27/2008 1:48:57 PM)

If someone brought me anything to do with BDSM on the first date I would hate it.
It really does depend on the relationship before you meet.
If you have read these message boards well enough you will know by now that there are all kinds of BDSM relationships.
So stick to something appropriate to the kind of relatonship you are seeking.
Oh and make sure before you meet that you have the same mindset about the relationship as the Domme you are meeting.
If she's only interested in no strings cleaning and you want a romantic relationship then you are both going to be disappointed.
Ask questions politely don't assume anything.
And don't offer your submission until you know what you are getting yourself into.
Take it very very slowly. I'm put off by any man offering me his submission before he knows me well. Believe it or not I want a man who will only be submissive to me.
Not any woman.




SomethingCatchy -> RE: To give a gift to a Mistress when first Meeting them (10/27/2008 1:58:14 PM)

I enjoy small thoughtful gifts like a flower in my favorite color or maybe a book on a topic I'd mentioned I was interested in. It definitely earns the giver brownie points!




hereyesruponyou -> RE: To give a gift to a Mistress when first Meeting them (10/27/2008 4:52:22 PM)

I often have required a small token when we meet. I have sometimes put a limit on the amoung to spend ($1 or $5) or said it must be something that they did not buy. This makes it more difficult and requires real thought, which is the point for me.

I did not place a limit for my pet, just asked for something that would remind me of him. When we met he gave me a gift bag with a small notebook with puppies on it (after all he is my pet), and hershey kisses. I knew from the wrappers they were not regular kisses, so i looked closely and saw they were vanilla yogurt filled kisses. I must have looked puzzled because he seemed concerned i ddi not like them, so i asked why those. Well, he nad i had been discussing nutrition lately and we are both trying to eat healthier, so his reasoning was he wanted to give me chocolate, but he thought that with the yogurt label these might not be as bad for you. Now THAT shows thought.

More importantly, i told him early on about my allergies to most scents. There is only one i have found i can tolerate regularly. When i walked into the room i realized there was a cologne scent and my immediate thought was, oh no...i am going to be a snuffly mess! But it didn;t happen and when i checked his cologne? it was the right scent. I should have known...he is very eager to please. I didn't mention it to him, but it really warmed my heart.




StrictnSaucy -> RE: To give a gift to a Mistress when first Meeting them (10/27/2008 5:35:45 PM)

Personally a gift on a first date would be a ickky for me.  3rd or 4th date- something small and thoughtful would be appreciated.




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