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Rover -> RE: How do you feel about being asked? (10/27/2008 6:36:10 PM)
Cripes, get a room, you two. ;) John

persephonee -> RE: How do you feel about being asked? (10/27/2008 6:37:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: antipode Good for you. The only question mark I always experience - drat, the Dow lost 200 points in the last 10 minutes of trading, what the f*** is going on? - my question mark, not to do with you, is that I find many of the really young 'uns tend to say what they think you want to hear. Doesn't matter what you agree. And that can include asking for things they wouldn't ordinarily. And then complain afterwards. The funniest was the ex-sub who sued me for ownership of "her" photography. After I pointed out to her legal eagle that she had relinquished all rights in emails, and that those have the power of contract, I didn't hear from them again. You gotta be really confused to be from Utah and try this on a Manhattanite.... Right? Don't these people watch Law and Order? (Nothing wrong with Utah, I hasten to add, or any other flyover state, it just sounds so assertive to say that [8D]) Fly over state....charming. end of hijack. perse.

persephonee -> RE: How do you feel about being asked? (10/27/2008 6:40:21 PM)
if they get a room, im calling in sick to work and coming too. perse

SimplyMichael -> RE: How do you feel about being asked? (10/27/2008 6:41:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rover Cripes, get a room, you two. ;) John Oh, but it is so much more fun in public! Intelligent, perverted, AND beautiful, whats not to love?

faithbunny -> RE: How do you feel about being asked? (10/27/2008 7:00:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder Master enjoys when I ask for something that he knows I downright hate or would never do for anyone else. He likes that I do it to please him and make him happy but yet it comes straight from me and my surrender to him. You know, I can't think of a single thing my beloved likes that I still hate. I'm so proud of myself when I make it through something that is tough on me to please him, and him stroking my hair and telling me what a good girl I am is such a strong motivator for me, that I always end up craving even the things that hurt and still kinda scare me. ~faith

KnightofMists -> RE: How do you feel about being asked? (10/27/2008 7:04:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: allthatjaz I found this really interesting and wondered if other dominants felt this way? I am not saying that S doesn't take the lead, he's certainly more than capable of doing that but he enjoys it more when he knows that this is what I really want. I enjoy knowing what my girls want..... Because its ssssssssssssoooooooooo much fun to have them regret that they asked for it.... the old saying "Becareful what you ask for"

KMsAngel -> RE: How do you feel about being asked? (10/28/2008 2:37:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael Woman, some days you just melt my heart into a puddle of goo. Oh, and have you ever seen how LLamas mate? He forces his mate into the ground and mounts her while biting her neck and forcing her head into the dirt. So yeah, I am up for it! Now, what are we going to smear all over each other to get the feathers to stick, I can only produce so much "glue"... treacle or molasses. though with golden syrup (sweeter) at least you could lick/bite/scratch it off each other. though molasses has iron, calcium and potassium. though you COULD have it in the form of licorice whips and ... er... whip it? [:D] i gots some golden syrup in the cupboard. if i bring it with can i watch?? [8D]

allthatjaz -> RE: How do you feel about being asked? (10/28/2008 5:26:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael quote: ORIGINAL: Rover Cripes, get a room, you two. ;) John Oh, but it is so much more fun in public! Intelligent, perverted, AND beautiful, whats not to love? I wish you two would stop it..... I'm getting all turned on now [:)]

allthatjaz -> RE: How do you feel about being asked? (10/28/2008 5:28:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KnightofMists quote: ORIGINAL: allthatjaz I found this really interesting and wondered if other dominants felt this way? I am not saying that S doesn't take the lead, he's certainly more than capable of doing that but he enjoys it more when he knows that this is what I really want. I enjoy knowing what my girls want..... Because its ssssssssssssoooooooooo much fun to have them regret that they asked for it.... the old saying "Becareful what you ask for" I can't say I have ever regreted asking for something. I have questioned myself and I have been really frightened but then fear is hot is it not?

allthatjaz -> RE: How do you feel about being asked? (10/28/2008 5:34:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rover On the other hand, I don't feel constrained to wait to be asked for something either. I'm not a service Top. John Service top? This is not all about him just as its not all about me. This is about us. If I asked him for something and he said no then I would possibly never ask again. I don't tell him how to dominate me, I guide him down routes I want to go and know full well he wants to go to. I believe that a sub does need to guide her Dom/Master for the simple reason that nobody knows her better than she knows herself.

VampiresLair -> RE: How do you feel about being asked? (10/28/2008 5:35:36 AM)
I am no mind reader. I will not sit on my laurels and wait for Fox to ask for everything but I certainly do appreciate it when he does. Sometimes what he asks for is something I hadnt even thought about, but it is a good idea. Sometimes, when he asks, its something brand new we have yet to try and I wasnt sure if he would be into it or not. With him, since he is completely new and all his firsts have been with me, my rule of thumb is I do not ask for tings I already know he gets into. I do wait for him to ask, or suggest or hint at something completely new simply because when he is ready to try it he will do so. I dont want to force new issues and run the risk of making what could have been a great experience a bad one because of the preasure of making me happy. Luckily, Fox is very comfortable telling me what he wants, thinks or his ideas. DV

trappedinamuseum -> RE: How do you feel about being asked? (10/28/2008 5:38:59 AM)
That is because he rocks... You do too of course.... [:D] Dammit BSB, I need to start skipping over your posts...

Rover -> RE: How do you feel about being asked? (10/28/2008 5:42:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: allthatjaz quote: ORIGINAL: Rover On the other hand, I don't feel constrained to wait to be asked for something either. I'm not a service Top. John Service top? This is not all about him just as its not all about me. This is about us. If I asked him for something and he said no then I would possibly never ask again. I don't tell him how to dominate me, I guide him down routes I want to go and know full well he wants to go to. I believe that a sub does need to guide her Dom/Master for the simple reason that nobody knows her better than she knows herself. Yes, service Top. If I waited to be asked to do something all the time, rather than making my own suggestions, then I'd simply be serving the Topping needs of a submissive. Hence the term "service Top". Perhaps you misread my passage, or took it out of context? John

LadyPact -> RE: How do you feel about being asked? (10/29/2008 6:37:14 AM)
I do like being asked. I'm more of the mind that, the majority of the time, I want us to mutually enjoy whatever it is we are going to do, from our perspective sides of the activity. It's only once in a while that I get that special yen to do something that I know isn't going to be enjoyed. That's why I prefer masochists more often than those who are willing to endure things for Me. I see being asked in a certain light. If someone wants to make a suggestion, or is interested in a certain activity that comes up in conversation, I'll tell them that I'm making a mental note on the idea. They can remind Me again at a later time that it is still something they are interested in, and that's fine, too. If it's something that comes up day after day, to Me, that's nagging, and the less likely they are to get it. I'm very much like John/Rover in that respect. I'm not a service top, and I'm not here just to fulfill the needs of the other side of the kneel.

allthatjaz -> RE: How do you feel about being asked? (10/29/2008 7:06:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact I do like being asked. I'm more of the mind that, the majority of the time, I want us to mutually enjoy whatever it is we are going to do, from our perspective sides of the activity. It's only once in a while that I get that special yen to do something that I know isn't going to be enjoyed. That's why I prefer masochists more often than those who are willing to endure things for Me. I see being asked in a certain light. If someone wants to make a suggestion, or is interested in a certain activity that comes up in conversation, I'll tell them that I'm making a mental note on the idea. They can remind Me again at a later time that it is still something they are interested in, and that's fine, too. If it's something that comes up day after day, to Me, that's nagging, and the less likely they are to get it. I'm very much like John/Rover in that respect. I'm not a service top, and I'm not here just to fulfill the needs of the other side of the kneel. I think 'mental notes' is a great way of describing this. We share a fem sub and she asks us for nothing but we, all three of us sit chatting into the early hours. She never asks but gives clues of things that she has done, things that she dreams about or relates a story to something that happened to a friend of hers and in turn we take mental notes and may use these at later dates. I think nagging is something very different. I have had subs that nag and the only thing they get out of it is my front door. I lived with a male sub for some time and all I ever got was 'play with me' and it nearly drove me insane. I think its more a case of knowing how my man ticks. I know he's pretty deep and dark and I understand too that many subs wouldn't want to go to those places with him but I'm a sick bitch that takes note of things he has mentioned, goes away and thinks about it and decides if it turns me on or not. I ask for what I know he loves but I don't do it for him, I do it for us and always without regret.

allthatjaz -> RE: How do you feel about being asked? (10/29/2008 7:08:54 AM)
Sorry Rover, I did misunderstand. I did not read the word 'waiting'

suhlut -> RE: How do you feel about being asked? (10/29/2008 7:15:24 AM)
i also tend to like asking , but all at the same time using the delicate art of not making it seem that im topping from the bottom..lol

IronBear -> RE: How do you feel about being asked? (10/29/2008 7:39:45 AM)
Any slave owner by me persoonally or by Bruin Cottage can ask anytime he or she wants. How or even if I will respond will depend largely on how the question was asked, if it was asked at an appropriate time or indeed if the question is appropriate. Remember asking is only 1/3 of the issue the other 2/3s are acknowledgement of the request and action taken or not taken regarding the request. When dealing with the perennial pest, I tend to develop selective hearing and if the dronning continues after being told to wait, I'll reach for something reasonably long, flexable, and broad to swat the pesky gnat hard.

MasterIan2u -> RE: How do you feel about being asked? (10/29/2008 8:04:41 AM)
dear m,how good to be a part of this thread,i did not know that you had a Dom at all,i would have loved to have done the piercing to you myself but alas it was not ment to be.i would have enjoyed getting to know you.take care.drop me a note if you ever read this Master Ian.............. stay well and happy

daviduk1 -> RE: How do you feel about being asked? (10/29/2008 9:57:02 AM)
How do I feel about being asked ? well, I really dont mind at all ( at times ) as long as it isnt an expectation. I wont allow topping from the bottom, however, I do know sometimes it can be fun to be asked or even begged ( tries to hide a <weg>. Seems some have very precious indded fragile egos and are scared that they may lose their "Domliness" if they dare to listen to a submissive. lol Wanders off chuckling David

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