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LadyPact -> RE: Is it rude to say "No thanks" and block someone? (10/28/2008 5:54:42 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Thunderbird56
For what it's worth, here's my view on the whole "response" thing. If you have placed an *ad* here *asking* for certain people to respond to it and they do ... you *owe* them a reply. IProbably not the first time, but if several attempts all respond to him this way he may see the light. In fact, for a few seconds of effort, you could start someone down a whole new and better life.
That doesn't mean you have to put up with it. He gets ONE chance. If the filth continues past your first reply then you can block knowing that you at least made an effort to try and help.
I can understand that it must get frustrating, but I think simple manors and common courtesy still indicate a simple reply.
Myself, I have on occasion sent mail to ads that obviously aren't looking for me. I have done so *only* as a gesture of friendship and helpfulness. To point out something ambiguous or contradictory in their profile, or make a polite suggestion or what have you. To see those efforts rewarded with a "unread/deleted" is rude. Once, someone actually made the change in profile I suggested, yet still could not be bothered to say a simple thank you or send any reply at all.
Perhaps I'm just unrealistic and expect too much from our computer society?
Just a little something that I want to point out here.
It's the internet. Just because I have signed onto the site doesn't mean that I have to read or respond to anything and everything that someone shoots into My mailbox. I look at it the same way as I do junk mail. Just because I happen to have an address, doesn't necessarily mean that I want fliers from the local insurance agent, cell phone companies, or carpet cleaning company. I don't owe any of those mailings a reply any more than I owe a reply to people here if I chose not to write one.
I'm sorry to say it, but I think you are unrealistic in thinking the computer society is going to take time out of their day to respond to everyone. This is especially true if the information in a person's profile has already answered the question sent, or allows the person sending the email to know automatically there is no interest due to such things like age, location, or marital status. Personally, I happen to think it's rude to waste the time of someone who has specifically pointed out such matters in a profile, it goes unread, and they see fit to waste My time anyway.
Don't think that the spammers, mass mailers, and chat types do it once and then go away. They don't. I've sent several emails out to folks who send the same silliness over and over every month or two. After the second time, I generally ask them if they don't bother to keep track of the people who have already rejected them. I've found it saves My personal time to be rid of them the first time around.
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