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RE: being upfront about needs - 12/15/2005 9:45:26 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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Men are very simplistic in their thoughts, women are complex.

Oo, I will have to disagree with that. I do agree with you that people communicate differently, and that is an important thing to consider.

LOL after a fabulous evening with my local partner who then got jealous because I made phone calls to my other partners and then got guilty over getting jealous and then got guilty over GETTING GUILTY...yeesh.

So then I snuggled him on my lap, reassured him of what his mind was already telling him, let him know that I prefer making phone calls solo as he knows and why he's been spoiled about it but that he WILL have to relearn to share me and that I still love him and want him around.

As far as Jenny- that whole "just need to tweak thing" that sounds WAY too much like ignoring a real issue and hoping it fixes itself AND trying to change someone rather than just accepting who they are.

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RE: being upfront about needs - 12/16/2005 2:54:19 AM

sweetpettjenny

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we saw each other last night and we did "tweak" things. Neither of us is ignoring the problem. He ended up not sleeping most of wednesday night , making sure He outlined specifically what his rules and expectations are for me . He knows that i need set parameters now and made sure He set them up. This is to benefit us and He is willing to do whatever it takes and so am i to make us work correctly. This relationship is working towards Master/slave and i want so badly to serve Him in the ways He needs without me messing it up...hence rules...hence Expectations.

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RE: being upfront about needs - 12/16/2005 7:53:06 AM

krikket

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How wonderful (and fortunate) that both of you are willing to talk, communicate and work on what you both need. It's not easy, but well worth it..and so very, very rare.

Congrats...
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ORIGINAL: sweetpettjenny

we saw each other last night and we did "tweak" things. Neither of us is ignoring the problem. He ended up not sleeping most of wednesday night , making sure He outlined specifically what his rules and expectations are for me . He knows that i need set parameters now and made sure He set them up. This is to benefit us and He is willing to do whatever it takes and so am i to make us work correctly. This relationship is working towards Master/slave and i want so badly to serve Him in the ways He needs without me messing it up...hence rules...hence Expectations.

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When your heart speaks take good notes.

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